Umxholo
- 1. Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu wolonwabo lomtshato
- 2. Emtshatweni, ufumana oko ukubonayo
- 3. Pakisha kwaye ulahle iinoveli zakho zothando
- 4. Kuya kufuneka unamehlo kuphela kumfazi wakho
- 5. I-etiquette zangasese ziya kusindisa isikhumba sakho
- 6. Ixesha lithatha intsingiselo eyahlukileyo emva komtshato
- 7. Intombi yakho iyakutshintsha ibe ngomnye umntu
- Imfihlelo yolonwabo
Ngaba lelo (lihle?) Ixesha lonyaka kwakhona xa izigidi zezibini kwihlabathi liphela zilungiselela ukubopha iqhina. Ngeenkcukacha ezininzi zokuhlengahlengiswa njengenani leendwendwe, amalungiselelo okuhlala, iintlobo zemenyu, indawo, amalungiselelo eentyatyambo, nokunye okuninzi kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni la mazwi ahlekisayo obulumko kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata ukuze bafumane konke ukungavisisani noxinzelelo.
La magama ahlekisayo obulumko kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata aya kunceda abakhwenyana bagcine abafazi babo bonwabile
1. Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu wolonwabo lomtshato
Umgaqo obalulekileyo wolonwabo emtshatweni kukuqonda ukuba kukho abantu ababini emtshatweni; enye ihlala ilungile kwaye enye ingumyeni. Ukuba ufuna ukugcina umfazi wakho onwabile, ke kungcono ukhumbule ukuba nanini na kukho ukungavisisani, uhlala elungile.
2. Emtshatweni, ufumana oko ukubonayo
Inye into eza kunceda ukwenza isiseko esomeleleyo somtshato omde kunye nokonwaba kukuba ungazami ukutshintsha iqabane lakho. Uya kuhlala ejijisana ngombala wesikhonkwane okanye ilokhwe yakhe efanelekileyo, kwaye kuyakufuneka uphile nayo ngelixa bonke abo batshatileyo phaya ukuba ucinga ukuba ungamguqula ube yindoda elungileyo uphazamile ngokulusizi. Nandipha omnye nomnye njengoko unjalo!
3. Pakisha kwaye ulahle iinoveli zakho zothando
La magama ahlekisayo eengcebiso kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata ngokucacileyo ayamchaphazela umtshakazi. Ngoku sele (ekugqibeleni) utshatile lixesha lokuba upakishe iinoveli zakho zothando kwaye ungene kwihlabathi lokwenyani leekawusi ezinukayo, amanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuziphatha okubi kunye nokungazithembi.
4. Kuya kufuneka unamehlo kuphela kumfazi wakho
Ngoku utshatile, amanye amantombazana ayayeka ukubakho. Kuya kufuneka unamehlo kuphela kumfazi wakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukulawula iliso lakho elijikelezayo ulumke malunga naloo nto ke umfazi wakho angakubambi!
5. I-etiquette zangasese ziya kusindisa isikhumba sakho
La magama ahlekisayo obulumko kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata abaxhalabisa bobabini indoda nomfazi. Madoda, ukuba anifuni ukuqala umlo wehlabathi olandelayo, kuyacetyiswa ukuba nisishiye isihlalo phantsi emva kokuba nisebenzise indlu yangasese kwaye kubalulekile ukuba abafazi basebenzise igumbi lokuhlambela ubuncinci imizuzu engamashumi amabini emva kokuba umyeni wakho enze njalo gcina impumlo.
6. Ixesha lithatha intsingiselo eyahlukileyo emva komtshato
Ukuba umyeni wakho uthi uzakufika ekhaya ngeyure xa umtsalela umnxeba ukuze ufumanise ukuba uza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani nabahlobo bakhe, ungothuki xa engekho ekhaya nasemva kweeyure ezintathu. Amadoda asandul 'ukutshata kufuneka agcine umda okhuselekileyo weyure xa umfazi wakho ebuza ixesha ekufuneka uye ngalo ethekweni okanye ekubekweni isidlo sangokuhlwa. Lo mthetho awusebenzi xa undwendwela abasebukhweni njengoko kukho iipesenti ezilikhulu zamathuba okuba alunge phambi kwakho!
7. Intombi yakho iyakutshintsha ibe ngomnye umntu
Amagama alandelayo obulumko kwisibini esitshatileyo esichaphazela umyeni. Ukuba ucinga ukuba intombi yakho ayizukutshintsha emva komtshato, uya kuba yinto enkulu omangalisayo. Kuyinyani ukuba yakuba nje ifake iringi yakho emnweni wakhe, uya kuba ngumntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Unokuba yinyama okanye ubushushu, kodwa kuya kufuneka uphile nayo njengoko ungenakwenza nto ngayo.
La mazwi alandelayo ahlekisayo obulumko kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata aya kunceda abatshakazi bagcine abayeni babo kwiinzwane zabo:
- Nanini na xa umyeni wakho eqala ukukuxelela malunga nomphathi wakhe owoyikekayo okanye ubungakanani bomsebenzi ekufuneka ewenzile ngemini kwaye avelane. Yenza ngathi umamele yena nokuba awunamdla kwinto ayabelana nawe.
- Khetha iimfazwe zakho ngobulumko. Sukuba nexhala lezinto ezingenamsebenzi kwaye ujonge kwimicimbi emikhulu enje ukuba ubukele uhlobo olunjani lwemovie.
- Ukuba ufuna ukwenza into (enkulu okanye encinci) yenziwe endlwini, ungabuzi umyeni wakho. Dlala le ntombazana kwikhadi lexinzelelo! Zama ukuyenza ngokwakho kwaye uyenze kakubi kangangokuba xa eyenza, uziva ngathi ligorha! Amadoda athanda ukuziva edingeka.
- Qiniseka ukuba umtyisa phambi kokuba umcele into kuba amadoda ayarhaxa xa elambile. Ukuba unqwenela ukumgoba ngokufanelekileyo kwintando yakho, kuya kufuneka umphekele esona sitya sakhe asithandayo kuqala, emva koko ubuze into oyifunayo.
Imfihlelo yolonwabo
La magama ahlekisayo akhankanywe apha ngasentla ngobulumko kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata bekufanele ukuba bakufundise into, imfihlo yomtshato owonwabileyo ayikho kwizinto eziphathekayo. Amaqabane aneyona nto ibalaseleyo kuyo yonke into ayizizo ezona zibini ziphumelelayo. Endaweni yoko, zizibini ezizama ukwenza konke okusemandleni kwaye zisebenzele ukwaneliseka zizinto ezinazo, enye nenye ibe yeyona nto ibalulekileyo!