Umxholo
- 1. Zinike ingqalelo ebebapha yona
- 2. Chaza iingenelo zokutshintsha
- 3.Qonda ukuba kutheni kusenzeka nje oku
- 4. Ukuseka ukuThatha
- 5. Phinda uqhagamshele kunye neXabiso lakho
- 6. Yiza neempumelelo zangaphambili
- 7. Seka into oLangazelela ukujongana nayo
- 8. Thetha nawe
- 9. Thatha iiBreaks ucacise ukuba kutheni
- 10. Yalatha Xa Uyifuna
- 11. Thatha isigqibo sokuba uya kuhlala nabo na
Nokuba ungayithanda kangakanani enye yakho ebalulekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha, ayonelanga kubo ukuba bangathatha umzuzwana kwaye bacinge ngeemvakalelo zakho kwimeko ethile. Ngexesha elinye, kuya kufuneka ujongane neqabane elizingcayo, nokuba kungabom okanye ngengozi.
Oku akuthethi ukuba bazicingela bodwa- kusenokwenzeka ukuba isiqingatha sakho esingcono senze izinto ezicingayo nezikhathalelayo ixesha elininzi. Nangona kunjalo, ngalo lonke ixesha kunye nexesha, baya kutyibilika xa kufikwa ekukhathaleleni iimfuno zakho.
Uninzi mhlawumbi, kukho iindlela ezithile zokuzingca onqwenela ukuba ezinye zakho zijongane nazo-umzekelo, uhlala ulindele ukuba ulungiselele isidlo sangokuhlwa nangona usebenza emva kwexesha okanye unganikeli ngqalelo kwaphela xa ukhalazela into ethile.
Ngethamsanqa, kukho ezinye izinto onokuzenza ukuphucula oyithandayo. Ngaphambi kokuya phambili, Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba injongo apha ayikokutshintsha lo mntu ngokupheleleyo, njengoko ungaze unqwenele ukutshintsha abantu obathandayo ukuba balingane nombono wabo-awupheli kakuhle. Inqaku apha kukuzama ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho.
Endaweni yokuba ubangxolise kwaye uqale ngengxoxo, kukho iindlela ezingcono kunye nezisebenzayo zokuzisa isicelo esibuthathaka. Oku kulandelayo ziindlela ezili-11 ze indlela yokujongana nabantu abazithandayo, ngakumbi ukuba liqabane lakho.
1. Zinike ingqalelo ebebapha yona
Lixesha eliphezulu lokuba uguqula uthando olugqithisileyo kunye nengqwalaselo oyinika iqabane lakho elizingcayo kuwe. Ukuba awuzihoyi iimfuno zakho kwaye utyale ingqalelo yakho kunye namandla akho kumntu ozimilisayo, endaweni yokuba le ilungile, iya kukwenzakalisa kwaye ikukhathaze ngokwasemoyeni.
Kutheni ungazibonakalisi nje uthando, ixesha lokuzikhathalela, ukuzibandakanya kwizinto ozithandayo, ukunikela ingqalelo ngakumbi kwiimfuno zakho, kwaye ugcine ezabo zitshisa ngasemva.
2. Chaza iingenelo zokutshintsha
Endaweni yokukhwaza nje into enje Kuya kufuneka utshintshe i-ASAP”Kuzo, kuya kufuneka ubeke izibonelelo zokubeka iinzame ezithile zokutshintsha.
Ngale ndlela, baya kuba nakho ukuqonda ukuba zingcono kangakanani na izinto ezinokuba njalo. Kuya kufuneka ugxininise kwifayile ye- izibonelelo zokutshintsha. Ukwenza njalo kuya kunceda ekwenzeni umbono wabo ngokwabo njengongcono.
Ngokubanceda babone ukuba ingakanani into encinci enokukwenza wonwabe kwaye yomeleze ubudlelwane bakho, iyakubakhuthaza ukuba batshintshe.
