Umxholo
Ngaba abantu bafanele bahlawulele iziphoso zabo?
Uxolelo lunokuba nzima, ngakumbi ukuba sikholelwa kubulungisa nakubulungisa. Uninzi lwamaxesha esicinga ukuba abantu mabohlwaywe ngokuziphatha gwenxa. Oku kunokwenza ukuba ukuxolela kube nzima.
Uxolelo luthetha ukuba uyiyeka ingqumbo. Kuthetha ukuba uyeke ukuba nomsindo kwaye uyeke lonke ibango lokohlwaya.
Kuninzi ukubuza kumntu oneqabane elingathembekanga.
Umva wokungathembeki
Uxolelo asikokukhanyela.
Ayenzi ngathi ukungathembeki akuzange kwenzeke.
Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayikuxhasi ukungaziphathi kakuhle.
Ukuxolela kubalulekile ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nifuna ukushiya ixesha elidlulileyo ngasemva kwaye niqale ukuya kwikamva eliqaqambileyo.
Isiqhelo esiqhelekileyo sokungathembeki sikude nekamva eliqaqambileyo elitsha. Isiphumo emva koku kubandakanya umsindo, ukothuka, ukwala kunye nomnqweno onamandla wokuziphindezela. Kunzima ukubeka ezi mvakalelo ecaleni.
Iimvakalelo zinzima kwaye zinzima. Unokuziva unomsindo kwiqabane lakho, ngelixa usamthanda kakhulu. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi xa benikunye iminyaka emininzi. Ngaphandle kobuqhetseba bokungathembeki uyakwazi ukulixolela iqabane lakho- ngexesha elifanelekileyo- kwaye nibe nobudlelwane obungcono.
Amaqabane asinda ekutshatyalalisweni kokungathembeki aya esomelela kwaye esondelelene ngakumbi. Kuya kuthatha ixesha, kodwa ukuba usebenza kwiingxaki zakho kunye kuyenzeka.
Xa kusekho uthando ...
Ukuba iqabane lakho libuhlungu ngezenzo zalo kwaye ukuba uyakwazi ukuxolela kwaye kusekho uthando, emva koko kukho indlela yokuphuma kule mva.
Emva kwezigaba zokuqala zomothuko, umsindo kunye nokuziphindezela kuya kuza ixesha lokuba ukwazi ukuvumela izinto zihambe. Unokuba uzimisele ukuxolela kwaye uqale ukwakha ukuthembana kwakhona.
Kunzima ukuthemba iqabane lakho ukuba likukhohlisile, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ukuze uthembe kwakhona uza kudinga ixesha lokupholisa amanxeba akho. Enye yeendlela zokuphucula inkqubo kukuba iqabane lakho lizise onke amakhadi alo etafileni kwaye livule kwaye lithembeke. Kuphela kuxa inyani iphume ngokupheleleyo apho ungaphinda ufumane ukuthembela kuwe nakumaqabane akho kwakhona.
Nobabini neqabane lakho kuya kufuneka nizinikele kule nkqubo. Kuya kuthatha ixesha. Kuya kuba nzima. Kodwa iya kuba kufanelekile.
Ngaphandle kwesiseko sokuthemba awunakuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni, obulungileyo. Kodwa emva kokungathembeki, ukuthembana kuyatshatyalaliswa. Ukwakha ukuthembana kwakhona kuyacotha, ngelixa ukulahla ukuthembela emntwini kunokukhawuleza.
Ukuxolela njani ukungathembeki: Ukuqhubela phambili
Umcebisi ngobudlelwane unokuba luncedo kwinkqubo yokuxolela ukungathembeki.
Lo mcebisi unokukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba nicingisise ngoko kwenzekileyo. Injongo yokufumana iingcebiso kukuzazi ngakumbi, wazi iimfuno zakho kunye neqabane lakho.
Kukho into engahambanga kakuhle ngaphambili, kungenjalo iqabane lakho ngekhe liqhathe. Ngoku ayiloxesha lokukhomba ngeminwe, kodwa buza nje 'Ndinokuba liqabane elingcono njani, elinothando ngakumbi nelinomdla?'.
Ukuba nobabini nizimisele ukuba ngamaqabane angcono emva koko niya kuthi ekugqibeleni kuba amaqabane angcono. Uya kuvuna into oyihlwayeleyo.
Ukuxolela ukungathembeki yinkqubo kwaye kuthatha ezimbini. Kuthatha wena kunye nalowo kufuneka umxolele. Kuya kuthatha ukuzincama okuncinci kunye notyalo-mali-kuwe kunye neqabane lakho-ukuze nina nobabini nibe nobudlelwane obungcono nangakumbi kunye nokusondelelana kunye nokuthembana. Ukuze kwenzeke oku kuyakufuneka ujonge indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye uchonge ukuba izinto zihambe gwenxa phi. Kuyafana nakwiqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka akulungele ukuzivavanya.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba awusoze uphinde ube nomtshato owawunawo. Ikwayiloo nto kanye. Olo hlobo lomtshato aluhlali. Ke ngoku wena neqabane lakho nisakha umtshato owomeleleyo nothando ngakumbi. Abanye abantu banokungayifumani le nto. Abakuqondi ukuxolela kwakho kwiqabane lakho lokuqhatha. Ngenxa yoko kunokuba ngcono ukunciphisa iingcebiso okanye igalelo kwabanye. Asinguye wonke umntu onomdla wakho engqondweni kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayinguye wonke umntu owaziyo okanye oziva into oyaziyo okanye oyivayo. Wonke umntu wahlukile kwaye ezinye iingcebiso zabantu zihlala zilungiselelwe bona, hayi wena.
Ngale nto ithethwayo lixesha lokuvalelisa kubudlelwane obudala kunye nokwakha entsha. Umhla wokukhumbula umhla omtsha, iindlela zeendaba zokunxibelelana kunye nokuzibophelela okuhlaziyiweyo zezinye zezinto onokucinga ngazo ukuze umtshato wakho ohlaziyiweyo usebenze.