Umxholo
- Andikuqondi ukubaluleka kolawulo lweemvakalelo
- Ukunqongophala kommiselo weemvakalelo kuthetha intlekele
- Kutheni ukubeka ubuso obonwabileyo kungasebenzi
- Senza ntoni ngommiselo weemvakalelo?
- Iimvakalelo ezinzima zomntu azibi mbi
- Ungawufunda njani ummiselo weemvakalelo
- 1. Funda ukwenza uthando kunye nobuhle
- 2. Thatha iimvakalelo zakho
- 3. Yahlula iipateni ezindala
- 4. Qalani ukunxibelelana nani
- 5. Musa ukuzijongela phantsi iimvakalelo zakho ezinzima
Eli lelona xesha likhethekileyo nelinzima kubo bonke ubuntu.
Sonke siziva sisemngciphekweni omkhulu ngenxa yentsholongwane encinci etshayela umhlaba nosongela impilo yethu, ekhokelela ekubeni singaziphathi ngokuziqhelanisa neemvakalelo kunye neziphumo ezibi kwimpilo yethu.
Ngexesha lamaxesha obunzima abangelwa ziziganeko zangaphandle, esingenakulawula, njengangoku, kunjalo kunokuba lula ukuphendula ngokubonisa uloyiko lwethu kunye nokuba sesichengeni kwabo basondeleyo kuthi.
Ukusingatha iimvakalelo, ukuhlala kunye ngamaxesha anzima, ukoyisa uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo, kunye nokungabi lixhoba lalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuphazamiseka kubuntu kuye kwaba luxanduva.
Umzekelo, ngu ukuba nomsindo ongalawulekiyo kwizinto ezingenangqondo, ezaziwa ngamagama aqhelekileyo njengokulahla inkunkuma - okanye ngokusivala.
Ngelixa le ndlela yesibini yokuphatha-okanye endaweni yokuphathwa-iimvakalelo ezinzima zinokubonakala njengeyona ndlela ibhetele, enyanisweni, ukucinezela iimvakalelo zethu kuyingozi njengokuziyeka ziqhume.
Alithandabuzeki elokuba ummiselo weemvakalelo kubalulekile - kokulungileyo nokungalunganga.
Ukulawula iimvakalelo zethu kunye nokutyhila iimvakalelo ezicinezelweyo zizakhono esinethemba lokuzifunda njengoko sikhula.
Andikuqondi ukubaluleka kolawulo lweemvakalelo
Ngelishwa, inyani yile abantu abaninzi abafundanga ngokweemvakalelo kwaye abazi izakhono zolawulo lweemvakalelo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali bethu bebengayazi indlela yokwazi nokuchaza iimvakalelo zabo ngeendlela ezisempilweni kwaye khange bakwazi ukusifundisa oko.
Akukho siphoso koku - ukuqonda ukuba abazali bethu kwaye nathi ngokwethu asifundanga ngokwasemoyeni akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sisole kwaye sigwebe nabani na ngokungoneliseki kwethu kulawulo lweemvakalelo.
Kodwa kufuneka funda ngakumbi ngeemvakalelo zethu kunye nendlela yokuchaza ukuba sifuna njalo ukuphucula impilo yethu kunye nobudlelwane bethu nabanye.
Ngokubanzi, xa kubangelwa ziimeko ezingathandekiyo kunye neemvakalelo, abantu bathanda ukusabela ngeendlela ezimbini: siqhuma kwaye asinazo "izihluzi," okanye siyazicinezela iimvakalelo zethu ukuzama ukugcina uxolo kwaye uphephe ukuziva ubhencekile kwaye usengozini.
Sonke siyazi ukuba xa sithetha ngamazwi nangezenzo, sinokonakalisa, kodwa uninzi lwethu aluyazi into yokuba ukuzama ukungcwaba okanye ukwala uloyiko, ukwenzakala, umsindo kunye nazo zonke iimvakalelo zethu 'ezingalunganga' zinokuphela. Ukutshabalalisa ngakumbi kunokuba ubonakalise.
