Umxholo
- Phuhlisa isakhono sokumamela ngokukuko
- Ukufuna ukwazi kuya kusinceda ngcono
- Qala ngokwenza ngokwakho
- Umzekelo -
Esinye sezizathu ezibangela ukuba abantu bafune ukucebisa ngomtshato okanye ukucebisa ubudlelwane kukufumana uncedo kunxibelelwano.
Ngokwesiqhelo le khowudi ithi “Ndiyazi ukuba iqabane lam alindiva kwaye andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiyabaqonda.”
Kukho amacala ama-2 kunxibelelwano kwaye, njengokusondelelana, kukho umthumeli kunye nomamkeli.
Phuhlisa isakhono sokumamela ngokukuko
Ukuva into ethethwa yenye kufuna ukuphulaphula. Makhe ndinikele ngento engekhoyo.
Singaweva onke amagama, singanqwala ngokunqumama ngokufanelekileyo kwaye sinokwazi ukuphinda ibinzana lokugqibela omnye asinike lona, kodwa oku ayikokumamela okusebenzayo. Singazibandakanya nje kwincoko kwaye singaze sifikelele kwinqanaba elinzulu lokuqonda kunye nonxibelelwano uninzi lwethu olunqwenela.
Ukumamela okusebenzayo kufuna amandla amaninzi (ukuba akakho ngaphezulu) njengoko umthumeli esebenzisa.
Ukumamela ngokukuko kufuna ukuba sibeke bucala ukuzikhusela kunye nokuqonda kwangaphambili kwaye uninzi lwethu alwazi nokuba zithini.
Kukho iVidiyo enkulu ka-YouTube enesihloko esithi Ayisiyonto ibethelelwa nguJason Headley egxile kuphela kwisibonelelo sokumamela ngokukuko. Apha, uJason wenza umsebenzi wobugcisa obonisa indlela esibanjwa ngayo koko SIYAZIYO ukuba iqabane lethu kufuneka lenze ntoni. Kwaye njengoko ukugxila kwethu kokwazi kuqhubeka, asinakubonakalisa ukutshintshiselana nokukhathazeka kweqabane lethu.
Ividiyo inikezela ngombono wokuqonda kwakhe kuphela ukuba ichithwe njengoko ebuyela kulwazi lwakhe.
Ukufuna ukwazi kuya kusinceda ngcono
Ukufuna ukwazi kusenza sikwazi ukubona apho sithathwa khona ngaphandle kokuba sijike sibe ngumqhubi.
Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka uqale ubeke bucala kwaye ulawule uxinzelelo lwakho. Oku kuhlala kunzima ukufezekisa neqabane lakho ngenxa yembali yakho. Okwangoku ukuba ingqondo yakho ikholelwa ekubeni uhla ngomendo wakudala, itsibela phambili ukuya esiphelweni ababenaso ngaphambili, kunokuba uyeke uhambo luzivelele.
Zama oku endaweni yoko- zibone umamele enye. Ukuba unokuba ngumbonisi wale meko (ihlala ibizwa ngokuba ngumntu wesithathu) kunokuba uthathe inxaxheba, uya kuzinika ikhefu eliyimfuneko ukuze uhlale ubandakanyekile. Ukuhlala kumntu wesithathu, njengomphulaphuli okhutheleyo kuthetha ukuba awuzenzi izinto buqu.
Kuya kufuneka uzikhumbuze ukuba bayakuxelela malunga nabo (nokuba bakhombe ngomnwe!). Kungenxa yoko le nto, njengomthumeli, iphucula inkqubo yokusebenzisa iingxelo zika- "Ndi" endaweni yamabango malunga nelinye.
Umphulaphuli onomdla ubambe isithuba phakathi kwento ethethwa yenye kunye naleyo uyifumanayo. Esi sithuba kufuneka usiphathe ngendlela engcwele. Kulapha apho ubudlelwane bunokuqalisa ukubumba, kwaye apho ukuqonda kungaqala khona. Ukuba sele WAZI okuzayo, uyawavala amathuba anokubakho.
Qala ngokwenza ngokwakho
Oku kuyinyani yokuba sihlala sifuna ukuba omnye asive kwaye siyazi ukuba lo mkhombandlela ungentla yinto elungileyo kwabo basimamelayo kodwa owona msebenzi uza, hayi ekumemeni abanye ukuba bamamele ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa ukuqala ngokuzenzela .
IRoma ayakhiwanga ngosuku kwaye kungathatha ixesha elithile (ewe ngaphezulu kunokuba sifuna) ukutshintsha iipateni ezinde zokunxibelelana. Ngokwenene sinolawulo kuphela kwindlela esiziphethe ngayo, ke kulapho kufuneka siqale khona ukuphucula izakhono zethu zonxibelelwano, oko kukuthi, indlela esikhetha ukumamela ngokwahlukileyo.
Umzekelo -
Ndeva isithethi sisitsho ngelinye ixesha ukuba ukhetha ukuba ngumfundi wegalufa ngaphezulu kwalowo wegalufa. Ucacisile ukuba abafundi babehlala befunda kwaye ngamava akhe ukuba ukufika kwakhe kuloo ndawo wayeyazi kakuhle yonke into, kwakungekho sidingo sokufunda.
Umdlalo wakhe uqhubeke nokuphucuka njengoko eqhubeka nokufunda.
Ulwalamano lwethu lunjalo. Ukuba sinokuba ngabafundi kwaye siqhubeke nokufunda, sibeka amandla amahle kulwalamano kwaye sinegalelo. Ukuba siyayazi indlela ekumele bayenze ngayo, siya kule ndawo yomgwebo kwaye sithathe into esingabathandiyo ukuba bayenze.
Gxila ekukhuleni kwakho, yiya kumntu wesithathu njengoko umamele ngokuzimisela kwaye uhlonipha eso sithuba phakathi kwakho nesinye sinomdla. Iya kukuhambisa kunxibelelwano olungcono.