Umxholo
- I-Fetishism kunye noonografi babusa umhlaba wokubhala wenkulungwane ye-19
- Ngaphezulu komntu omnye onokuyingqinela le nkolelo
- Yintoni icuckolding?
- 1. Ukubamba iinkukhu kufundisa ngokwenene!
- 2. Imitshato yokubamba amantshontsho ithintela amaqabane ekufumaneni ulonwabo kwenye indawo
- 3. Unxibelelwano oluphuculweyo lukhokelela ekubonakalisweni okungcono kweminqweno
- Izinto ezintsonkothileyo kwezentlalo zihlala zondla kwiikink kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo
- Ayisiyiyo yonke into e-rosy, kinky, kunye neqinisekileyo malunga nemitshato yecuckold
Zihambile iintsuku xa isondo lalithathwa njengelungelo elisemthethweni lezibini ezitshatileyo kuphela. Isifundo ngokwaso sahlala siyinto yokuthula emva kwexesha elithile.
Ukulalana ngokwesondo kunye neengcinga ezinqabileyo kunqabile ukuba kungene kwigumbi lokulala, kwaye ukuba benzile, izibini bezikhathalela ukuba bangahlambi ilinen yabo emdaka esidlangalaleni.
Kodwa, izifundo ezinje ngoNcwadi kunye nezobuGcisa ziyalile imiqobo yoluntu, zivumela abaxhasi ukuba bavakalise izimvo zabo ngomsebenzi wobugcisa, kwangoko nge-15th-ngenkulungwane ye-16.
Kumdlalo kaShakespeare, 'Much Ado About Nothing,' amagama anjengokufuya iinkukhu neempondo enza ukuba ubukho babo baziva, kusula inkolelo yethu yokuba umbono wokuhlola isini ngokwahlukileyo ngumntwana wamadoda anamhlanje.
‘Apho uMtyholi uza kundikhawulela, njengenqanawa endala, eneempondo entloko.’
I-Fetishism kunye noonografi babusa umhlaba wokubhala wenkulungwane ye-19
Umthandi kaRobert Browning kaPorphyria, u-Oscar Wilde ka-Dorian Grey, u-Stanisla de Rhodes's Autobiography of a Flea, kunye ne-Krafft-Ebing's Psychopathia Sexualis yimisebenzi embalwa yobugcisa eyaphonononga iNdima ye-Fetishism kwiNcwadi ye-19 yeNkulungwane.
Ukuba ucinga kwaye uzalisekise iminqweno yesini kunye neqabane lakho ngasemva kwengcango evaliweyo izandi ezingathandekiyo kuwe, kuya kufuneka ufunde la macwecwe akhankanyiweyo.
Ngapha koko, ukuzama i-BDSM, i-flagellation okanye i-cuckolding inokuba ngamava afanelekileyo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye inokulawula umlilo wothando phakathi kwenu nobabini. Kwaye ngubani owaziyo, unokuphinda ukhumbule imihla yakho yomtshato kwakhona!
Ngaphezulu komntu omnye onokuyingqinela le nkolelo
Umzekelo -Gqirha Justin Lehmiller ucacisile ubume besini sabantu kwincwadi yakhe, 'Ndixelele into oyifunayo: Inzululwazi yesifiso sokwabelana ngesondo kunye nendlela enokukunceda ngayo uphucule ubomi bakho ngokwesondo'. Uyingcali ekhokelayo kwezesondo lomntu eKinsey Institute.
"Ndicinga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni apha kukuba iimfuno zethu zengqondo ziyatshintsha njengoko sikhula kwaye, njengoko kunjalo, iminqweno yethu yesini iguquka ngeendlela eziyilelwe ukuhlangabezana neemfuno. Ke, umzekelo, xa sibancinci kwaye mhlawumbi singakhuselekanga ngakumbi, iingcinga zethu zigxila ngakumbi kusenza sizive siqinisekisiwe; Ngokwahlukileyo koko, xa sele sikhulile kwaye sizinzile kubudlelwane bexesha elide, iminqweno yethu igxila kakhulu ekwahlukaneni nemikhwa yesini kunye nokuzalisekisa iimfuno ezingafezekiswanga zobutsha. ” -Gqirha Lehmiller
Kwaye zimbalwa ezinye iingcali ezinje ngoDavid Ley, uJustin Lehmiller, kunye nombhali uDan Savage, abacinga ukuba ubumnandi bokubhabha buzise amava amnandi kwizibini endaweni yohambo oluneentloni.
Nangona kunjalo igama elithi 'ukubamba iinkukhu' linokunika isizathu sokuthandabuza kwabo bathabathayo.
Iqheleke kangakanani i-cuckolding?
Oku kunzima ukuphendula ngenxa yokuba nanamhlanje, ngaphandle kokuvuleka kwengqondo eluntwini, kukho ibala eliqhotyoshelwe kubo bonke ubudlelwane obungatshatanga ngokupheleleyo.Kukho izibini ezenza i-cuckolding kodwa ayinguye wonke umntu okwamkelayo oku eluntwini.
Yintoni icuckolding?
I-Wikipedia ichaza igama elithi cuckold 'njengendoda yomfazi okrexezayo.' 'Ekusetyenzisweni komntwana, inkukhu okanye umfazi obukeleyo uhambelana "nokungathembeki" kweqabane lakhe; Inkosikazi eyonwabela ukubamba inkuku indoda yayo ibizwa ngokuba yikati xa ithobela. ”
Kutheni le nto abayeni beyonwabela i-cuckolding?