Ukunqongophala kommiselo weemvakalelo kuthetha intlekele
Ixesha elingaphezulu, 'ukuhlohla' iimvakalelo zethu-ezaziwa njengokucinezelwa kwengqondo-zinokuvelisa zonke iintlobo zeengxaki, okokuqala, kwimizimba yethu, ezingqondweni nakubomi.
Uphando ngakumbi nangakumbi kulawulo lweemvakalelo luyavela oludibanisa zonke iintlobo zezifo zomzimba kunye neemeko zokucinezela iimvakalelo, kubandakanya:
- Umqolo obuhlungu
- Iingxaki zomlutha
- Umhlaza
- Fibromyalgia
Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo zihlala zibonisa iimpawu zoxinzeleloOko kwanele ukutsho ukuba ulawulo lweemvakalelo sisitshixo sokuhlala usempilweni kwaye wonwabile.
Into efanayo iyinyani kubudlelwane bethu, ngakumbi kwabo bakufutshane kuthi. Singakholelwa ekubeni senza into elungileyo 'ngokufaka' indlela esivakalelwa ngayo, kodwa ngaphakathi kwemizimba yethu, ukucinezela iimvakalelo kunokubangela ukubhloka kwamandla okuphelisa ukuvelisa izifo, into efanayo iyenzeka kubudlelwane bethu.
Ukuhamba konxibelelwano kunye nonxibelelwano kuya kuthintelwa ngumnqweno wethu wokungasigungqisi isikhephe, sibange ungquzulwano, okanye siziveze ngokunyaniseka malunga nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngokungagqibelelanga kunye nobuthathaka, nto leyo eya kuthi ekugqibeleni ibangele ezinye, nangakumbi, iingxaki ezinkulu!
Kutheni ukubeka ubuso obonwabileyo kungasebenzi
Xa 'sizifaka' iimvakalelo zethu kwaye 'sibeka ubuso obonwabileyo' ukuzama ukufihla indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngenene, sibeka umqondiso kwabanye ebomini bethu ukuba sizimisele ukusondela kuphela.
Ngelixa imeko yeemvakalelo eyenziwe 'yimixholo' inokuziva ikhuselekile ngandlela ithile, enyanisweni, imisa lonke unxibelelwano oluyinyani kwaye ihlukanise abantu.
Senza ntoni ngommiselo weemvakalelo?
Okokuqala, sinokujonga ixesha elinje, apho sicelwa umngeni ngemeko esingenako kwaphela ukuyilawula.
Uninzi lwethu lubambekile endlwini kunye namaqabane ethu kunye nabantu esibathandayo, Oku, enyanisweni, kunokuba yinto yokwenyani ithuba lokukhula kunye nokuzola kwethu izakhono zobudlelwane Ubudlelwane phakathi kwethu, nabantu esibathandayo, nabanye abantu, kunye nomhlaba wonke.
Le ntsholongwane ibiza ingqalelo yethu kubo bonke obu budlelwane kwaye inika umntu ngamnye wethu ithuba lokuthatha ixesha lokwenza utshintsho olunzulu.
Kanye njengokuba sibizelwa ukuba siyeke ukukhanyela, kwinqanaba elihlangeneyo, ukuba izenzo zethu zichaphazela impilo yomhlaba wethu, ikhaya lethu lokuqala, simenyiwe ukuba sijonge okwenzekayo kubomi bethu ngabanye.
Zeziphi iintlobo zeendawo ezinetyhefu esibhaptizwe kuzo ngenxa yobunzima bethu ekubeni sikwazi ukuyikhathalela kakuhle imizimba yethu, iingqondo, iimvakalelo kunye nobukhulu bokomoya.
