Umxholo
- Ngaba ufanele uthandana nendoda encinci?
- Izibonelelo ezibalulekileyo zokuthandana nomntu omncinci
- Iingxaki ezicaphukisayo zokuthandana nomntu omncinci
- 1. Amadoda amancinci anokuziphatha ngendlela yobuntwana.
- Ungaphuma nomfana omncinci?
Ukhe wa kuqwalaselwe ukuthandana nomntu omncinci? Ngaba uthandana nomnye? Funda amacala ezilungileyo nezingalunganga ukuze wazi ukuba ukulungele na ukuthandana umntu oselula.
Njengoko sele uqaphele, abantu bahlala befuna ukuba nothando kwabanye kwiqela labo leminyaka.
Oko kukuthi, amadoda abetha abafazi kwiminyaka emihlanu okanye esixhenxe emncinci yamkelwe ngokubanzi, ngelixa umfazi osele ekhulile ethandana nendoda encinci ithathwa njengengaqhelekanga.
Kutshanje, nangona kunjalo, njengoko abantu basetyhini besiba nenkululeko kwezentlalo, ngokwasengqondweni, nangokwesondo, abanye baye baqala ukulihoya ikhethe lasekuhlaleni ngokucekisa amadoda aselula, ngamanye amaxesha benesithuba seminyaka emihlanu ukuya kwesixhenxe phakathi kwabo namaqabane abo.
Ngaba ufanele uthandana nendoda encinci?
Ukuba ubona okanye uva ngesinye sezi zibini zingalawulekiyo, imeko yakho yokuqala inokuba kukuhlekisa nokuhlekisa malunga "nokuphanga umntwana"? okanye "iipumas"? Kodwa ngaba umfazi okhulileyo uphatha kakubi umfana omncinci?
Jonga kwakhona:
Makhe sijonge ezinye zazo iingcebiso ubudlelwane abafazi ukuthandana amadoda aselula.
Izibonelelo ezibalulekileyo zokuthandana nomntu omncinci
1. Amadoda amancinci ahlala eqhutywa ngokwasemzimbeni.
Into ekufuneka uyazi ngokuthandana nendoda encinci kukuba ngokubanzi banamandla omzimba. Nangona kuya kubakho umohluko omncinci kumanqanaba amandla phakathi komntu oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala kunye nama-25 ubudala, oneminyaka engama-25 ubudala, kunye nominyaka engama-30 ubudala, ukuba uya ngaphaya kweminyaka yoo-1930, uza kubona Umahluko ophawulekayo.
Yamkelwa ngokubanzi zizifundo ezininzi ezithi amadoda athambekele ekukhuleni ngokukhawuleza kancinci kunabafazi, ke ukuba ungumfazi okwiminyaka yamashumi amathathu anempilo eyi-avareji, unokufumanisa ukuba amadoda angakhula okanye akhule kancinci awahambelani wena.
Indoda emalunga neminyaka emihlanu isencinci inokukwazi ukwenza iindawo ezininzi zokulala kwigumbi lokulala njengoko ufuna, kwaye mhlawumbi ithambekele ngakumbi ekuhambeni kwezitalato ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza rhoqo!
Iphepha elichazayo ukuba awusenanto oyifunayo: Kumadoda amadala afanelekileyo phaya, ubukho bakho buyabonwa- oku kuqhelekile!
2. Amadoda amancinci ahlala eneembopheleleko ezimbalwa.
Amadoda amadala ahlala eneembopheleleko ezinje ngabantwana okanye umsebenzi oxinzelelweyo ukukhathazeka, kodwa ngokuya umncinci, kuya kuncipha ukuba ezi zinto zobomi zibekhona.
Ukuba ukhona ukuthandana nendoda encinci ongenabantwana, awunakukhathazeka ngeentshayelelo ezinokubangela iintloni, ngakumbi ukuba unabantwana bakho.
Umyeni wakhe, oneembopheleleko ezimbalwa emsebenzini, kunokwenzeka ukuba aphendule kwisicelo esizenzekelayo somhla okanye akwazi ukuhamba kwangoko ngeempelaveki zokubaleka ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngento ayishiya ngasemva eofisini.
Isenokungathengi indlu okwangoku, into edla ngokuchitha ixesha kunye namandla. Kwaye ukuba usarenta, ngenye imini unokuba ngumthengi ekhaya kunye.
3. Amadoda amancinci mancinci amathuba okuba agxeke.
Ukuba indoda onayo yiminyaka embalwa incinci kunawe, ke ukuba unamava obudlelwane obuncinci kunaye, ngekhe abenomdla ongathandekiyo.
Amadoda amadala ahlala egxeka ngokubhekisele kubudlelwane ngokubanzi, nangona besanqwenela ubuhlobo.
Abanye banokukrokrela kwaye balindele ukuba wenze into eyenziwe li-ex okanye ungazami kangako kubudlelwane njengoko babesenza ngaphambili, ke kubonakala ngathi abanamdla kakhulu,
Emva kokudibana nabanye babafana abanezimo zengqondo ezinjalo, kuyacaca kwakhona ukuba ayingawo onke amadoda amadala anjalo, umdla ongaqondakaliyo wothando kumfana omncinci kunokuba unokuhlaziya.
4. Abantu abancinci banakho ukunqula umhlaba ohamba kuwo.
Ngelixa ngamanye amaxesha abantu bangaphandle behlekisa ngentsebenziswano nabasetyhini abadala / amadoda amancinci, indoda ngokwayo ihlala ifumana ukuzithemba kuba inakho. "Hook Up" kunye nomfazi osekhulile, ngakumbi xa abahlobo bakhe bemdumisa ngayo.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba wanelisekile bubudlelwane, angakunika ukukunika amalungelo athile kwigumbi lokulala nangaphandle, uhlala ethenga izipho, kwaye ucule iingoma zakho kubo bonke adibana nabo.
