Umxholo
- Yenza ngathi udibene nje
- Fumana ngokukhawuleza
- Jongana neemfuno zeqabane lakho
- Nika iqabane lakho igama elikhethekileyo
- Yenza ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo
- Ziqhelise ukuxolelwa nokwamkelwa
- Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo
- Yenza into ekhethekileyo
- Yiya kwimifanekiso yakudala kunye
Ukufumana uthando, ukutshata, nokutshata zizinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini. Inyathelo ngalinye lizaliswe yimincili, amaxesha amnandi, kwaye kunjalo, iinkumbulo zokuthandana.
Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka ntoni kuthando emva komtshato? Ubomi kunye namaxhala alo anokulucekisa kancinci uthando emva komtshato kwaye ashiye nasiphi na isibini esithandanayo ukuba ingaba bayathandana na.
Ekugqibeleni, bakuba ubudlelwane babo buchithe ngokwaneleyo izibini ezitshatileyo ziyeke ukucinga ngombono wokuthandana xa utshatile. Kodwa ngaba ukwazi 'ukuba unglenza njani iqabane lakho likuthande kwakhona' okanye 'indlela yokufumana uthando kwakhona emtshatweni‘Eneneni le inzima?
Lonke uhambo lokuwela komnye umntu alilibaleki kwaye ngaphandle kwenkolelo edumileyo, ayipheli xa usihla ezantsi. Ukuwa eluthandweni emva komtshato- konke kwakhona, kunokwenzeka ngengcebiso encinci yobudlelwane.
Nantsi indlela yokubuyela eluthandweni neqabane lakho kwakhona emva komtshato:
Yenza ngathi udibene nje
Uthando emva komtshato ifuna ubutsha ngexesha elithile. Eyona ndlela ilula yokongeza ubutsha kuthando lwendoda nomfazi emva komtshato kukusebenza ngokungathi nisandula ukudibana. Khumbula ukuba ukwazi isigaba sakho kubudlelwane? Buyela kuloo ndawo.
Buza iqabane lakho imibuzo onokuyibuza umntu othandana naye, uye kwiintsuku ezininzi, mbuze ukuba sesiphi isidlo asithandayo, mbuze ukuba zeziphi iintyatyambo azithandayo, kwaye wonwabe.
Kule minyaka idlulileyo, abantu bayatshintsha kwaye baguqukele ekusebenzeni ngokungathi usandula ukudibana kunokubonelela ngengqondo entsha kwiqabane lakho. Abantu bantsonkothile. Kusoloko kukho into entsha onokuyifunda.
Fumana ngokukhawuleza
Ukuthandana emva komtshato, Kuya kufuneka wonwabe kwimvakalelo yothando olutsha kunye neqabane lakho kwakhona, ke qiniseka ukuba niphathana rhoqo. Xa uqala ukuwela iqabane lakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba awukwazanga ukugcina izandla zakho kuye, akunjalo? Ewe, kutheni uyeka ngoku?
Ke ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungamthanda njani umfazi wakho okanye uphinde uthandane nomfazi wakho, qala ngokubamba izandla, unike iqabane lakho umva, uliphulule okanye ulange. Abantu bafuna ukudibana ngokwasemzimbeni ukuze bazive bethandwa kwaye bexatyisiwe.
Jongana neemfuno zeqabane lakho
Xa abantu ababini beqala ukuthandana, bajolise kakhulu omnye komnye. Benza konke okusemandleni abo ukuze bonwabisane kwaye bathande ukupha kakhulu. Njengoko ixesha lihamba, le nzame iyancipha kodwa ayifanelanga.
Ewe umsebenzi, abantwana, kunye nezinye izinto zobomi zinokufumana indlela kodwa ukuze bafumane zonke izinto ezintle ze ukuwela iqabane lakho kwakhona, ajongane neemfuno neemfuno zakhe.
Ukuze wenze oko, yenza inqaku lokwenza iqabane lakho lizive lilungile, nincome izinto abaziphumezileyo, kwaye wenze konke onako ukukwenza ukuba imini yabo ikhanye kancinci. Oku kuguqulela kwigumbi lokulala. Khumbula, abatshati abonelisekileyo ngamaqabane onwabileyo!