Sihlala sicinga ukuba ubudlelwane obunetyhefu kunye neemeko zekhaya zenziwa kuphela ngabantu abaneengxaki zobuntu ezinzima kwaye bazingca kakhulu, banogonyamelo okanye banobuqhetseba.
Kodwa kufuneka sazi ukuba zikwenziwe ngokucinezela indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngokwenyani, ngokufaka iimvakalelo zethu, ukuthandabuza ukufunda ngommiselo weemvakalelo nangokuzivalela kuqala kuthi sonke.
Sifunda kwangoko ukukhanyela kunye nokucinezela umsindo wethu, umona, ikratshi, njl. Zonke ezo mvakalelo "zimbi" sixelelwe ukuba "zazingalunganga"
Iimvakalelo ezinzima zomntu azibi mbi
Kufuneka siqonde, nangona kunjalo, ukuba zonke ezi mvakalelo zinzima zomntu 'azibi'; zihlala zibonisa ukuba into ethile ngaphakathi kuthi okanye kubomi bethu okanye ubudlelwane budinga ukuhoywa.
Umzekelo, ukuba siziva sinomsindo kwiqabane lethu kwaye siyeke ukujonga umsindo wethu okomzuzwana, sinokufumanisa ukuba eyona ngxaki kukuba khange sithathe ixesha elaneleyo thina, okanye asikhange sikwazi ukucacisa Isicelo malunga nento esiyifunayo okanye esiyifunayo.
Okanye mhlawumbi 'sivalekile' kuba siphoxekile kukuba iqabane lethu linjalo hayi nje 'ukunyathela' kwizinto ezibonakala zicacile kuthi.
Xa olu hlobo lokukhathazeka lusanda ngokuhamba kwexesha, siphela sizivala, siziva singenathemba, kwaye sityhola iqabane lethu ngokungonwabi kwethu.
Into efanayo inokuba yinyani malunga nomsebenzi wethu, ubudlelwane bethu nabantwana kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho.
Ukuba asiziva mnandi ngobomi bethu okanye ubudlelwane bethu, into yokuqala ekufuneka siyenzile kukuyiqonda loo nto sinawo amandla okwenza utshintsho esiludingayo ukuze sizive sinethemba ngakumbi, sinxibelelene kwaye sibandakanyekile, ngaphakathi kwethu, kunye nabanye.
Jonga kwakhona:
Ungawufunda njani ummiselo weemvakalelo
Apha ngezantsi kukho amanyathelo alula kodwa abalulekileyo anokusinceda ekufumaneni uthando ngexesha lobunzima.
La manyathelo kulawulo olusempilweni lweemvakalelo luyakukunceda uthathe ubunini bokwenyani bobomi bakho, ukonwaba kwakho, ubudlelwane bakho, kwaye uqale ukudala ubomi obulangazelelayo.
1. Funda ukwenza uthando kunye nobuhle
Wonke umntu ulangazelela ukuziva ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyathandeka kwaye unendawo ekhethekileyo kulo mhlaba, nangona bengenakho "ukugqibelela."
Xa sigcwele uthando kunye nokuba ngabantu, nangona sisenza iimpazamo, siziva sinoxolo kwaye sinenjongo kwaye siphefumlelwe ukuba siphumelele emaphupheni ethu.
Uninzi lwethu, nangona kunjalo, aluziva ngathi luyathandwa okanye ukuba singabantu.
Siye sabandezeleka amanxeba amaninzi kunye nelahleko, kwaye mhlawumbi sikhulele kumakhaya angenako ukusinika oko sikudingayo, nokuba sisemphefumlweni okanye ngezinto eziphathekayo.
Kwaye nokuba sikhulele kumakhaya anothando, sisasokola ngokwenza ubomi bethu kunye nobudlelwane busebenze ngendlela esingathanda benze ngayo.
