Umxholo
- Kutheni abazali abagxothiweyo beneengxaki zokungenisa abantwana
- Banxibelelana njani abantwana bodwa
- Ungabanceda njani abantwana bakho baphumelele kwihlabathi elikhutshiweyo
- Ungabafundisa njani ukukhuselana
- Ungayisombulula njani ukungavisisani phakathi komzali okhulelweyo
- Sombulula iimbambano nge
- Ungaboyikisi njani abantwana bakho ngeemvakalelo zakho?
Ngaba ukhe unqwenele ukuba abantwana bakho bangazenzekelayo kwaye baphume lula okanye bazame ukuba bathethe nabantu abangabaziyo? Abazali abangaqinisekanga banokwenza ubomi bube nzima kubantwana babo ababazisayo. Sonke sahlukile-sizalwa sinoluhlobo oluthile lweemvakalelo ezinokuthi zixhaphaze okanye zingenise. Ukungeniswa kwabantwana abayonto nje 'yokuba neentloni' njengoko abazali abangenalwazi bahlala bebanga njalo, (abanaxhala loxinzelelo njengamntu oneentloni), banentambo ngokulula ngendlela eyahlukileyo kuleyo yomntu odlamkileyo kodwa banamandla abo kunye namandla abo okukhulisa nokukhulisa.
Kutheni abazali abagxothiweyo beneengxaki zokungenisa abantwana
Ukuba ngumzali okwishumi elivisayo okwazisayo kunokubothusa kakhulu abazali abanengxaki, abangasiqondiyo isizathu sokuba umntwana wabo athule kwaye ahluke. Ama-introverts azalwa enjalo kwaye bafumana amandla abo ngokujolisa ngaphakathi kubo kwaye bafuna ixesha lodwa lokuphinda bahlaziye iibhetri zabo, ngelixa i-extroverts izakufuna ukukhuthaza kunye namandla ngokuba nabanye. Siphila kuluntu olujolise ekusombululeni) kwaye ngelishwa, uninzi lwempumelelo eqikelelweyo isekwe kukuzazisa kunye nokuba 'uyabonakala' kwaye 'uve'.
Abazali abangaqinisekanga bafuna izinto ezininzi ezikhuthazayo, intsebenziswano enkulu yoluntu kunye neendibano ezinkulu; Ngelixa abantwana babo abazisiweyo befuna ngqo ngokuchaseneyo -yindlela yokupheka kwintlekele ngaphandle kokuba ufunda ukulalanisa kwaye ucwangcise ukulungiselela zombini iintlobo zobuntu. Ukuba ngumzali okwishumi elivisayo okwazileyo ukuba ngumzali oqinisekileyo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu.
Ukuba namawele angenisiweyo kwenza ixesha elinomdla kakhulu, njengoko ngokwendalo benentloni ekuhlaleni, kodwa ukuba yinxalenye yeseti yamawele kubabeka ukuba bajongisiswe kakuhle ekuhlaleni - 'ah! Khangela! Ngamawele! ' -Kwaye kuya kufuneka ufunde indlela yokujongana neentlobo zabo zonxibelelwano.
Banxibelelana njani abantwana bodwa
Unokuziva ngathi amawele akho ahlala kwilizwe labo-kokubini kungeniswa, kwaye amawele ngokwendalo etsala omnye komnye, aya kuthi abenendlela yokunxibelelana. Ama-introverts ahlala enqabile ejikeleze ezinye izethulo kunye nexesha kunye banokukhawuleza bathule. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana abazisayo bayayiqonda imigaqo-nkqubo yoluntu. Banethuba lokuhlonipha isithuba somnye nomnye, kodwa ukungonwabi ekuhlaleni kungakhokelela nakwizinto ezingafunekiyo ezinokubashiya benomsindo omnye komnye.
Bakhuthaze bobabini ukuba baphuhlise indawo yabo, iimfuno zabo kunye nokuvakalisa iimfuno zabo.
Ukuqonda iintombi kunye noonyana abakwishumi elivisayo kunzima kubazali abaxakekileyo. Kwilizwe elibonakala lixabisa i-extroverts kuphela, kunokuba ngumceli mngeni wokuzenzela iindlela zabo.
Ungabanceda njani abantwana bakho baphumelele kwihlabathi elikhutshiweyo
- Ukomeleza okuqinisekileyo-Awungekhe ubatshintshe abantwana bakho babe ngama-extroverts, kodwa ungabanceda bakwazi ukumelana
- kunye nehlabathi ngokubanika ukomeleza okuhle kunye nokomeleza izakhono zabo zokulwa.