Nika iqabane lakho igama elikhethekileyo
Hlaziya ukuthandana ngokubiza iqabane lakho igama elikhethekileyo elifana 'nobusi' okanye 'iilekese'. Kuya kukuthatha ubuyele kwiintsuku zakho zokuthandana xa nonke niphelile. Sukuthetha neqabane lakho ngo 'hey' okanye 'mamela'.
Yiba nothando nanini na xa ubiza enye yakho ebalulekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuqaphela kwaye bayayixabisa intshukumo yakho.
Kungabonakala kunqabile okanye kuhlazeke ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ezo zenzo zingafunekiyo zirhalela ubude onokuya kubo ukugcina iqabane lakho lonwabile. Ewe, zizimbo zomzimba ezincinci kakhulu, kodwa amaxesha ngamaxesha zizinto ezincinci kangangokuba kungabikho mntu ucinga nantoni na, ezenza izinto ezingenakucingwa.
Yenza ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo
Ukucwangcisa ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kufana nobusuku bomhla, kubaluleke kakhulu. Zama into entsha, okanye uyenze ngenjikalanga yangoMgqibelo okanye ngeveki eqhelekileyo ngokumane usiya kwishower yakhe yakusasa. Nokuba yintoni enikonwabisayo nobabini, kodwa qinisekiseni ukuba nisenza isondo phambili emtshatweni wenu.
Ukuba uziva ngathi ukusondelelana emtshatweni wakho kudlule kwinqanaba lokubuyiselwa, funa uncedo lobuchwephesha. Dibana nomntu ohloniphekileyo ngesondo kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo, okanye nomcebisi womtshato.
Ukwenza njalo kuya kukunceda funda ukuba unganeli nje ukuphucula ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kodwa ulungise nawuphi na omnye umonakalo obunokuba nawo ulwalamano lwakho.
Ziqhelise ukuxolelwa nokwamkelwa
Uxolelo lunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye luthathe indawo yeemvakalelo ezingakhiyo ezintle. Yikhumbule le nto kwaye wamkele iqabane lakho ukuba lingoobani. Oku kukwathetha ukuvumela izinto ezincinci zihambe kwaye uzixabise kangangoko unakho.
Isimo sengqondo esinjalo senza imeko elungileyo kubudlelwane obusempilweni kwaye iqinisekisa ukuba amaqabane omabini ayakhathalelana kwaye ayathandana.
Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo
Ungayenza njani enye into thandana neqabane lakho kwakhona, uyazibuza? Ngokubaphulaphula nje! Banike ithuba lokuba bavule iintliziyo zabo kuwe, bavumele ukuba bachaze eyona nto bafuna ukuyabelana ngayo kwaye uya kulibona ulwando lothando lomtshato wakho.
Ukuba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo kukwathetha ukungabaniki iingcebiso ezingacelwanga. Ngamanye amaxesha, amaqabane afuna esinye isiqingatha sokubamamela. Khumbula, nika kuphela ingcebiso xa sele beyicelile.
Yenza into ekhethekileyo
Yenza into ekhethekileyo kumfazi wakho okanye umyeni wakho ebaxelela indlela oziva ngayo. Isenokuba kukubhaka ikeyiki yomyeni wakho okanye ukuthenga loo lokhwe intle umfazi wakho ejonge ukusukela kwinyanga ephelileyo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibeyinto egqithisileyo - kufuneka ubabonise ukuba uyikhathalele indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye ulonwabo lwabo lubalulekile kuwe. Izenzo ezincinci zinokuhamba indlela ende.
Yiya kwimifanekiso yakudala kunye
Manene, ngokuqinisekileyo le iya kukwenza uthandane nomyeni wakho kwakhona. I-Ditto yeegents! Khumbuza malunga neentsuku zakudala ngokuhamba ngemifanekiso yakho kunye.
Ukuya kwindlela yememori kunokukunceda qhagamshela kwakhona ngeendlela ongenakucinga ngazo. Thatha ixesha lokuphuma okanye wenze oku kubusuku bakho bomhla olandelayo!