Umxholo
- 1. Sukulindela ukukholelwa enkundleni
- 2. Ijaji iyakuphatha ngokulinganayo wena kunye narcissist
- 3. Nciphisa unxibelelwano
- 4. Beka imida kwaye unamathele kuyo
- 5. Bhala yonke into
Wenze impazamo ngokutshata nendoda ye-narcissist, mhlawumbi uziva ungathandwa okanye ungafunwa kulwalamano lwakho. Awunxibelelani kakuhle neqabane lakho, umyeni wakho ongakhathaliyo akanaxanduva ngesenzo sakhe, uziva emkhulu emtshatweni, uhlala elungile kwaye engaze aphazame kwaye uhlala esenza ngathi akanguye.
Ucinga ukuba ungawusindisa njani umtshato, kodwa ukunyaniseka, umtshato wakho awunakulungiswa. Ekuphela kwento efanelekileyo onokuyenza kukufaka uqhawulo mtshato. Ewe, njengoko kumangalisa njengoko kuvakala, uqhawulo mtshato lolona khetho lufanelekileyo kuwe.
Kuyaqondakala ukuba uninzi lwabantu luya kwenza nantoni na ukuthintela ukumangalelwa ngenxa yazo naziphi na izizathu, kubandakanya indleko zemali, ukulahleka kwemfihlo, ukubalwa okungafunekiyo kokuchasana phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho, iintlungu ezibangela abantwana namanye amalungu osapho, kunye uloyiko lokubeka ubomi bakho bonke ezandleni zomntu ongamaziyo opheleleyo, uhleli ebhentshini phambi kwenkundla.
Kodwa kufuneka yenziwe ngandlela thile, ke nazi ezinye zeengcebiso ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzibekele ngaphezulu koqhawulo-mtshato wakho narcissist.
1. Sukulindela ukukholelwa enkundleni
Ngokuqinisekileyo, enkundleni, kukho amaqhinga ahlukeneyo anokutshiwo liqabane lakho. Inombolo yokuqala ikwenza ukuba wena nabahlobo bakho niyithandabuze into eniyithethayo.
Kodwa kuya kufuneka ume phantsi kwaye uzame ukwenza izinto zicace, ndiza kukucebisa ukuba ube nomhlobo okholelwa yonke into malunga necala lakho. AbakwaNarcissists bayakonwabela ukukukhuthaza ukuba uphendule, kungoko kungcono ukuba uwuthintele umnqweno wakho wokuziphindezela okanye wenze ngendlela engxamisekileyo kwinto ethethwa nokwenziwa ngumnxibelelanisi.
2. Ijaji iyakuphatha ngokulinganayo wena kunye narcissist
Igumbi lenkundla lelokulingana kunye nobulungisa.
Ijaji iyakuphatha ngokulinganayo kunye ne-narcissist yakho, ijaji ayizukuyibona i-bullshit ye-narcissist. Ijaji ayizukuyithathela ingqalelo into yokuba ebekuhlukumeza iinyanga okanye iminyaka eliqela, ijaji ayizukububona ubuxoki ebebuthethile okanye indlela ebekhe wakwenza ngayo ngaphambili. Eyona nto intle ukuyenza kukulungela nakuphi na ukumangaliswa. Yiba neenkcukacha zakho kunye neenkcukacha ezichanekileyo.
Sukucinga ukuba, ijaji iyakukuxhasa ngesizathu okanye enye. Zilungiselele.
3. Nciphisa unxibelelwano
Ngokuqinisekileyo, iqabane lakho liya kufuna ukwenza nantoni na ukutshintsha inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato. Oku kubandakanya ukudibana nawe kunye nokuzama "ukukucenga" ukuba ungaqhubeki noqhawulo mtshato. Usenokude aqale “ukukuthembisa” ukuba uza kutshintsha.
Kodwa zonke zinkohliso.
Ukuzibandakanya kwiimfazwe zemihla ngemihla kunye neqabane lakho ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuwachitha amandla akho kwaye kuyakukugcina ekwenzeni inkqubela phambili kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ukuphumelela eli dabi, kufuneka unqumle naluphi na uhlobo lonxibelelwano naye. Kuya kufuneka ucime umnxibelelwano wakhe, umbambe kuzo zonke iiakhawunti zakho zemidiya yoluntu.
Kungenxa yokuba ukumvimba kushenxisa zonke iindlela zokungqubana ngamazwi xa usibona iqabane lakho.
4. Beka imida kwaye unamathele kuyo
Ukoyisa naluphi na uhlobo loqhawulo-mtshato, ukuseta imida okanye imida kubalulekile. Kukho izinto ekufuneka uzithintele ukuba uzenze kwaye kukho iintshukumo ekufuneka uzenzile ukuba imida iwele.
Eyona ndlela yokuthintela ukuba yi-pawn kumdlalo wakhe kukuseta imida eqinileyo.
Namathela kwimida, u "Hayi" wakho makabe ngu "Hayi". Ukoyisa uqhawulo-mtshato kunye nomyeni wakho ongumlingisi, kufuneka wenze okungaphezulu kokumisela imigangatho kodwa ngokubambelela kuyo.
5. Bhala yonke into
Njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, ii-narcissists zezona zibalaseleyo kwimidlalo yengqondo. Uyakwenza izinto eziza kukuthandabuzisa ingqondo yakho. Unokusebenzisa iinyani onazo ngokuchasene naye. Eyona ndlela yokulwa izakhono zakhe zokukhohlisa kukuqinisekisa ukuba ubhala yonke into eyenzekayo nomyeni wakho we-narcissist.
Khumbula, awuzukufumana nto ngaphandle kwesiphithiphithi kunye neengxaki ngelixa utshatile nendoda ye-narcissist. Umyeni wakho we-narcissist akafuni kuphulukana netyala lomtshato kuwe. Landela ezi ngcebiso ziluncedo ngendlela onokuphumelela ngayo xa uqhawula umtshato nendoda ye-narcissist kunye nokuphelisa ukubandezeleka kwakho, ukuze uqale ngokutsha.