Umxholo
- Thetha naye
- Qwalasela
- Phuma kwisiqhelo sakho ngezikhathi ezithile
- Yenza into kunye engaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela.
- Mhlekise
- Yazi ukuthanda komfazi wakho, kwaye ubakhuthaze
- Mphathe
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Unomtshato omnandi kunye nosapho olonwabileyo. Kodwa uyaqonda ukuba unganolwalamano olungcono nenkosikazi yakho ngokufunda ukomeleza unxibelelwano lwakho lweemvakalelo kuye.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungalwenza njani unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo emtshatweni?
Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokuzama ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye nenkosikazi yakho kunye nokwenza kwaye uqinise unxibelelwano olomeleleyo kunye naye, uqinisekise umtshato owonwabileyo ogcwele unxibelelwano kunye nemvakalelo yomanyano.
Thetha naye
Abasetyhini bayathanda ukuthetha, kwaye bayathanda xa amadoda abo ethatha ixesha lokuhlala phantsi kwaye axoxe ngenene ngezinto nabo. Apho amadoda asebenzisa incoko ukuhambisa ulwazi, abafazi basebenzisa incoko ukunxibelelana nabanye.
Ukuhlangabezana nesidingo sakhe sokuthetha kunye nokwabelana nazo zonke iinkcukacha kunye neetangents malunga nesihloko esisesandleni ngokuba nenxaxheba ebonakalayo kwincoko.
Oku kukunceda ngendlela yokuxhasa umfazi wakho ngokweemvakalelo. Ibonisa ukuba ufumana ixabiso kwizimvo zakhe, ezimsondeza kuwe.
Akukho nto ityhafisa ubudlelwane ngokukhawuleza kunokungahoyi iqabane lakho okanye ukungasiqondi isidingo sencoko. Wakhe wabona omnye wabo bantu batshatileyo umtshato wabo ubonakala ngathi uyindawo yokuhlala ngaphezu kwesibini sokwenyani- apho kunentetho encinci ngomlomo, kwaye indoda iphendula imibuzo yomfazi ngemigcobo emincinci?
Sukuba sesi sibini. Ke, unxibelelana njani nomfazi wakho?
Incoko yakho ayisoloko imalunga nezihloko ezikhulu.
Ukuhlala nje phambi kokuba imisebenzi yangokuhlwa yoyise wonke umntu kwaye kulungelane enye nenye kwanele ukuba unganxibelelana njani ngokwasemoyeni kunye nenkosikazi yakho kwaye umbonise ukuba lolunye lolona lonwabo lwakho lukhulu kukuva into ayithethayo.
Qwalasela
Ukuba ufuna iindlela zokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo nomfazi wakho, yenza okungaphaya kokunikela ingqalelo.
Chaza zonke iindlela ezintle ezongezwa ngumfazi wakho ebomini bakho. Kwaye hayi kuphela ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe. Veza umbulelo wakho ngendlela alawula ngayo iimfuno zomntu wonke endlwini; indlela azikhathalela ngayo yena lonke ixesha ngelixa kufuneka enomdla kwabanye; ubacingela njani abazali bakho.
Ukuchaza ukuxabisa kwakho ubuninzi beentlobo ezintle umfazi wakho azenzayo suku ngalunye kuya kongeza kunxibelelwano lwakho lweemvakalelo "i-akhawunti yebhanki" kwaye umenze azive eyaziwayo kwaye enethamsanqa lokuba nawe njengendoda. Kungenxa yokuba ngokwenene Yabona yena nayo yonke into ayenzayo, iya kuqinisekisa ukuba awumhoyi umfazi wakho.
Phuma kwisiqhelo sakho ngezikhathi ezithile
Akukho nto ijika iimvakalelo zibe kukudikwa ngokukhawuleza kuneshedyuli engqongqo engaphambuki.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uphinde ulibuyisele ivili suku ngalunye, kodwa wenze ezinye ezincinci, ezingalindelekanga kwiindlela zakho kube kanye okanye kabini ngenyanga.
Ke, unganxibelelana njani ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho?
Endaweni yomhla wesidlo sakho seveki ngeveki, dibana naye kwisidlo sasemini. (Ukuba ungakwenza oku njengothusayo, amanqaku ebhonasi!). Ngamaxesha onke uye kwikhabhathi ngeholide yasehlotyeni? Amasiko anexabiso lawo, kodwa kutheni ungabhukiseli iholide exotic kulo nyaka? Inqaku kukugcina izinto zingabikho kwaye ujonge phambili ekucwangciseni izinto ezintsha kunye ukuze uhlale uxhulumene ngokweemvakalelo.
Yenza into kunye engaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba xa abantu abatshatileyo benamava kwaye bedibana nomceli mngeni kunye, kuyonyusa ukuqonda kwabo konxibelelwano. Kufana nokungxama kwe-adrenaline kuguqulela kwimvakalelo yokubopha.
Thatha iklasi yokunyuka amatye, okanye uzame umceli mngeni wokubaleka kunye njengeendlela zokudibanisa imvakalelo kunye nenkosikazi yakho.
