Umxholo
- Igama elithi narcissist livela kwiintsomi zamandulo zamaGrike
- Abayeki ukuthetha ngeziqu zabo
- Banomthunzi
- Baziva benelungelo kuyo yonke into ebangqongileyo
- Abakwazi ukumelana nokwaliwa
- Wonke umntu obangqongileyo uphantsi
- I-narcissism eqhelekileyo ilungile
Sonke sinamaqabane athandanayo ahlala eziqhayisa ngeziqu kunye nezinto ezininzi abazenzileyo ebomini babo, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa izinto zihamba kancinci ngokuqhayisa?
Kukho umahluko phakathi kokuba nohlobo oluqhelekileyo lwe-narcissism kunye nokuphazamiseka kobuntu kwi-narcissistic.
Ikliniki yaseMayo ichaza ukungalungelelani kobuntu (NDP) “njengemeko yengqondo apho abantu bazive bebalulekile, benesidingo esinzulu sokuqwalaselwa nokunconywa, ubudlelwane obunengxaki kunye nokungabikho kovelwano kwabanye.”
IDiagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders iqikelela ukuba kwindawo ethile phakathi kwe-0.5 kunye ne-1 yepesenti yabemi behlabathi banengxaki yokuphazamiseka kubuntu, uninzi lwabantu abaxhwalekileyo yindoda.
Igama elithi narcissist livela kwiintsomi zamandulo zamaGrike
Kuyo, umzingeli omncinci waseLaconia ogama linguNarcissus wohlwaywa uthixokazi uNemesis ngokuziphatha kwakhe okucekisekayo.
Xa uNarcissus wayesehlathini, inymph yasentabeni ebizwa ngokuba yi-Echo yabona ubuhle bayo yaza yaya kuye, kodwa kwangoko yamgxotha kuye. Intliziyo ebuhlungu, i-nymph yaqala ukubuna, de kwasala i-echo kuye.
Xa uthixokazi uNemesis wakubona oku, wagqiba kwelokuba arhwebeshe uNarcissus echibini xa wayezingela ngenye imini. Wathandana nokubonakaliswa kwakhe echibini kwaye wajika waba yintyatyambo emhlophe.
Ukujongana ne-narcissists ngumsebenzi onzima, kwaye kungcono ukuba uyazi ngaphambi kokuba uxakeke kakhulu kulwalamano nabo.
Kwizigaba zokuqala zobudlelwane bakho, isimilo sabo sinokubonakala ngathi siyathandeka kwaye siyathandana, kodwa loo nto ayizi ngaphandle kokubamba.
Nangona zikhona iindlela zokumelana nazo kunye nezicwangciso zokwenza ukuba basebenzisane nawe, siza kube sithetha kuphela malunga neengxaki ezikhoyo ojamelana nazo xa ujongana nomntu ophethwe yi-narcissism.
Abayeki ukuthetha ngeziqu zabo
Umxholo kuphela ophezu kwetafile xa ujongene nabakwa-narcissists luphawu lwabo.
Ukuba uthandana ne-narcissist, uyakuqaphela ukuba abayeki ukuthetha ngokwabo, malunga nokuba bakhulu kangakanani, banxibe kamnandi kangakanani, banesidlo sasemini njlnjl.
Bahlala bezama ukulawula incoko, kwaye ngokubanzi, bathetha ngabo ngokwabo ngendlela ebaxiweyo kwaye bebaxe ukuze babhukuqe abanye ngabom.
Banomthunzi
Uninzi lwama-narcissists ludla ngokuqhayisa njengamaqabane atsala umdla, ngakumbi xa unxibelelana nabo kwaye uzama ukuphumelela.
Ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwabo, basebenzisa ukuthanda abantu kunye nokudlala ngothando ukuze bafumane into abayifunayo kumaqabane abo. Ezi zixhobo kuphela zabo zokufumana ingqalelo engakumbi kunye nokusebenzisa abanye abantu ukuze baxhamle.
Baziva benelungelo kuyo yonke into ebangqongileyo
Ukuba uthandana narcissist, uya kubona lonke ihlabathi lijikeleza kubo.
AmaNarcissist ahlala elindele ukuba abanye babaphathe ngenqanaba elingaphezulu kunokuba befanele. Zama ukuthathela ingqalelo indlela umntu othandana naye abaphatha ngayo abalungiseleli kwivenkile yokutyela wena okanye ibartender. Ukuba ubabona besenza ngathi ngookumkani behlabathi nabanye, zilungiselele ukuba uzive ngokwakho.
Abakwazi ukumelana nokwaliwa
Abantu abanengxaki yokuphazamiseka kubuntu obungathandekiyo abanakuma ukwaliwa kwaye basabele kakubi xa oku kusenzeka kubo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho li-narcissist, usenokuba uqaphele ukuba xa ungabaniki into abayifunayo bakunika ukungathethi cwaka, ubale umgama wabo ngokweemvakalelo kuwe, okanye bahlekise ngawe.
Wonke umntu obangqongileyo uphantsi
Uphawu oluxhaphakileyo lwee-narcissists ze-pathological sisidingo sabo sokubeka abanye ezantsi ukuze baziphakamise ngaphezulu kwabo.
Xa uthandana narcissists, unokufuna ukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba ngaphandle kokunyanzelwa ngothando abazama ukukulukuhla okokuqala xa udibana, banokwenza iziqhulo ezingafanelekanga ezinengcwangu malunga nemvelaphi yosapho lwakho, indlela ophila ngayo, iimpahla zakho njlnjl. .
I-narcissism eqhelekileyo ilungile
Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokwabelana nabanye ngokwenza kwethu kunye nezinto esiziphumezileyo ngendlela esempilweni kunye nesihlobo. Umoya womntu ufuna ukunconywa kunye nokhathalelo kuba usinceda sisebenze yonke imihla kwaye silwele iindawo eziphakamileyo ezintsha kunye nokufezekisiweyo. Ukuba uziva ngathi iqabane lakho liphethwe sisifo se-pathological narcissism, zama ukuthetha nabo kwaye ufumane uncedo lweengcali.