Senza konke okusemandleni ethu, kodwa sihlala siziva sinqanyulwe kubuntu bethu, nto leyo eyenza kube nzima nangakumbi ukunxibelelana nabanye, nangona le yeyona nto siyilangazelelayo.
Kuya kufuneka siyiqonde into yokuba nangona nantoni na engaphandle- ulwalamano lothando, izinto eziphathekayo, impumelelo kumakhondo ethu omsebenzi-inokuzalisa ukungabikho kunye nokulangazelela esivakalelwa kuko okwethutyana, ngamanye amaxesha iyayeka ukusebenza.
Kubudlelwane bezothando, umzekelo, izigaba zokuqala zokuthandana ziyamangalisa, kwaye zihlala zisenza sizive sikhulu.
Ekugqibeleni sikhethekile emehlweni omntu, kwaye lo "mntu" naye ubonakala ebaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Yimvakalelo emnandi!
Kodwa kungekudala, umlingo uqala ukunxiba, kwaye siqala ukubona ukuba omnye umntu eneneni akafezekanga njengoko besicinga kwaye kuya kusiba nzima kwaye kunzima ukudibanisa njengoko besenzile ngaphambili.
Njengokucaphuka okuncinci kunye nokukhulu ukusilela ukuqala ukusakha, kunokuziva ngathi ulwahlulo olukhulu luya lubanzi kwaye lubanzi.
Kulapho kunokuba lula kakhulu ukukholelwa ukuba umgama okhulayo yimpazamo yomntu. Abanye bethu bathanda ukubeka ityala kumaqabane abo, ngelixa abanye beqhele ukuthatha ityala kubo bonke. Kodwa enyanisweni konke kubila kukusilela kommiselo weemvakalelo.
Uninzi lwethu ludibana nomxube kwaye siye emva naphambili phakathi kokukhomba ngomnwe kumaqabane ethu kunye neentloni kunye nokuzibeka ityala ngokungakwazi ukubona izinto kwaye sisebenze.
Ukwenza sizive ngcono, sizama ukugoba nokuzikhohlisa kunye nabanye, kodwa akukho nto ibonakala isebenza.
Endaweni yoko, Kufuneka sime kwaye siyiqonde loo nto xa kunzima, ungquzulwano, kwaye idiskiuqhagamshelo luqala ukubonakala kubudlelwane, Lifikile ixesha lokuba sizimisele ukungena ngaphakathi kuthi, sifunde indlela yokunxibelelana nabaPhezulu bethu, kwaye sizithande ngakumbi. Oku kuya kuququzelela inkqubo yokufundisa ukuzilawula kunye nezakhono zolawulo lweemvakalelo.
Ukungabi nokuzingca ngakumbi kwaye unqumle enye nangaphezulu, kodwa ukuze ucace ngakumbi, okokuqala kuthi, malunga noko sikudingayo kwaye sifuna ukwenza ubomi bethu bube ngumfanekiso ongcono womphefumlo.
Kufuneka sazi ukuba asingamaxhoba angenamandla; singathatha amanyathelo nje amancinci okufunda iindlela ezintsha zokwakha uthando kuthi kwaye samkele imo yeemvakalelo kwingqondo esempilweni.
Ukuthanda isiqu sakho ayizami ukuzama ukuba ngcono kunabanye.
Imalunga nokufunda ukuba zeziphi iimfuno zethu kwaye sithathe uxanduva ngazo, nto leyo ezisa uvakalelo olukhulu lokuzithemba, ukuzithemba, kunye nokuzixabisa, kwaye isinceda sakhe unxibelelwano olusebenzayo kunye nonxibelelwano kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu.
Enoba zinzima kangakanani na iimeko zethu, sinako thatha ulonwabo lwethu kwaye uthathe nokuba libe linye inyathelo elincinci ngosuku oluya kuthi ekugqibeleni lusikhokelele kwindawo esifuna ukuba kuyo.
Ukuba ufunda eli nqaku, umzekelo, unokufuna ukufunda izinto ezintsha ezinokukunceda ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi bakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho, kwaye kulungile kakhulu!