3.Qonda ukuba kutheni kusenzeka nje oku
Ngamaxesha athile, uyakufumanisa ukuba abantu benza ngendlela ethile ngenxa yamava athile adlulileyo.Ke, ngaphambi kokuba umgxothe ngokupheleleyo umlingane wakho ozingcayo, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba baziphathe ngale ndlela.
Ke, ungajongana njani nomntu ozingcayo kubudlelwane?
Ngokuya kwingcambu yokuziphatha kunye nokuba yintoni ebangela oko, uya kuba kwimeko engcono yokuyiphatha ngendlela enceda ukuyinciphisa. Ukuba bebengahoywanga okanye bengakhathalelwanga kwixa elidlulileyo, inokuchaphazela indlela abaziphethe ngayo ngoku. Ukuziphatha kwabo kunokuba yimpendulo kwinto oyenzayo. Kuza kunceda ukufumanisa ukuba ingaba yintoni unobangela wale ngxaki.
4. Ukuseka ukuThatha
Uya kukufumanisa kuluncedo ngakumbi ukuthetha malunga nengxaki ngesisombululo esele sikufutshane. Ke, xa uphakamisa umba wokuzingca kwabo, cebisa ngombono wokutshintsha.
Kuya kufuneka uzame ulinge 'lokutshintsha' apho ngamnye wenu atshintshanayo ukuthetha, ukumamela, kunye nokwenza izinto ezilungileyo. Yenza le meko ibe yeyolwalamano lwakho kwaye uvavanye ukuba izinto ziphuma kanjani. Ngelixa oku kunokuziva kusetelwe, kuya kubanceda baqonde ukuba ulindele ntoni kubo.
5. Phinda uqhagamshele kunye neXabiso lakho
Ngamanye amaxesha sivumela abantu abazingcayo kubudlelwane ukuba basinyathele ngenxa yokuba singakuqondi ngokupheleleyo ukubaluleka kwethu. Ukuqonda ukuba awufanelanga kuphathwa ngolu hlobo, kufuneka uphinde umise ixabiso lakho.
Ukunxibelelana kwakhona nexabiso lakho kungafuna ukuchitha ixesha elincinci neqabane lakho lokuzingca. Zibandakanye kwizinto ozithandayo kwaye unakekele umdla wakho. Chitha ixesha elininzi nabantu obathandayo kwaye wonwabe. Unokusebenzisa iziqinisekiso ezinje
'Ndingumntu omangalisayo ongenangxaki ngokunikezela ngesiqwenga sokugqibela sepitsa. Ngapha koko, ndiyadlala. ”
Ngale ndlela, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukubiza iqabane lakho ukuba lizicingele.
6. Yiza neempumelelo zangaphambili
Kwimeko apho ubukubo buhlobo ixesha elingaphezulu kweenyanga ezimbini, kulindeleke kakhulu ukuba wena neqabane lakho nisebenze kunye ukujongana neengxaki zethu ukuze nize kwisivumelwano. Xa uthetha ngokujongana neqabane elizingcayo kunye nokuzingca kwabo, kuyanceda ukuphakamisa impumelelo eyadlulayo.
Kwimeko enjalo, ungajongana njani neqabane elizithandayo?
Kuya kufuneka uthethe malunga nokuba bobabini bakwazile ukufezekisa ntoni malunga nokukhula kunye notshintsho, nokuba bancinci kangakanani. Kuya kufuneka ugcine kude betyholana. Ukwenza njalo kuya kubanceda bakhumbule indlela ekumnandi ngayo kwaye bakhuthazeke ukuyenza.
7. Seka into oLangazelela ukujongana nayo
Ungahlala njani neqabane ozingcayo?
Ukuba umntu omthandayo uziphatha ngokuzingca, kuya kufuneka uze nemida. Chaza izinto onokungazihoyi kunye nezinto ofuna inani elifanelekileyo lokuqwalaselwa kuzo. Kuya kufuneka ufumanise ukuba yeyiphi imiba yobomi bakho ongasenakulungelelanisa nayo kwaye wakhe ucingo macala onke.