Lumka, nangona kunjalo, ukuba awuhlali nomfana omncinci awukhathalelanga kangako ngenxa yezibonelelo njengoko zilungile.
Ngaphandle koko, ukuba awuyonwabeli loo ngqwalaselo ikhethekileyo, okanye uziva ukuba udibana nawe ngenjongo yokunyusa, lixesha lokuba uthethe naye.
Iingxaki ezicaphukisayo zokuthandana nomntu omncinci
1. Amadoda amancinci anokuziphatha ngendlela yobuntwana.
Ukungancedi kwindoda encinci kukuba usenokuba mncinci kunawe.
Umzekelo, ukuba uneminyaka engama-30 ubudala kwaye uneminyaka engama-24 ubudala, angakonwabela ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo kunye nabahlobo bakhe iiyure kunye nokusela ade agule kwindawo yokupapasha yendawo ngelixa ushiye zonke ezi zinto kwikholeji.
Nangona kunjalo, lo mahluko kwimisebenzi ekhethiweyo akufuneki ukuba ibe sisaphuli-mthetho. Logama nje enganikezeli igumbi lakho lokuhlala iinkonkxa zebhiya, iibhokisi zepitsa, kunye nemidlalo yomdlalo okanye ikwenze ube neentloni esidlangalaleni, ubudlelwane busasebenza.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ungalisebenzisa ixesha lakho lokudlala ukwenza into oyithandayo.
2. Amadoda amancinci angalahleka malunga nobudlelwane.
Nangona bathambekele ekubeni ngabangathandabuzekiyo, kuhlala kukho icala elingalunganga kumadoda angenamava obudlelwane.
Umfana onamava obudlelwane obuncinci akanokwazi ukuphatha iingxabano ngokufanelekileyo. Unako ukuqhuma ngexesha lomlo okanye, emva kokungavisisani, anike igxalaba elibandayo endaweni yokuzama ukwenza izinto ngokuzola nangexesha.
Unokwenza iimpazamo ezincinci kwezentlalo, ezinjengokudlala ngothando namanye amantombazana ngelixa usegumbini, okanye ukubhala kakhulu ngelixa unababini nosapho lwakho kwisidlo sangokuhlwa.
Kuxhomekeke ekubeni zingaphi iikhilomitha athe wazakha ngaphandle kobudlelwane, unokucela ukuba umfundise izinto ebhedini. Ewe uyathanda, amandla ngakumbi kuwe!
3. Amadoda amancinci ngamanye amaxesha aswele umsebenzi osisigxina.
Ukuba ukunye nomfana omncinci osesesikolweni okanye osandula ukuphumelela, usenokungabi nawo umsebenzi, okanye ubuncinci awumvumeli ukuba axhase ngentliziyo iphela.
Ukungabikho kwexesha alichitha emsebenzini kuya kumenza afumaneke ngakumbi ixesha kunye nawe, kodwa uchitha ubuninzi bobusuku bakho niqubisana kunye phambi kweTV kuba akazukuba nayo imali yokubhatala idatha ebizayo.
Ukuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka ujonge izinto ezingabizi okanye ezikhululekileyo esixekweni onokuthi uzifumane. Ngenye imini uya kuba nomsebenzi ongcono, kwaye uya kuba nakho ukonwabela izinto ezintle ebomini kwakhona.
Ukuba kubonakala ngathi akathathi manyathelo kumsebenzi ozinzileyo, unokucinga ngokuqhubeka.
4. Abadala bagweba amadoda amancinci / izibini ezitshatileyo.
Nangona olu dibaniso luye lwaxhaphaka ngakumbi, ngakumbi phakathi kwesizukulwana esincinci ngokubanzi, ezinye iinkcubeko zikholelwa ukuba indoda enye kufuneka okungenani indala njengeqabane labo.
Abazali bakho okanye ootatomkhulu bakho banokumangaliswa okanye bakruquke kukufumanisa ukuba umhlobo wakho mncinci kunawe.
Ewe awunyanzelekanga ukuba ubhengeze ubudala bakhe xa umazisa kusapho lwakho, kodwa mhlawumbi uya kufunyanwa, ngakumbi xa ejongeka emncinci.
Ukuba unesibophelelo esomeleleyo kunye naye, ayifanelanga ukuba yinto enkulu leyo. Kwaye ubudlelwane obungenakukwazi ukumelana kancinci ngaphandle kwenkcaso ayisiyonto ifanele ukubanjwa.
Ungaphuma nomfana omncinci?
Ngaba uyakholelwa ukuba olu lwazi luyakwenza ukuba phuma nendoda encinci?
Mhlawumbi sele ukhona, kwaye intle. Akubalulekanga njengoluntu olwenzileyo kwixa elidlulileyo- yonke into eyifunayo lulungiso oluncinci oluvela kuwe kwaye mhlawumbi bambalwa kulo.
Ukuba ufumana naziphi na iingxaki ezichazwe apha ngasentla kunye nomfana wakho omncinci. Ubambe idayimani erhabaxa.
Kwelinye icala, ngaphandle kweerks, unokuba neqanda elibolileyo eliziphatha ngendlela efanayo, nokuba ungakanani na.
Ekugqibeleni, ezi zikhokelo kunye neengcebiso zokuthandana namadoda amancinci anokukunceda uthathe isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuqala ukuthandana nendoda encinci okanye ucwangcise into yexesha elide naye.
Cinga ngayo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ekupheleni kosuku, ulonwabo lwakho kunye nobomi bakho bothando zibalulekile, hayi iingqondo ezingenanto kunye nokuphakamisa amashiya!