Umxholo
- Intlungu elandelayo emva kokuqhathwa
- Ukucinga ngokufuna ukuziphindezela kwiqabane lakho
- Eyona mpindezelo ilungileyo emva kokuba bekhohlisile
- Yeyiphi eyona mpindezelo ilungileyo kumyeni okopelayo?
Xa wawuthandana yonke into ibonakala ifanelekile phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho. Nenza izithembiso omnye komnye kuba nicinga ukuba niza kuzigcina ngonaphakade.
Ngenye imini uye waqonda ukuba umlingo uphelile, iqabane lakho alisayi kujonga ngohlobo ababekade bekwenza ngalo. Baphulukene nomdla wokuthetha nawe, bachitha ixesha kunye nawe kwaye endaweni yoko, bebekulawula.
Ubabonile bencuma kwiifowuni zabo rhoqo, besenza imijikelo rhoqo kwi balcony. Kwaye yakubetha, mhlawumbi babekukhohlisa.
Uzamile ukuyityhalela kude le ngcinga kodwa wahluleka. Ngenye imini awuzange ukwazi ukumelana nomnqweno wokuthatha iifowuni zabo kwaye uhambe ngeencoko zabo. Kwakulapho kanye, iincoko zabo zothando nomnye umntu.
Baqhathe, baxoka kwaye bakusebenzisa ukuba ngubani owaziyo ukuba kude kube nini? Basenokuthi yayingunyaka nje kuphela, kodwa bazingqina elixoki, ungade ubakholelwe? Kwaye, "kuphela" ngonyaka!
Intoni?
Makhe sicinge ngale nto okomzuzwana, ukuze sikwazi ukukhupha isondo nangaliphi na ubude bexesha, iqabane lakho kufuneka lixoke kwaye likusebenzise ukuze ukhuphe ukukrexeza, akunjalo? Kuya kufuneka bayigqwethe inyaniso kwaye bathethe ubuxoki ngokungqalileyo ukuze babe kwindawo abangafanelekanga ukuba babe kuyo.
Kuya kufuneka baxoke kwaye badlale ngentloko yakho ukuba bayaphuma edolophini ngempelaveki okanye babuye ekhaya emva kwexesha lomsebenzi. Ndingabeka amazwi abo kwicandelo "elingathenjwayo" ngoku.
Intlungu elandelayo emva kokuqhathwa
Oku kusishiya sinenkungu malunga nobukho bethu.Yintoni eyiyo? Yintoni inkohliso? Ngelo xesha akazange afike kwigqirha likagqirha, ngaba wayembetha? Xa wafika emva kwexesha emngcwabeni kamama, wayehamba naye? Imibuzo malunga nexesha lethu elidlulileyo lisiphindaphinda. Ukubaleka kunokuziva kungenakwenzeka kuba namaphupha ethu ayathanda ukuthatha inxaxheba kukoyikisa.
Ukucinga ngokufuna ukuziphindezela kwiqabane lakho
Kuyaqondakala ukuba uninzi lwethu ludlula kwinqanaba lokucaphuka ngokwenene, kulungile kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Iingcinga kunye nemibono yendlela yokuziphindezela kumfana okusebenzise ngokungqungqa entlokweni yakho.
Sifuna ukubenza buhlungu ngendlela ebuhlungu njengoko sibuhlungu ngayo. Sijonge izimvo malunga 'nendlela yokuziphindezela kumntu owakukhathaza'. Sifuna ukuba bayiqonde intlungu, nokuba yeyomzuzu. Ngamanye amaxesha, siziva ngathi bazakutshintsha, bazisole ukuzisola okwenyani kwaye babuye bakhase emva xa bebuqonda ubunzulu bokuphelelwa lithemba ababubangelayo.
Kwiingcinga zam ezimnyama zokufuna ukuziphindezela ndadlala ngombono wokuxelela umyeni wam ukuba iintombi zakhe ayizizo ezakhe, kodwa zezomntakwabo. Ngelixa le nto yayingeyonyani, kwaye ubudlelwane bam nomninawa wam babuhlala kufanelekile, ibubuxoki endicinga ukuba buya kumenzakalisa, nokuba yimizuzu embalwa. Andizange ndenze le fantasy, kodwa yayikho. Sukuvumela iimbono ezinje zokuziphindezela zonakalise ubomi bakho kunye nosapho ngakumbi.
Eyona mpindezelo ilungileyo emva kokuba bekhohlisile
Emva koMcimbi, sifumana ii-imeyile ezininzi malunga nesidingo sokuziphindezela. Isidingo sokwanelisa umsindo omkhulu esiziva ngawo. Uninzi lwabantu lucebisa ukuba bafuna ukulala nomhlobo wabo osenyongweni, bajike abantwana babachase, bathathe yonke into kubo enkundleni ... Ngelixa konke oku kunokuziva kulungile kuwe ngethuba lomsindo wakho, ndingathanda ukuvumela ungene kwimfihlo encinci. Eyona ndlela yokuphindezela kwi-boyfriend yakho yokuKopa kukuba ube nguwe, wonwabe kakhulu, usempilweni, ulunge kakhulu, uguqulelo lwakho. Andikumntwana.
Uyabona usengulaa mntu ubumhle phambi kokuba ufumane umcimbi. Ukulala nomhlobo, kubuhlungu kwaye usebenzisa umhlobo. Awufuni ukuya kwelo nqanaba. Nina bantwana niyisiqingatha somzali, ukuthetha kakubi ngabo kuyabenzakalisa abantwana benu, lonto ayizukusebenza.
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Yeyiphi eyona mpindezelo ilungileyo kumyeni okopelayo?
Wena, umntu omangalisayo abake bathandana naye, wena kunye nokungafuni kwakho ukwaphula. Wena noncumo lwakho niyakuba yimpindezelo embi kubo kunye nesona sipho sikhulu kuni.
Unokuzazi kwaye uzithande kwakhona. Unokufunda ukulila kwaye uhambe ngeentlungu endaweni yokuzama ukweqa ngaphezulu kwentlungu. Uya kubona amandla kuwe, ubungazi ukuba unayo. Uya kujonga emva kweli xesha ebomini bakho kwaye uzive unebhongo, hayi umsindo, ukuzingca malunga nokuba ungubani kunye nekamva lakho. Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokufumana impindezelo kumfana okudlalileyo.