- Akukho ukuqhula-Ukuhlekisa ngabo malunga nokuthula yeyona nto imbi onokuyenza- baya kuba sele beyenzile
- Ndiziva ndishiyiwe kwilizwe lezemidlalo i-70% yabantu abagxothiweyo abo amandla abo exabisiwe kwaye edunyiswa, kodwa
- kananjalo kwi 'bonisa' kuba zimbini.
- Imvakalelo yokuzithemba kunye nokomelela- Hlonipha ukungafani kwabantwana bakho kwaye wamkele iimpawu zabo ezizodwa. Eyakho
- abantwana banokuba novakalelo kakhulu, kodwa ukuba ubonelela ngendawo efanelekileyo kunye nenkuthazo, banako
- ukwakha ukuzithemba okukhulu kunye nokukhulisa ukomelela ngokuchasene nokuhlaselwa lihlabathi elinengxolo.
Bancede bathethe amazwi xa bedinga ikhefu- Nceda abantwana bakho bavakalise iimfuno zabo, ngakumbi xa kufuneka ikhefu. Oku kuyakuthintela ukunyibilika okanye ukuvalwa komntwana ngokupheleleyo kwaye kubenze bazive benamandla kwaye belawula ubomi babo. Ukungeniswa kwabantwana banokudinwa kukuhlala ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngelixa umntwana osele ekhulile enokuzithethelela ngokulula kwindawo ethe cwaka, kuya kufuneka uncede abancinci ngokujonga iimpawu zokudinwa.
Khulisa ukuthanda kwabo kunye nezinto ezibathandayo-Amangqina azisombulula iingxaki, ayilembonakalo yoyilo, ayakwazi ukuthelekisa kunye nokuthelekisa, kwaye angabafundi abathanda ubomi babo bonke. Ukuba wedwa yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kwizinto ezintsha. Bonelela ngezinto zokufunda eziza kuzolula iingqondo zabo, babuze 'yintoni enye' rhoqo, badlale imidlalo yoyilo kunye neephazili. Mabazenzele izinto, njengenqaba ebhokisini okanye intente evela kumashiti amadala. Dumisani iinzame zokuyila. Bakhuthaze ukuba bafumane iindawo zokuyila ezinje ngobugcisa, okanye ichess, okanye iklabhu yesayensi- nantoni na ebonisa umdla kuyo.
Ukunyenyiswa kwimicimbi yezentlalo kodwa khuthaza ukutyhala ngaphaya kwendawo yentuthuzelo-baya kuhlala benomhlobo omnye okanye ababini abasenyongweni kodwa baya kwenza ubuhlobo obomeleleyo. Sukuzama ukubanyanzela ukuba bajoyine iiklabhu okanye izinto ezingenamdla kuzo. Amawele ahlala esondele kakhulu, ke jonga ukuba omnye angazenzi abahlobo kwaye omnye angabinabo abahlobo. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka ubancede batyhale imida yabo kwaye bajongane ngcono neemeko zentlalo, ngokubenza lula kuyo. Musa ukuwuphepha umsebenzi woluntu, kufuneka babonakaliswe kwiimeko ezingaphandle kwendawo yabo yokuthuthuzela kodwa bacwangcise ngokufanelekileyo kwaye baqhubeke ngokucinga. Fika kwangethuba, ukuze bajonge imeko kwaye bazinze, mabeme ecaleni baqwalasele kuqala, ecaleni kwakho, bade bazive bekhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangaqhubela phambili. Hlonipha imida yabantwana bakho - kodwa musa ukwenza ikhowudi kwaye ubavumele bakhethe ukuthatha inxaxheba kulo msebenzi.
Bafundise inkalipho yokujamelana nobunzima-Njengokuba bethabatheka kakhulu kwaye bengenamdla wokwabelana ngeemvakalelo, kunokuba nzima ukwazi xa umntwana wakho esokola, ke kuya kufuneka uzimisele ngokufundisa ukuba iingxaki ziyinxalenye yobomi. Elinye lamawele linokuthatha ixesha elide kunelinye ukuvula.
Yakha ixesha elizolileyo kumhla wabo-Lumka xa ucwangcisa usuku lwakho ukuze wakhe ngexesha lokuphumla. Oku kunokuba nzima ngeshedyuli yakho kunye neyabanye abantwana.
Imisebenzi-Yiba nolwazelelelo kwimisebenzi yokubacwangcisela njengoko baya kulungela ngakumbi umdlalo ngamnye njengokuqubha.
