Umxholo
- Ungalubuyisa njani uthando emtshatweni wakho
- Ngaba ndingaphinda ndibuyise uthando emtshatweni kwakhona?
- 1. Cinga ngemibandela
- 2. Jonga ezinye izinto
- 3. Chonga iziqalelo
- 4. Fumana isisombululo
Kuya kufuneka ukuba uvile ngeli binzana amaxesha angamawaka ezigidi ebomini bakho - “Lungisa, sukuyiphelisa.”
Abantu bayoyika ukuya jongana nenyaniso malunga neyabo umtshato ongenaluthando kwaye uzame ukuyilungisa, nokuba ubudlelwane bufikelele kwinqanaba 'lokungabuyisi'. Bayazibuza ukuba bangayibuyisa njani into yokutshata ebilahlekile emtshatweni kwaye bachitha iiyure ezininzi bejonga i-Intanethi ukuze bafumane isisombululo esifanelekileyo kubudlelwane babo obungenaluthando.
Unokumangaliswa kukwazi ukuba kuGoogle, ukukhangela 'umtshato ongabelani ngesondo' phantse amaxesha amathathu anesiqingatha ngaphezulu kokhangelo 'ngomtshato ongonwabisiyo' kwaye amaxesha asibhozo ngaphezulu kwe 'umtshato ongenaluthando.’
Uhlala usiva abantu abatshatileyo kwihlabathi liphela benokuthi babuze lo mbuzo, "Ndiyibuyisela njani into yokuthandana emtshatweni wam?" Uyabona ukuthandana emtshatweni Ingaba lonto yi ibalulekile ukuhlala kunye nokonwaba kunye.
Kule nqaku, siza kujolisa ekuphenduleni lo mbuzo-kodwa sikholelwa ukuba impendulo ikuwe.
Kuqala ke, makhe sihlolisise umba osondeleyo- ukubuyisela njani ukuthandana emtshatweni?
Ungalubuyisa njani uthando emtshatweni wakho
Abantu abatshatileyo bavakalelwa kukuba umtshato wabo uswele uthando olwalukho ngaphambili kulwalamano. Ke, kutheni le nto ukuthandana kuphuma emtshatweni? Kutheni le nto kungabikho kuthandana emtshatweni?
Ngaphandle kwento yokuba ama-88% abantu baseMelika bathi uthando sesona sizathu siphambili sokutshata, amazinga oqhawulo-mtshato anyuke kakhulu.
Imithombo esidibene nayo yalatha kwezi meko zilandelayo kunye nezinto ezinegalelo njengezizathu zokuhla kwentlantsi.
- Ukukhula udiniwe liqabane likabani
- Ukwehla komdla, okanye ukuphindaphinda kwesondo
- Ukuphulukana "nothando lwamabhabhathane", uvakalelo lweemvakalelo oluveliswa zii-endorphins xa zithandana
- Ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukungabikho kothando
- Ukungabikho kokumangaliswa (imihla, izipho, imicimbi engacwangciswanga, kunye nezimbo zomzimba)
- Ukuthatha iqabane lakho ulijongele phantsi
- Umahluko, ukukhula ngokwahlukeneyo, okanye ukungabikho komdla oqhelekileyo
- Utshatile ngenxa yezizathu ezingalunganga, umtshato ungxamile, okanye utshate umncinci kakhulu
- Iqabane litshintshile
- Unxibelelwano olubi
- Guqula amandla, okanye ukunqongophala kwexesha ngenxa yomsebenzi kunye nezinye izibophelelo
- Ukudinwa
Mininzi eminye imiqobo ejongene nezibini ezitshatileyo, kodwa ezi zilapha ngasentla zezona zixhaphakileyo kubanikeli kwimeko yokuncipha kothando.
Ke umbuzo obalulekileyo uhlala ungaphendulwanga- uyibuyisela njani intlantsi emtshatweni?
Ngaba ndingaphinda ndibuyise uthando emtshatweni kwakhona?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo iyahluka ngokobudlelwane.
Iyaqondakala loo nto ukuthandana emva komtshato ibekwe kwi-backburner. Kodwa, akukho sizathu sokuba umtshato wothando uphume ngokupheleleyo ebomini bakho.
