Umxholo
- Kungenxa yendaleko yethu
- Bakhulile ngakumbi kwaye banamava
- Akukho khuphiswano
- Ukuthandana nomntu osele ekhulile nako kuneengxaki zako
Yinto eyaziwayo ukuba amadoda athanda ukutshata abafazi abancinci kunabo. Ngokubanzi, uninzi lwabantu aluthethi ngobuhlobo xa umahluko wobudala phakathi kwamaqabane ukuya kwiminyaka eyi-10-12, kodwa xa kukho isithuba seminyaka engaphezulu kwe-20, kwaye indoda isondele kubazali beqabane layo, izimvo zinokuqala ukutshintshela kuhlalutyo olunzima endaweni yoko. Kodwa ngokwenene, kutheni abafazi bekhetha amadoda amadala?
Kuqhelekile ukubona kuluntu lwaseNtshona izibini ezinomlinganiso omkhulu wobudala phakathi kwabantu. Ngaphezulu kwe-8% yezibini ezitshatileyo ezithandanayo zinesithuba seminyaka ubuncinci se-10, kunye nendoda ibe liqabane elidala kulwalamano. Kuphononongo olwenziwe nguJustin J. Lehmiller noChristopher R. Agnew, kwafumaniseka ukuba yi-1% kuphela yabantu abatshatileyo ababesebenzisana neqabane eliselula.
Kungenxa yendaleko yethu
Isizathu sokuba kutheni ngamanye amaxesha umahluko obonakalayo wobudala phakathi kwamaqabane usenzeka unengcambu zawo kwibhayiloji yendaleko. Ukomelela kokuzala kubonisa eyona nto iphambili kwindaleko, kwaye oku kungachaza imeko yesithuba esikhulu sobudala esifunyenwe phakathi kwamaqabane.
Amadoda adla ngokulandela ukomelela kunye nomtsalane, ulutsha lube sisalathiso sokuzala.
Kwakhona, amadoda athanda ukusebenzisana nabafazi abancinci kakhulu kunabo ngenxa yamathemba aphezulu okufumana ubutyebi, kwaye banokuhlala bechuma ixesha elide kunabafazi. Oku, kudibene nenyaniso yokuba amadoda amadala aqokelele izibonelelo kwiminyaka kunye namava, yinto ephambili yesizathu sokuba abafazi babe nokukhetha ngakumbi kubo.
Abafazi bakwangamaqabane namadoda amadala kakhulu kunabo ngenxa yokuba bebeka ukubaluleka kwinqanaba labo ekuhlaleni kunye nezixhobo abanokubonelela ngazo.
Abasetyhini bahlala bejonga kumaqabane abo baneendlela ezifanelekileyo zokubanika ukhuseleko ixesha elide. Umdala le ndoda, ngakumbi kunokwenzeka ukuba ifumene izinto ezininzi kunye namandla ngaphezulu kweminyaka. Oku kuthetha uzinzo, kwaye nokuba iqabane elidala lendoda liza kulufumba izipho, ngokufuthi ngokwezemali, kwiqabane labo elincinci. Amandla akhe nokuzithemba kuya kukhula kwakhona xa ebonisa iqabane lakhe elincinci eluntwini.
Bakhulile ngakumbi kwaye banamava
Ayisiyiyo nje iwayini ebangcono ngokuguga, kodwa namadoda. Abasetyhini bathambekele ekufuneni amaqabane abanobuchule ngakumbi kunabo, abanolwazi ngakumbi ngamava obomi, kwaye abanokuzilawula ngokufanelekileyo ngemikhwa xa bephandle kwamehlo oluntu.
Amadoda amadala ayenexesha lokwazi umhlaba. Bayayazi indlela yokukholisa umfazi kwaye yintoni emenza ukuba aphawule ngaphakathi.
Ngokungafaniyo nabantu abancinci, abangakhange badlule kumava amaninzi obomi kwaye usafuna ukuphonononga ngakumbi, amadoda amadala anamava kwaye kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba azibophezele kwaye aqonde amaqabane abo aselula.
Akukho khuphiswano
Abasetyhini abathandana namadoda amadala baqinisekile ukuba abasayi kuze baphulukane nabo. Amadoda amadala azinzile ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye ajolise ngakumbi kwikhondo lomsebenzi.
Abanaxesha okanye umnqweno wokufuna olunye ulwalamano kunye nabanye abafazi, kuba bayayazi into abayifunayo kwasekuqaleni. Ubomi babo obumnandi buhambile, kwaye bakhetha imeko yekhaya. Bafuna ukuba kubutofotofo bendlu yabo ecaleni kwamaqabane abo. Abanomdla wokudlala imidlalo kwakhona kuba babone lukhulu ebomini babo.
Abasetyhini abathandana nabafana abancinci kunokwenzeka ukuba bakhohliswe ngamaqabane abo. Kunye namadoda amadala, oku ayingombandela, kuba bayayazi into abayifunayo: uzinzo, uxolo nomtshato.
Ukuthandana nomntu osele ekhulile nako kuneengxaki zako
Njengokuba kunjalo kuyo yonke into ebomini, abantu ababhinqileyo abathandana namadoda amadala banokuphinda bahlangane nemicimbi ethile ngolwalamano lwabo nabo. Umsantsa omkhulu wobudala phakathi kwamaqabane (ngaphezulu kweshumi leminyaka) unokwenza ukwabelana ngamaxabiso enkcubeko kubonakale kunzima, kwaye kunokubangela ukungazinzi kwezentlalo xa isibini siphandle esidlangalaleni. Kwakhona, amathuba okuba iqabane elidala lendoda liya kuthi libonakalise isidingo samandla nolawulo kwiqabane lakhe, kwaye jonga iqabane lakhe njengebhaso, kunokuba liqabane elinothando.