Ngelixa iqabane lakho lokuzingca lisoloko lisitya ipitsa yokugqibela kunokuba yinto ecaphukisayo, ayisiyompazamo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba abakukhathaleli xa unombandela ukuze bakwazi ukuthetha ngokwabo, oku kunokuba sisaphuli-mthetho.
8. Thetha nawe
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukujongana nabantu abazingcayo kunzima kuba abantu bayasilela ukuqonda xa besenza izinto ngokuzingca bade baboniswe ngumntu. Kungoko kuya kuba kuhle ukuba uthethile. Nangona kunjalo, kungangcono ukuba ulumke kwaye uyayikhumbula indlela oyenza ngayo ukunqanda umlo kunye neqabane elizingcayo.
Endaweni yokukhwaza nokuphosa umsindo nokuthetha izinto ezinje
‘Awusoze undimamele; uhlala usenza yonke into ngawe, '
Kuya kufuneka uzame ukuthetha into ecaleni kwemigca,
Ndidinga ukuthetha nomntu malunga nomba othile obusoloko undikhathaza. Ngaba uyafuna ukundimamela? ”
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba bazimisele ukukuphulaphula kwaye ke, nobabini niya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana ngeemfuno kunye neendawo eniza kusebenza kuzo.
Kwividiyo engezantsi, uStacy Rocklein uthetha ngokwabelana ngengxaki nabathandekayo kwaye acace gca ukuba yintoni kanye kanye efunekayo kubo.
9. Thatha iiBreaks ucacise ukuba kutheni
Kwimeko apho iqabane lakho elizicingelayo lizicingela ngokwakho kwiveki ethile, kuya kufuneka ke uthathe ikhefu ukuze ujonge ngokwakho. Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zokungeva kuwe, baya kuzama ukufumanisa ukuba kukho into engalunganga.
Apha ungabachazela ukuba kutheni ukuthatha ikhefu kubo ngolu hlobo kubalulekile kwimpilo-ntle yakho. Eli isenokuba licebo ababelifuna ukuqala utshintsho. Ngelixa kunokuphuma kungqwabalala ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ikhefu kubo njengoko benokunxibisa, kwaye banokungaqondi, inokuba sisifundo esibalulekileyo.
10. Yalatha Xa Uyifuna
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuya kufuneka ukhumbuze iqabane lakho elizithandayo amaxesha amaninzi ngokuzingca kwabo ngaphambi kokuba bahlukane ngokupheleleyo nomkhwa. Ke ngoko, kufuneka ube nomonde. Nangona kunjalo, ukucaca gca kwinto oyifunayo ngalo mzuzu yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba ufumana uthando oludingayo xa ulufuna.
Endaweni yokuba ucaphuke usithi yonke into ihlala ihleli ngabo, kuya kufuneka uzame ukubacela ukuba bakumamele. Baxelele ukuba unengxaki okanye usuku olunengxaki kwaye ubabuze ukuba bakulungele ukumamela.
11. Thatha isigqibo sokuba uya kuhlala nabo na
Ngamaxesha athile, abantu bayasilela ukutshintsha, kwaye kwiimeko ezinjalo, kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba kufuneka uqhubeke na. Kwimeko apho ubeke iinzame zakho zokubenza baqonde ukuba ukuzingca kwabo kukuchaphazela njani, kwaye abasenakho ukutshintsha, oko akunakuba lilize ukuqhubeka.
Ngaphandle koko, kunokuba nefuthe elihle kubo. Ngokungayinyamezeli impatho embi kwakhona, uyanceda ukufundisa abanye ukuba nobubele. Ukuhamba kude neqabane lakho lokuzingca kungabanyanzela ukuba basebenze ngokwabo.
Ke ngoko, kwixesha elizayo xa iqabane lakho lisenza ngokuzingca, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngokuzama ezi ngcebiso ukumisela ukuba ungayiphucula na imeko.