Njengamanye amasi, olu lolunye lweemfesane ezithandwa ngamanye amadoda.
Ukujonga iqabane lakho lisondelelene nomnye umntu kunokuba sisitshixo ekuphuculeni ukuqhuba kwakho ngesondo. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo kulolo hlobo xa iisayithi ze-porn zifumana ukugcwala kwabantu rhoqo kuneNetflix, iAmazon, kunye neTwitter zidityaniswe inyanga nenyanga.
Kunjani ukuba ubanjwe?
Kulawo madoda ayonwabelayo le ndlela, ukubamba iinkukhu kubanika ukukhaba ngokwesondo ngokungafani nenye. Imincili igqithile ekuchulumanciseni ukuba kwizixhobo zesini esinye.
I-Cuckolding ibonelela ngezibonelelo kunye nenkuthazo nayo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka ubandakanye izimvo zekuckolding kulawulo lwakho lwezesondo-
1. Ukubamba iinkukhu kufundisa ngokwenene!
Ziqhelanise ne-cuckold kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhanyiselwe ngezikhundla ezininzi ukuzama ukulala embhedeni neqabane lakho kwixesha elizayo.
Kwaye ukonwabela ukubanjwa komnye umntu ngaphandle komtshato wakho kunokuba yinto evuselela isini kwizibini ezitshatileyo.
2. Imitshato yokubamba amantshontsho ithintela amaqabane ekufumaneni ulonwabo kwenye indawo
Konke malunga nokongeza iintlobo ezahlukeneyo kubomi bakho bezesondo kunye nethuba lokunikela ubungqina nge-porn ezingabhalwanga.
Ukungakwazi komntu ukuveza inkanuko yesini kukhokelela kwingcinezelo yesondo. Esi sesona sizathu sokuba amaqabane abalekele ekungathembekini nasekusetyenzisweni gwenxa kweziyobisi.
Kodwa, ngubani onqwenela ukufumana ukonwaba kwenye indawo ukuba ezahlukeneyo zinikwa ipleyiti yakho ekhaya? Kwaye ukuba ukuvumelana kuyabakho, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwimitshato kunokuthatha ukubuyela umva.
3. Unxibelelwano oluphuculweyo lukhokelela ekubonakalisweni okungcono kweminqweno
Imitshato ye-Cuckolding inokuchuma ngaphandle kokubandlulula okuhambelana nomxholo.
Unxibelelwano phakathi kwamaqabane luya lubangcono xa usenza iimfesane zesondo ezinje ngecuckolding eyenzeka ngaphakathi kwemida yobudlelwane obusempilweni.
Ugqirha Watsa wathi "abatshatileyo kufuneka bafunde ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zabo kumaqabane abo endaweni yokuzanelisa kwenye indawo ngokwenza izinto ezingakhuselekanga njengokuhlala ubusuku bunye nabantu abangabaziyo."
Ukuphonononga iminqweno yesini kunye kunganyusa uthando lwakho kwiqabane lakho kwaye kungabikho ndawo yokungathembeki.
Izinto ezintsonkothileyo kwezentlalo zihlala zondla kwiikink kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo
Ngoku, awunakukhomba kwisizathu esithile xa kusiziwa kwimikhuba yesondo. Kodwa, uGqirha David Lay, umbhali wencwadi, 'Abafazi abangonelisekiyo,' uqaphele ukuba ukubanakho ukungqina iqabane lakho nomnye umntu kukhokelela kumona wesini.
Rhoqo, iqabane elinenzondo libhenela kwizenzo ezigwenxa ukuziphindezela nongathembekanga.
Ngamanye amaxesha, iqabane elingcatshiweyo livakalelwa kukuvuseleleka ngokwesini ngengcinga yokubona esinye isiqingatha sixhatshazwa ngokwesondo ezandleni zabantu abambalwa abangabaziyo.
Uluntu oluthandana nomntu omnye luyasigxeka isithembu nokukrexeza.
Ithathelwa ingqalelo njengombono kwaye esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba nomfanekiso ngqondweni wesini samadoda nabasetyhini.
Ayisiyiyo yonke into e-rosy, kinky, kunye neqinisekileyo malunga nemitshato yecuckold
"Inyaniso ayiqhelekanga kuneNtsomi" -UMark Twain
Ubunyani bokubukela okanye ukwazi ukuba iqabane lakho lingena kwizenzo zesondo nomnye umntu nokuba ubukho okanye ungekho lihluke kakhulu kwifantasy.
Imitshato yamanqwanqwa yanamhlanje inokuphila kuphela ukuba ukuthembana kunye nokunyaniseka kulawula kubudlelwane. Iziphumo zinokumangalisa kwaye zinomvuzo kwezi zibini.
Kodwa, bambalwa abanye banokufumana iintlungu ezingapheliyo ukuba imeko iphuma esandleni.
Ingqondo evulekileyo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo isebenza cwaka emva komtshato ophucukileyo.
Ngokuchasene nayo, iintlungu ezijikeleze imitshato enjalo zinokuphazamisa-luvo kwaye zonakalise.
Ke, ngaba umtshato wakho ukulungele ukukhuhla? Ukuba ewe, unokufumana ubuninzi bezixhobo ngeengcebiso zecuckolding eziza kutshisa ubomi bakho ngokwesondo.