Bancome ngokuthatha umngcipheko- ukuze ekugqibeleni bafunde ukuzilawula ngokwabo ukulunga kwabo. Yitsho into enje: ‘Ndikubonile unceda la ntombazana kwindawo yokudlala ngale ntsasa nangona kufanele ukuba ibinzima kuwe. Ndinebhongo ngawe. '
Ungabafundisa njani ukukhuselana
Ukunyaniseka luphawu olubaluleke kakhulu kwi-introvert, benza iibhondi ezinzulu kakhulu kwaye ziya kubakhusela abahlobo babo ngokukhalipha. Ukuba ngamawele sele kudityanisiwe kwinqanaba elinzulu kuninzi lwabantakwabo, ke bakhuthaze ukuba bakhuselane kwihlabathi elinengxolo.
Basenokungabi namdla wokuthetha kwiimeko ezinzima, ke kuya kufuneka ubafundise ukuba njani. Enye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu ekukhuliseni abantwana abangenisiweyo kukuqinisekisa ukuba banendawo yabucala apho banokurhoxa khona xa befuna ukuphinda bahlaziye. Amawele anokuhlala kwigumbi elinye - ukuba abanalo igumbi labo, benze indawo yokufunda ngasese kwindawo ethile endlwini, kwaye baqiniseke ukuba indawo iyahlonitshwa.
Fundisa amawele ukususela ebutsheni ukuhlonipha indawo yomnye nomnye neyantlukwano kwiinkolelo nakwizimvo zabo.
Ungayisombulula njani ukungavisisani phakathi komzali okhulelweyo
Thintela ukungqubana phakathi kwabazali abaxakekileyo kunye nabantwana abazisiweyo kuqala
- Yabelana ngeeyantlukwano zakho nabantwana bakho-Oko kuya kunceda abantwana bakho baqonde ukuba kutheni bahlukile kwabanye abantu bosapho.
- Ukubonelela ngexesha elaneleyo kunye nokucwangcisa ukuze ungangxami
- Eyona nto incinci ukubhekisa komnye wabo athuleyo inokucatshangelwa njengokugxeka- umzali onamancoko unokuthi into enje 'yiza, yiya uthethe nale ntombazana incinci, ngekhe ikulume' kungathethi nakuphi na ukwenzakala, kodwa inako uneziphumo eziphambili emntwaneni wakho.
- Sukubalisela amabali ahlekisayo ngabantwana abakule nkampani, iya kujongwa njengokucekisa.
- Yakha ukuzithemba kwabo ngokuhlonipha amandla abo kwaye ungaxoxi ngokwahluka kwabo eluntwini.
- Sukuqhekeza iziqhulo ngabo ngokuba 'yingxaki ephindiweyo'!
Sombulula iimbambano nge
- Ukukhuthaza umntwana ukuba achaze ukuba yintoni ebacaphukisileyo kwasekuqaleni
- Uxolo ukuba ikhona into oyenzileyo ukubacaphukisa
- Ukuphinda ujonge iishedyuli zakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuba kukho ixesha elaneleyo lokugcwalisa kwakhona izethulo
- Ukufumana uncedo ngokugcina abantwana ukuze uphume uye kuhlala nabantu ngaphandle kokubacaphukisa. Vuthela umphunga ukuze ube nomonde ngakumbi.
Ungaboyikisi njani abantwana bakho ngeemvakalelo zakho?
Ukungenisa abantwana kunokuba novakalelo kakhulu kwaye bazithembe kakhulu xa ujikeleze abanye abantu. Sukubandakanyeka kwezi zinto zilandelayo phambi kwamawele akho njengoko uza kubabulala kwaye uboyikise:
- Ukuba ngomsindo kunye ne-rambunctious
- Ukutsala umdla kuwe
- Ukuxambulisana esidlangalaleni
- Ukubenza iintloni phambi koontanga
- Ukubuza abahlobo babo okanye oontanga babo imibuzo emininzi (unokucinga ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo, bayayithiya!)
- Ukuqhula okanye ukuqhula ngabo 'bethule'
- Ukuxela iinkcukacha zakho kwabanye
- Ukubangxolisa ngokuba krwada esidlangalaleni- kunokuba ubafundise ukunqwala okanye bancume ukuba abakwazi kuthi hi
- Ukwenza ukuba banxibelelane okanye babenzele abantu ongabaziyo okanye amaqela abantu kuba kuyonwabisa
Umzali okhululekile kunye noqwalaselo oneeodles zomonde sesona sipho sibalaseleyo onokuthi usinike abantwana bakho abangenisiweyo. Nciphisa isantya kwaye uphumle - khumbula ukuvumba iiroses. Nceda abantwana bakho bafumane umhlaba ngendlela enengqiqo kwaye ubabonelele ngovelwano kunye nokuqonda-kuyakulunga kusapho lwakho lonke!
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba "loluphi uhlobo lobuzali ekufuneka ndilwamkele" kwaye "ingaba umntwana wam usisibhengezo okanye uyadlulisa" imibuzo enokukunceda ufumanise. Banokukunceda uphendule imibuzo enjalo.