Ezinye zezinto ezisisiseko zenzakalisa ngakumbi kunezinye.
Kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo, iinzame zokongeza ukuthandana emtshatweni ziya kusilela ekugqibeleni, okanye azizukuvelisa siphumo sinqwenelekayo. Impendulo yokuba ungaphinde uthandane emtshatweni wakho inokuphendulwa ngcono ngokugqiba kuqala imiba esisiseko okanye izinto ezinegalelo kule ngxaki.
Amanyathelo okubuyisa uthando emtshatweni
1. Cinga ngemibandela
Hlaziya imiba ojamelene nayo, sebenzisa olu luhlu lungentla njengesikhokelo, kwaye ubhale phantsi nabaphi na abaxhasi abanokubakho njengoko beza engqondweni.
Sebenzisa olu luhlu lungentla njengesikhokelo ukuba ufuna uncedo.
2. Jonga ezinye izinto
Jonga izinto zakho. Ngoku, jikeleza ujikeleze ukusuka kwiingxelo ezimbi ukuya kwiingxelo ezintle.
Umzekelo -
Masithi inqaku lakho lithi "ukunqongophala kobudlelwane obusondeleyo" -Bhala ku "unxibelelwano olomeleleyo, ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo, uthando."
Usandula ukuchaza ukuba ungathanda ukuba oku kujongeka kanjani, okanye ukuba kujongeka njani xa iimeko bezintle.
Ukuqhubela phambili phuhlisa ibinzana lakho elifanelekileyo, cinga ukuba kungathatha ntoni, okanye ukuba kwakunjani ngaphambili xa iimeko zazikho. Ukuba usenengxaki, cinga ngamaxesha apho bekukho ubudlelwane obuninzi bemvakalelo(okanye nokuba injani imeko yakho) kwaye ubhale phantsi okwahlukileyo malunga nelo xesha.
Sebenzisa amagama, izehlo, amagama abantu, kunye nezinye iinkcazo ocinga ngazo, ezinxibelelana nememori kwaye zinentsingiselo kuwe.
3. Chonga iziqalelo
Ngoku zichonge izinto ezenze ukuba kube nakho ukuziva ukuthandana okanye iimvakalelo ezilungileyo, iintshukumo okanye imisebenzi oyikhankanyileyo kwinyathelo lakho # 2.
Ayenjani la maxesha? Yintoni eyenze waziva udibene? Yayingoobani abantu ebomini bakho? Zeziphi izimo zengqondo, imisebenzi, iimeko, okanye iimeko ezazikho ezakwenza waziva umthanda ngalo mntu?
Rekhoda ezi mpendulo ngokukhawuleza, ungakhange ucinge nzulu malunga nombuzo. Ubhala phantsi iminyhadala, abantu, iimeko, izimo zengqondo, okanye nayiphi na enye into ekuxhume ngokwasemphefumlweni ukuya kolona lonwabo luthandekayo kwiqabane lakho.
4. Fumana isisombululo
Ndiyakuvuyela! Ufumene indlela yokubuyisa ifayile ukuthandana emtshatweni.
Inyathelo lesi-3 iimpendulo zingundoqo kwikamva lakho. Ngoku kufuneka uphinde ungenise nantoni na etshintshileyo. Kwinyathelo lesi-3, uchonge iimeko, kunye neemeko ezijikeleze iimvakalelo ezilungileyo.
Ngoku uya kuqaphela iindlela onokuthi ngazo zibuyise ezo zinto kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba akunakwenzeka ukwenza njalo, jonga ukuba zeziphi izinto zokudibanisa eziphinda ziphinde zibe khona, ukudibanisa ngakumbi ngamagama okudibanisa, abantu, okanye iimvakalelo ozidibanisa neenjongo zakho. Okanye buyela emva kwaye ungeze kwiimpendulo zakho de wenze ezinye izinto ezikhokelela kwizicwangciso ezinokuthi zenziwe.
Isicwangciso esisebenzayo sisenzo.
Umzekelo -
Ukuhlaziya unxibelelwano nabahlobo bakudala wena kunye neqabane lakho nichithe ixesha, niqala kwakhona iindlela zenu zokuzilolonga, nisoloko ninika iqabane lakho irabha yeenyawo ngexesha lokulala.