Umxholo
Ukugcina intsapho yakho yesibini isebenza kakuhle kulucelomngeni olukhulu; thatha ingqalelo olu sapho lutsha umanyano phakathi kweentsapho ezimbini ezaphukileyo kwaye iyunithi nganye iza neyodwa kunye neengxaki.
Uqhawulo mtshato lukhohlakele kwaye lushiya ifuthe elinzima hayi kubazali kuphela kodwa nakubantwana, kwaye ukubaphosa kwilizwe abangaqhelananga nabazala-abantakwabo, kwaye umzali wesinyathelo unokuba nzima kubo ukuba baqonde.
Ukulawula usapho oludibeneyo kufuna ubuntununtunu, uqeqesho, ukhathalelo, kunye nentsebenziswano.
Njengosapho lwenyukliya, into edityanisiweyo isebenza phantsi kwemigaqo efanayo, nangona kunjalo, kuwo onke amacandelo osapho oludibeneyo ukuze adityaniswe, ixesha elide kunye nomonde yeyona nto iphambili.
Eli nqaku liza kuphonononga ngokubanzi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ezomeleza iziseko zosapho lomtshato wesibini; Injongo apha kukukuxhobisa ngolwazi malunga nendlela yokujongana ngcono nale meko ikhoyo, ukuze wena nosapho lwakho niphumelele kunye ngaphandle kokuqhekeka kwiminyaka embalwa yokuqala.
Ucwangco, kunye noqeqesho
Ngalo naliphi na iziko eliphumelelayo, uqeqesho kunye nocwangco zibaluleke kakhulu. Abantwana bafuna uqeqesho, bafuna ulwakhiwo kunye nokukhokelwa ngabazali babo, ukuze babakhokele ubomi babo ngaphandle kwesiphithiphithi. Oku kuthethiweyo kubandakanya iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokulala, ukutya, ukufunda kunye nexesha lokudlala.
Cwangcisa iishedyuli zabantwana bakho, ubenzele uluhlu lokugqibezela imisebenzi yabo yasekhaya, ubancede ngomsebenzi wesikolo owenzelwa ekhaya, babekele ixesha lokubuyela ekhaya kwaye ngokwenza njalo babeka imithetho ebalulekileyo yasekhaya ekufuneka beyilandele kungenjalo baya kubekwa emhlabeni.
Gcina oku engqondweni, ukuba licebo elilungileyo ukushiya uqeqesho kubazali bemvelo kwiminyaka embalwa yokuqala, kungenxa yokuba umzali wesibini lilungu elingaqhelekanga kusapho, kwaye nabantwana ababoni njengabazali kananjalo abaniki malungelo okwenza into emanyeneyo.
Oku kungakhokelela kwinzondo kwicala lomzali okwinyathelo, ke kungcono ukuba umzali wesibini ahlale ecaleni, ajonge, kwaye axhase ngelixa umzali wokwenene esenza uqeqesho.
Ukusonjululwa kwembambano
Rhoqo, uyakudibana nokuxabana phakathi kwabantakwenu, inyani enokubakho, ukungabikho konxibelelwano, ukulwa okuncinci, kunye nokuziphatha gwenxa, kwaye ukuba ishiywe ingakhange iqatshelwe kusapho oludibeneyo ezi mpikiswano zinokunyuka kwaye zikhokelele kwimilo enzima hayi phakathi kwabantwana kuphela kodwa nabazali kakuhle.
Kubalulekile ukuba bobabini abazali beme phantsi njengabasemagunyeni kwezi meko zishushu kwaye bathathe isigqibo sokusebenza kwiingxabano abajamelene nazo abantwana babo ngenkuthalo. Qinisekisa ukuba bonke abantwana bakho bakhuselekile, kwaye akukho namnye umntakwenu omdala ophetheyo okanye oxhaphaza abancinci.
Eli lixesha apho ukusebenzisana kufuneka khona, kwaye abazali kufuneka basebenze ngokudibeneyo nabantwana ukubazolisa kwaye babavumele ukuba bathethe ngayo nantoni na ebangele le mfazwe yabantakwethu.
Isilingo sokuma nomntwana wakho ozelwe nguwe siya kukuqhubela ekubeni utyekele.
Cinga nje ngale nto njengemeko yosapho apho onke amalungu abaluleke ngokulinganayo ukuba iqabane lakho linokusixhathisa esi silingo kunakho.
Ukulingana
Ukuchasana nemfuza yakho yimvelo enentambo, kwaye inokulawulwa ngokuqiqa nangokwengqiqo.
Khumbula njalo ukugcina umdla wosapho lonke entliziyweni; ewe, nonke niyintsapho epheleleyo ngoku, kwaye abantwana beqabane lakho ngabakho kwaye kungenjalo.
Awunakho ukubonelela ngoncedo kubantwana bakho kwaye ulindele ukusebenza njengeyunithi yosapho olunye; ukulingana kubalulekile kusapho oluxubileyo, akukho mntu ufumana unyango olukhethekileyo lokufumana isibonelelo sebhayoloji, ukuba umntwana wakho uyaxakaniseka emva koko baya kohlwaywa njengabanye, kwaye xa kufikwa kuthando nothando, akukho mntwana uya kuhoywa.
Ukubaluleka kokulingana kubaluleke ngakumbi xa kusiziwa ekuthathweni kwezigqibo ezichaphazela usapho luphela; ngumsebenzi wenu njengabazali ukuqinisekisa ukuba onke amazwi ayaviwa, kwaye akukho luvo okanye siphakamiso siya kushiyeka ngasemva.
Yiba yinto elula njengokuthatha isigqibo sokutya okanye ukuthenga imoto, okanye ucwangcise uhambo losapho, njl. Thatha ingqiqo kuye wonke umntu.
Ukubuya kwesibini
Embindini walo mzabalazo ujijekileyo kodwa umhle sihlala silibale ukuchitha ixesha kunye njengesibini. Khumbula ukuba nawe sisibini esitshatileyo, hayi abazali kuphela.
Thatha ixesha lenu ngokwenu lokuthetha omnye nomnye okanye ukuya kumhla, thatha nje ikhefu ebantwaneni kwaye nizihlanganise.
Ukusinda kosapho lwakho oludibeneyo kuxhomekeke kuphela kulwalamano lwakho nabanye, kokukhona unxibelelana kakhulu neqabane lakho, kokukhona usapho lwakho ludibene ngakumbi. Cwangcisa imisebenzi kunye enithanda ukuyenza kunye; yindlela elungileyo yokulahla abantwana bakho kwizalamane okanye kubamelwane ukuze nichithe ixesha elininzi kunye.