Umxholo
- 1. Yazi ukuba ungaphulukana naye
- 2. Yenza entsha eqhelekileyo
- 3. Funda ukubonisa uvelwano
- 4. Funda ukwenza incoko emnandi
- 5. Yiba ngumthandi omkhulu
- 6. Lazi ixabiso lezinto ezincinci
- 7. Yandisa ngamaxesha oxinzelelo
- 8. Zikhule kunye
Ngaphandle kokuba ngumzali, umtshato ngowona mngeni unzima okhe waqubisana nawo, kwaye loo nto isitsho kakhulu.
Mhlawumbi unyuke intaba iKilimanjaro, ubaleka umdyarho weembaleki okanye uhamba ngenqanawa emhlabeni, kodwa xa kufikwa ekugcineni umfazi wakho onwabile, unokuziva ngathi ubethe udonga oluqinileyo lwezitena. Yazi ukuba awuwedwa-abaninzi babelane ngokudakumba kwanokuphelelwa lithemba.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba kukho indlela okanye iindlela ezininzi zokuphucula umtshato, kunye nokutyibilika kanye kolo donga lwezitena, olunokuthi lube sisimanga.
Eli nqaku lijolise ekunikezeleni ngezimvo zobudlelwane kunye nokuqaqambisa eminye yemiba kunye neendawo zomtshato apho amadoda ahlala engahoyi kwindlela umfazi acinga ngayo kwaye yintoni emonwabisayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha utshintsho oluncinci lunokwenza umahluko omkhulu, kwaye kukushiye uzibuza ukuba kutheni ulinde ixesha elide okanye kutheni ungakhange uyiqonde le nto ngaphambili, ekwenza uzibuze ukuba ungaluqinisa njani ulwalamano lwakho.
Okokuqala, wenze kakuhle ngokufunda inqaku eliqinisa imitshato, kuba libonisa ukuba ufuna uncedo, kwaye abo balufunayo bayalufumana.
Okwesibini, ukuba uqala ukuziva ukuba oku akulunganga- uthini malunga nenxalenye yomfazi? -Ewe uchanile, abasetyhini kufuneka beze necala labo njengamadoda, kodwa okwangoku, sijolise ngqo kwizinto ezinokwenziwa ngamadoda ukuphucula imitshato yabo.
Ke, nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zomtshato ophilileyo. Ezi ngcebiso zobudlelwane emadodeni ziingcebiso zomtshato ezisempilweni ezinokusetyenziswa njenge-anchor ukugcina ubudlelwane babo bokutshona.
1. Yazi ukuba ungaphulukana naye
Le ngcebiso yobudlelwane emadodeni ibalulekile; Kungenxa yoko le nto kuqala.
Amanye amadoda aphila phantsi kwenkohliso yokuba nje ukuba batyikitye amaphepha omtshato, ibisisivumelwano esenziwe, kwaye banokuhlala phantsi, baphumle, baphathe abafazi babo nangayiphi na indlela yakudala. Impazamo enkulu!
Njengayo nayiphi na into exabisekileyo ebomini, umtshato ufuna umgudu ongaguqukiyo, ingqalelo, ukuzingisa, kunye nokuzimisela ukufumana ezona ziphumo zihle.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba kufuneka uhambe umgama owongezelelweyo xa usakha imitshato esondeleyo kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo.
Awungekhe uphuphe ubhalisela ubugqirha kwaye ungafaki umsebenzi ukuze kwenzeke. Okanye awuyi kuthatha ingxaki yokutyala igadi yemifuno kwaye ungazikhathazi ngokuyinyamekela - ukunkcenkceshela, ukususa ukhula kunye nokuchumisa.
2. Yenza entsha eqhelekileyo
Enye into elula kwaye ebulalayo yokuwela phantsi kukuba 'indlela yam yindlela eqhelekileyo / elungileyo.' Kwaye ngequbuliso, umfazi wakho unokucinga ukuba indlela yakhe ilungile kwaye iqhelekile.
Into eqhele ukwenzeka kukuba omnye wenu anikezele omnye komnye, emva koko izinto ezithandwa ngumntu, inkcubeko, okanye indlela akhule ngayo iba yinto eqhelekileyo emtshatweni wabo. Oku kuyingozi kwaye kunokukhokelela kubudlelwane obuxhomekeke kubunye.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba niyayazi le nto, ninokuzama ukwenza into entsha kuni nobabini, apho nixoxa nithethe ngemiba ngononophelo, ukuphucula umtshato wenu.
Ngale ndlela, unokufumana ukuphumelela phakathi komhlaba, endaweni yokuthatha okungalunganga / ekunene, indlela yam okanye indlela enkulu.
3. Funda ukubonisa uvelwano
Uvelwano kuthetha ukuba nako ukuqonda nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zomnye umntu. Yinto ebalulekileyo kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane obusempilweni kwaye inokunceda ukugcina umtshato womelele.
Inxalenye enkulu yokubonisa uvelwano kukumamela kwaye uqinisekise nantoni na ahamba kuyo umfazi wakho.
Ukuba ubenosuku olunoxinzelelo kwaye olunzima, eyona nto unokuyithetha kukuba, "Ndixelele konke malunga nayo." Emva koko uhlala phantsi, umbambe ngesandla, umjonge emehlweni ngelixa ethetha, kwaye umamele ngononophelo.