Ukwazi ukuba nina nobabini ninamava emngciphekweni kwaye niphume phezu kwawo kuya kuninika umbono wobunye.
Mhlekise
Enye yeempendulo zendlela onxibelelana ngayo nomntu wasetyhini kukwenza ukuba uncume, nangcono, ukumenza ahleke!
"Ukuhleka yinto ephambili," ngokutsho kwamaFrentshi, abadume ngeendlela zabo zokulukuhla. Kodwa ukucaphukisa uncumo lwakhe akulunganga nje ukujika umfazi wakho; ikwayindlela entle yokudibanisa ngokweemvakalelo nomfazi wakho.
Ukusuka kwiziqhulo zangaphakathi ezakhiwe kwiminyaka yakho kunye kunye ne-riffs kwinto eyenzekayo kwihlabathi namhlanje, sebenzisa umdlalo wokuhlekisa unxibelelwano lwakho olusenyongweni nesiqingatha sakho esingcono. (Isenokuba sisasazisi esingquzulanayo esiluncedo ukuba ufumene uqhwithela phezulu.)
Yazi ukuthanda komfazi wakho, kwaye ubakhuthaze
Ukuba ulahlekelwe yintlantsi emtshatweni kwaye uqhubeka uzibuza, "Ungaphinda unxibelelane njani nomfazi wam umazise ukuba uthetha umhlaba kum?" Nantsi impendulo:
Umfazi wakho ufumana uvuyo olukhulu kwizinto azithandayo nakwimisebenzi yakhe kwaye uyamthanda xa umbuza ngazo. Awudingi ukuzibandakanya kuzo.
Ngapha koko, kuyinzuzo kulwalamano lwakho ukuba naye abe nento eyeyakhe. Kodwa xa ubonakalisa umdla kwezi zinto zokuzonwabisa, inceda unxibelelwano lwakho.
Kwaye uyakuthanda ukubona ubuso bakhe bukhanya njengoko echaza umceli mngeni omtsha awadibana nawo kwiqela lakhe leyoga okanye indlela acinge ngayo ukuba angongeza njani imifanekiso kwiwebhusayithi ayakhayo.
Mphathe
Thatha isandla sakhe xa uphuma kwaye malunga. Beka ingalo yakho kuye njengoko ubukele umabonwakude.
Mnike irabha egxalabeni njengokuba ehlamba izitya. Zonke ezi zinto zingahambelani nezesondo zidlulisela unxibelelwano lwakho lweemvakalelo kuye.
Ingcebiso yebhonasi: musa ukuthintela ukubamba kwakho kwisandulela sesini.
Ukuthetha ngezandulela zesini:
Owona mfanekiso uphambili uqala entliziyweni nasengqondweni. Ukuba utyala imali ekunxibelelaneni ngokweemvakalelo, uya kubona ukuba oko kukhokelela kunxibelelwano olukhulu ngokwesondo.
Uninzi lwabasetyhini alunakusuka kwi-zero liye ebhedini ngaphandle kokuziva uqiniseko lwe-bond bond ngokweemvakalelo kuqala.
Qaphela oku, kwaye uyakubona ukuba idlala njani ngokuzayo xa unengxoxo emnandi kakhulu apho nobabini niziva nivumelane ngokupheleleyo. Ngokunokwenzeka kunokuba kungenjalo, loo ngxoxo iya kukuthatha kwitafile iye kwigumbi lokulala.
Kungenxa yokuba uya kufuna ukwandisa olovakalelo lokudibana. Iya kuthi ke ngoku ikunike indlela yokunxibelelana nomfazi wakho.
Funda kwakhona: Into ekufuneka uyenzile xa uziva ungadibani ngokweemvakalelo nomyeni wakho
UkuThathwa kokuGqibela
Unxibelelwano ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane kuhlala kungaphantsi. Xa isibini siqala ukuziva sikude, endaweni yokufuna uncedo, bathambekele ekuyibekiseni amangomso.
Ewe, kulapho ingxaki iqala khona. Kubalulekile ukuqonda imiqondiso yokuqala yokuqhawulwa kwemvakalelo kwaye uthathe amanyathelo kwangoko.
Kwividiyo engezantsi, ugqirha wezengqondo uMary Jo Rapini uthetha ngento eyenzekayo xa uziva uhluthwe ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane kunye nendlela yokudibanisa neqabane lakho ngokweemvakalelo.
Indoda, ebeka amandla ekuphuculeni unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kunye nenkosikazi yayo, yenza umsebenzi obalulekileyo ekwenzeni umtshato owomeleleyo. Le migudu ayizukufezekiswa ngaphandle komvuzo.
Umfazi, naye, uya kuqinisekisa ukuba umyeni wakhe uziva exhaswa kwaye onwabile kubudlelwane. Izibonelelo zolu tyalo-mali azinamda kwaye ziya kuqhubeka ukuziveza ngokuhamba kwexesha.