Zinike ityala ngokuthatha eli nyathelo, ngokulungela ukuzivulela izimvo ezintsha ezinokukunceda wenze ubomi obunqwenelayo kunye nokufezekisa imo yeemvakalelo.
NjengoAntonio Mercurio, umseki weAnthropology yoBuntu kunye neCosmo-Art uthi:
"Namhlanje lusuku olutsha, kwaye ndingakhetha ukudala uthando noBuhle."
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba siyenze ngokugqibeleleyo: nokuba kukhetho oluncinci lothando kuthi nakwabanye luneziphumo ezimangalisayo zokunceda ukudala uthando kunye nobuhle obungakumbi ngaphakathi kuthi nakubomi bethu.
Kwaye, njengoko siziqhelanisa nothando lwethu njengobuGcisa bokuhonjiswa kunye nokufunda, siya kuba bhetele kuyo, njengaye nawuphi na umsebenzi wobugcisa, kwaye izibonelelo ziqala ukuhlawula ngenene.
2. Thatha iimvakalelo zakho
Ukufunda indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngokwenyani, zeziphi ezona mfuno zethu zinzulu kunye neminqweno yethu, kwaye siziveze, yinto ebalulekileyo yoThando lokuZithanda. Ikwabonelela ngolwazi oluphambili ekuphuhliseni ummiselo weemvakalelo.
Uninzi lwethu luqhele kakhulu ukuba luvale iimvakalelo zethu okanye luqhume ngokuthe ngqo ngomsindo kangangokuba asazi ukuba ziyintoni na iimvakalelo zethu kwaye nokuba yintoni enokubangela.
Ukufunda ukuba ungazichaza njani iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye uzidibanise nento enokuthi ibasuse, nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo emzimbeni wakho kunye nohlobo lweengcinga abaqhele ukuzenza engqondweni yakho, kuthatha kancinci umsebenzi, kwaye unokufuna ukufumana uncedo lobuchwephesha kule nkqubo.
Uninzi lwethu lufunde kwangoko ukucinezela kunye nokukhanyela ezona mvakalelo zethu zinzulu, kwaye kungathatha isenzo esinzulu ukubuyela kuthi ukuze sizilungiselele kwaye siziqhelanise nomgaqo wolawulo lweemvakalelo.
Nokuba uwedwa, ungaqala ukuqaphela indlela oziva ngayo imini yonke, kwaye "uthethe" iimvakalelo zakho njengoko zisiza. (Unokwenza uphando lwewebhu kwaye ufumane uluhlu olupheleleyo lweemvakalelo ezinokukunceda uchonge indlela oziva ngayo).
Unokwenza oku ngokushicilela, kwaye ngokuthetha nawe imini yonke, ungayenza ibe namandla ngakumbi ngokuthetha nabanye abantu.
Ukufunda ukusebenzisa iingxelo zokuziva - "Ndiziva ndibuhlungu kakhulu namhlanje," okanye "Ndiziva ndisoyika," okanye "Ndiziva ndinelunda ngokwam ngokugqibezela imisebenzi yam," "Ndiziva ndiphumle ngokumangalisayo emva kokuhlamba ! ”-Nakwizinto ezincinci, zisinika ukuziqhelanisa nokunyaniseka nokudityaniswa, okokuqala kwiinto zonke, ngaphakathi kwethu.
Njengoko sifunda ukuzamkela kuzo zonke iimvakalelo zethu ezininzi kunye nokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo, kokulungileyo nokungalunganga, okuhloniphekileyo kwaye kungabi kokuhle kangako, sifunda ukwamkela ubuntu bethu nokubona ukungafezeki kwethu njengamathuba okukhula, kunokuba njengeziphoso ezoyikekayo ezifihliweyo. ukusuka kumbono.
