Umxholo
- Sitshata amanxeba ethu obuntwana!
- Indawo eyaziwayo inokuba yingozi
- Ke siyaphilisa njani?
- Ukufumana amandla kuxinzelelo lwenkqubo yakho
Ndatshata indoda egula ngengqondo. Ukufezekiswa kweza emva komtshato, kwindawo enethayo phakathi kwakhe xa wayebetha ivili lokuqhuba enomsindo, ethatha ubomi bethu ezandleni zakhe. Kwiimayile ezimashumi asithoba ngeyure, ufumana umbono. Kutheni le nto isihogo ndatshata nalo maniac? Kwiminyaka elishumi kamva, ndiyayazi impendulo: Ndatshata amanxeba am wobuntwana. Kwaye yile nto siyenzayo. Sifuna ukuphilisa amanxeba obuntwana bethu ngokuthandana nokutshata nabo. Kungenxa yoko le nto, ngaphambi kokuba sizimisele ukufumana umphefumlo wethu, kufuneka siziphilise.
Asizange sihlale kunye ngaphambi kokuba sitshate, kodwa iimpawu zazikho. Wayenomsindo kwinqanaba elincinci. Ndiyaqonda ngoku ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha, nebiyakuba neflegi ebomvu kumntu "oqhelekileyo", ibingendim. Ngoba? Kuba kumava am, umsindo yayikukutya kweentsapho zihlangene- kunye. Ngobusuku emva komtshato wethu, umzala wam waphula impumlo kamalume. Xa mna nomyeni wam omtsha sizisa umalume umkhenkce, umakazi wathi: “Wamkelekile kusapho lwethu olonwabileyo!” Uburharha yayiyindlela yethu yokudibana ngokudibeneyo. Ngomnye umhla wamashumi amane wokuzalwa komnye umakazi, umntu othile wahambahamba ephethe itreyi, ebuza ngokuqhula ukuba ukhona umntu ongathanda "ikofu, iti, ichiza lokudakumba?
Sitshata amanxeba ethu obuntwana!
Into yengqondo yokuba kutheni sitshata amanxeba ethu obuntwana ilele "kwithiyori yokuncamathisela kunye neemodeli zengqondo ezingaziwayo ... ubudlelwane bethu bokuqala ... hayi kuphela ukuba nefuthe kwindlela esikwaziyo ukunxibelelana nabanye njengabantu abadala-kwezothando nakwezinye iimeko-kodwa yenza izikripthi zangaphakathi okanye iimodeli zokusebenza zendlela ubudlelwane obusebenza ngayo ... Njengabantu, sitsalwa, kwinqanaba lokungazi, ukuya kwesiqhelekileyo. Kumntu oqhotyoshelwe ngokukhuselekileyo onxibelelwano oluphambili lwamfundisa ukuba abantu banothando, bathembekile, kwaye bathembekile, le yinto nje entle. Kodwa kwabo bethu baqhotyoshelwe ngokukhuselekileyo, okuqhelekileyo kunokuba yingozi. ”
Indawo eyaziwayo inokuba yingozi
Oqhelekileyo wayeyingozi kum. Emva kwe-epiphany yam phakathi, ndanika umyeni wam isiphelo: fumana uncedo okanye ulahleke. Ekugqibeleni, ngoxilongo oluchanekileyo (iBipolar II), amayeza, unyango kunye nonyango olupheleleyo, waba ngcono. Kodwa ayisoloko isebenza ngale ndlela. Izinto ezimbini eziphambili ekuphiliseni kukuziqonda ngokwakho kunye nenkuthazo, yomibini eyayinomyeni wam. Isiphelo yayiyeyona nto ibalulekileyo, kodwa wayesazi ukuba ungumntu ophithizelayo, kwaye wayediniwe kukuba lusizi. Ngombulelo, wakwazi ukuphilisa, kwaye ngoku sonwabele umtshato owomeleleyo owakhelwe kwishumi leminyaka lokuxhasana ngamahla ndinyuka obomi. Kodwa singazisindisa sonke ekubandezelekeni ukuba, endaweni yokuzama ukuziphilisa ngokutshata amanxeba ethu, siqale sawaphilisa ngezinye iindlela.
Ke siyaphilisa njani?
Ukunyanga ngokwenyani kunxunguphalo kufuna indlela enamacala amabini. Unyango lwesintu lubalulekile ekusincedeni sazi ukuba yeyiphi imicimbi yethu kunye nokunxibelelana phakathi kwamanxeba ethu okomntwana kunye nokuziphatha okungazi nto. Nangona kunjalo, akwanele. Wakha wazi umntu obonayo ukuncipha kumashumi eminyaka ngaphandle kokuphucuka okungakumbi? Kungenxa yokuba ukwenzakala kunamandla kuyo, kwaye siwaphatha loo mandla ngaphakathi kuthi, ngakumbi kwii-chakras zethu, de kube siyakucoca. Umothuko wobuntwana ugcinwa kwii-chakras zethu ezintathu zokuqala: ingcambu, isacral, kunye ne-plexus yelanga.
Ukufumana amandla kuxinzelelo lwenkqubo yakho
Kude kube oko kuphiliswa kwamandla, kuyaqhubeka nokunyusa isimilo sethu esingazi nto kwaye kubangele uxinzelelo, ukungakwazi ukuzazi, kunye nokungazithembi (ngokulandelelana). Ukucoca la mandla, sidinga unyango lwamandla. Unyango, inkululeko yokuzivavanya, kunye noReiki, ukubiza nje ezimbalwa, zonke zifuna ukulinganisa amandla ethu kunye / okanye ukususa iibhloksi zamandla. Xa ujonga i-Therapist, khetha enye enee-dozen zokujonga okuhle kunye noluhlu lwamashishini kuGoogle kunye / okanye ubukho beendaba zosasazo. Oku kuqinisekisa ukuba abanakho ukucoca uphononongo olubi.
Nje ukuba sinyange amanxeba ethu, sinokungena kubudlelwane kwaye sikwazi ukubona iiflegi ezibomvu. Kwaye emva koko, sinokuhamba ngokuzikhethela ekukhetheni iqabane eliza kujonga imizimba yethu ephilisiweyo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba asizenzeli thina kuphela, kodwa sikwenzela nabaphi na abantwana bexesha elizayo esinokuba nabo. Ngelixa "ukonwaba ngonaphakade" inokuba sisiphelo esifanelekileyo sentsomi, ukwaphula umjikelo wokungasebenzi kakuhle sisiqalo sokwenyani esinokukwazi ukukufeza sonke.