Xa evakalisa iintlungu okanye ekuxelela ukuba le okanye le ibikukhathaza kakhulu, ungathetha into enje, "Inokuba ibinzima loo nto" okanye "Ndicela uxolo ngokuba ubenosuku olunzima."
Ukuba unqwenela ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho, khumbula ukuba eli ayiloxesha lokumxelela ukuba kwakutheni ukuze angaziva ngoluhlobo okanye acebise ukuba angayisingatha njani ngokwahlukileyo le meko.
4. Funda ukwenza incoko emnandi
Ke emva kokuba kufuneka umphulaphule kakuhle, ngoku ngokungathandabuzekiyo uya kufuna ukukumamela. Mhlawumbi awuziva ufuna ukuthetha xa ufika ekhaya emva kosuku olunzima emsebenzini, kodwa oku kubalulekile emfazini wakho.
Ukuba awufuni kumxelela malunga nosuku lwakho, uziva ekhutshiwe kwaye evaliwe. Ubuxoki “bohlobo olomeleleyo, oluthe cwaka” yenye into ebubuxoki eyenze umonakalo kwimitshato emininzi.
Ke, ukuba uyazibuza ukuba 'ungabuqinisa njani ubudlelwane' okanye 'ungawuphucula njani umtshato', thatha nje ixesha lokuphuma kwaye ukhululeke.
Mhlawumbi ufuna ixesha lokuphumla ejimini okanye ubeke iinyawo zakho okwexeshana. Fumana ezona zinto zisebenza kakuhle kwaye uvuleke ukuze wenze incoko emnandi kunye nenkosikazi yakho.
5. Yiba ngumthandi omkhulu
Ngokuqinisekileyo awuzange utshate ukuze nihlale kunye!
Ke sebenzela ekubeni nolona hlobo lobomi lubalaseleyo ngesondo kuba luya kuwuphucula umtshato wakho kwaye luqinise ubudlelwane bomtshato kuwo onke amanqanaba.
Xa sele uyithethile loo nto, yinto encinci yenkukhu kunye neqanda- eza kuqala?
Kubafazi abaninzi, amaxesha amnandi ebhedini eza emva konxibelelwano oluhle yonke le mini-uthando nokusondela, kumenza azive efunwa kwaye efuneka ngalo lonke ixesha, hayi xa kucinyiwe izibane. Fumanisa ukuba ngaba kunjalo kwiqabane lakho, funda ukuba yintoni eyenza umfazi wakho onwabe, kwaye uqonde iimfuno zakhe zokomeleza umtshato wakho.
6. Lazi ixabiso lezinto ezincinci
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuphucula umtshato wakho kukuqonda ixabiso lezinto ezincinci ozenzela omnye nomnye.
Kulula ukuvumela izinto ezincinci zityibilike- njengokuthi ndiyacela kwaye ndiyabulela, okanye umbambele ucango, okanye umthumelele umyalezo omncinci 'unjani' emini.
Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ayizukuwenza mahluko ungako, kwaye uxakeke kakhulu zizinto 'ezibaluleke ngakumbi' kunokukhanyisa malunga 'nendlela yokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho kunye nendlela yokwenza umtshato ubengcono' okanye 'indlela yokuba nomtshato ophilileyo'.
Kodwa, ekuhambeni kwexesha, unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba zonke ezi zinto zincinci zongeza njani ekomelezeni ubudlelwane bomtshato, njengentyatyambo nganye encinci okanye isityalo kwigadi yakho, kwaye okukhona ulahlekelwa, kokukhona kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu kwigadi yakho.
7. Yandisa ngamaxesha oxinzelelo
Umfazi wakho usenokungasoloko ecela uncedo, kodwa ukuba uthe qwa, uyabona xa ethatha uxinzelelo.
Mhlawumbi kukuncwina apha naphaya okanye ukuthula okungaqhelekanga okuya kukuxelela ukuba udiniwe okanye unestress. Emva koko unokunyuka kwaye uncedise ngomsebenzi wasekhaya, okanye umqhubele ibhafu entle, umenzele ikomityi yeti okanye ikofu.
Olu hlobo lwenkathalo yothando ngokuqinisekileyo luya kukuzisela izabelo ezingachazekiyo.
Umfazi wakho uya kuziva ukuba unenkxaso yakho kwaye akunyanzelekanga ukuba awuthwale yedwa umthwalo onzima womsebenzi wasendlini. Ukunceda ngeendlela ezibonakalayo nezicingisisayo yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuphucula umtshato wakho.
8. Zikhule kunye
Okokugqibela, khumbula ukuba utshintsho alunakuphepheka.
Njengoko nobabini niqala ukwaluphala nokukhula, luya kuba njalo uthando lwenu kunye nomtshato wenu. Awunguye laa mntu wawuneminyaka emibini edlulileyo, kwaye ayingomfazi wakho.
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuphucula ubudlelwane kukuqinisekisa ukuba uhlala kwiphepha elinye.
Ke, gcinani kunye nomnye nomnye ukuze nibe nokukhula kunye nangovuyo kunye.