Icebo lolawulo lweemvakalelo kukuqala kancinci kwaye ufumane okuninzi kokuziqhelanisa, ukuze uzive ukhululeke ngakumbi ngokuthi "ube" neemvakalelo zakho, kwaye uqonde ukuba ewe - ungazithemba, kwaye ungaphatha ezona mvakalelo zinzima njengentlungu , uloyiko, umsindo, umnqweno wokulawula nokulawula abanye, umona, umona, ukubawa, intiyo, njl.
Ngokwenyani, okukhona sinokubonisa ngokunyanisekileyo indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngokuthetha nje iimvakalelo zethu ngokuvakalayo, kokukhona siziva sinamandla.
Akusekho mfuneko yokuba sisebenze nzima ukuze sigcine ezo mvakalelo zicinezelwe kwaye senze ngathi sivakalelwa zizinto esingazizo, okanye singaziva izinto esizizo!
Ukuchaza indlela esivakalelwa ngayo akuthethi, nangona kunjalo, ukuqhumisa abanye abantu ngeemvakalelo zethu ezingafakwanga.
Ukuba ungumntu othanda ukuba nomsindo ngokulula, kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukulandela umthetho odumileyo "ukubala ukuya kwelishumi": ukubala ukuya kwelishumi, okanye nangaphezulu ukuba uyafuna, ngaphambi kokuba uthethe okanye wenze.
Oko kunokukunika ixesha lokuvumela amandla omsindo wakho ukuba ahlale kancinci, ke unokufumana indlela yokunxibelelana engayi kwenzakalisa omnye okanye ibenze bazikhusele.
Khumbula-umnqweno wakho kukudala uthando kunye nobuhle-ukuba nolwalamano olungcono kunye nawe kunye nabanye.
Injongo ayikuko ukuba "ilungile," okanye ukulawula abanye okanye isiqu sakho, kwaye ukulungela ukutshintsha iipateni zakho kungathatha umzamo othile, kodwa yeyona nto inokukuzisela into oyifunayo!
Kuyafana, ngendlela, ngokuthetha ngokwakho: Ukuzigxeka ngeempazamo zakho kunye neziphoso zakho ngekhe zikwenze umntu ongcono.
Ukuziqonda iimpazamo zethu kubalulekile, kodwa sakuba siziqaphele, singazibuza nje ukuba singazilungisa njani- ngaba singazilungisa ezinye? Ngaba kuthi? -Uze uqhubeke.
Ukuba endaweni yoko, uluhlobo lomntu othanda ukuvala umlomo xa uziva ukhathazekile okanye ungonwabanga ngento ethile kwaye wenze ngathi yonke into ilungile, umsebenzi wakho uzakuba kukwenza inzame yonke imihla ukuba ube ngqo kwaye uthembeke malunga nendlela baziva.
Ekuqaleni kokwenza ummiselo weemvakalelo, kuya kuziva kunzima kwaye ungonwabanga. Uqhele ukuzikhupha uze ukhanyele ukuba unemvakalelo malunga nezinto (kwaye ungakholelwa ukuba unesifo soxinzelelo.)
Kodwa uluvo lwam kukuba sebenzela ekubeni uvule ngakumbi kwaye uthembeke malunga nendlela oziva ngayo iiveki ezimbalwa, kwaye ubone ukuba ukudakumba kwakho kuhamba njani emva koko), ke kuyakuthatha ukuziqhelanisa ukuze uzive nyani kwakhona.
Kodwa xa sele uqalile, uyakumangaliswa kukuba uza kuqala ukuziva amandla angakanani kwaye ungaziva unxibelelana kangakanani neqabane lakho.
Usenokuzibuza, “Kodwa ndingaqala njani ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zam zokwenyani ngelixa ndivaleleke endlwini? Kuthekani ukuba ngokwabelana ngendlela endiziva ngayo, wonke umntu uyaphulukana nolawulo?
Kuthekani ukuba izinto azihambi kakuhle? Kuthekani ukuba iqabane lam / abantwana bam / amalungu osapho asabela gwenxa? Kuthekani ukuba ndiziva ndonganyelwe kukuzama ukufunda umthetho weemvakalelo? ”
Lonke olu loyiko luyaqondakala ngokuqinisekileyo.
3. Yahlula iipateni ezindala
Kunzima ukwahlukana nemikhwa ebesiyilandela uninzi lobomi bethu, kwaye kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ngakumbi xa siphakathi kwengxaki enkulu.
Nangona kunjalo, okwahlukileyo kuyinyani: xa siphakathi kwengxwabangxwaba yehlabathi efana nale sikuyo ngoku, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuzama ukwenza utshintsho, kuba okuninzi sele kuguquka.
Sinethuba lokwenyani lokuba siqale sijonge kubomi bethu kwaye sinyaniseke ngokunzulu malunga noko sikufunayo nesingakufuniyo, kubalulekile kwaye kunentsingiselo kuthi, kwaye yintoni engekhoyo, kwaye siqale ukuthatha amanyathelo okwakha ubomi esibuphilayo ndifuna.
4. Qalani ukunxibelelana nani
Endaweni yokuba sihlale singamaxhoba phambi kwe "screens" zethu okanye sikhethe iindlela ngeendlela, singathatha ixesha elininzi suku ngalunye ukuqala ukunxibelelana nathi, nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo malunga nezinto, ngokufunda ukuba ukuthetha inyani yethu kwaye uvule umnyango wokudala ukusondelelana nabanye.
Ukuba sigcina phambili kwezona njongo zethu ziphambili - ukudala uthando kunye nobuhle ebomini bethu, ngenye imini - singafunda indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zethu ezinzima ngeendlela ezakhayo.
Singazinika ixesha lokuphefumla, emva koko sitshintshe ukugxila kwinto eya kusinceda sizive ngcono - isenzo esincinci sothando esinokusizisela ukuvula iintliziyo zethu kwaye siqonde ukuba sinamandla angaphezulu kunokuba sicinga ukutshintsha indlela esivakalelwa ngayo.
5. Musa ukuzijongela phantsi iimvakalelo zakho ezinzima
Imalunga nokuqala sibamkele ukuze sibakhulule bahambe kwaye sijolise koku sikufundayo, kwaye sizixhobise ngento eza kuququzelela ulawulo lweemvakalelo.
Oku kunokusizisela uthando ngakumbi, unxibelelwano ngakumbi, ukuthembela ngakumbi, ubuhle ngakumbi kuthi nakwindlela esidibana ngayo nabanye.
Ilizwe elingcono liqala ngabantu ngabanye ukuphucula ubomi babo kunye nokuphucula ubomi bethu kuqala ngokuzikhathalela kunye nokuthatha ubunini bolonwabo kunye nentlalo-ntle.
Hayi nje kwinqanaba lezinto ezibonakalayo, kodwa kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, ezengqondo kunye nolwalamano ngokunjalo.
Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sigqibelele ngobusuku obunye okanye ukuba siyasokola ngezi zixhobo zintsha, kukho into engalunganga kuthi.
Okuphikisanayo - Kufuneka sizicinge njengamaGcisa obomi bethu, sisenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukuziqhelanisa nendlela yokuzithanda kunye nokuthanda abanye ngakumbi yonke imihla.
Yonke into encinci yothando noBuhle esinokuthi siyenze ngokwethu kunye nobudlelwane ligalelo elibaluleke kakhulu kwihlabathi elingcono, kwaye akukaze kubekho mfuneko yakudlula ngoku.
Singabanamandla onke-masisebenzise le ngxaki ukuba sifunde ubugcisa kunye nesayensi yolawulo lweemvakalelo kwaye senze uthando kunye nobuhle, ngeendlela ezincinci, yonke imihla.