Umxholo
- Ubundlobongela bungena nzulu kunokwabelana ngesondo kwigumbi lokulala
- Ukuziqhelanisa nezakhono zokujamelana nengqondo
- Unxibelelwano lubalulekile ekwakheni ukusondelelana
- Yimba nzulu ukomeleza uthando lwakho kunye nonxibelelwano
Ngelixa la maxesha obhubhane wehlabathi kungalunganga ukuqala kunye / okanye ukugcina ubudlelwane, kodwa kusekho ithemba.
Ukujonga umba womgama, kuthetha ntoni ukwakha ubudlelwane kubudlelwane obude?
Ubundlobongela bungena nzulu kunokwabelana ngesondo kwigumbi lokulala
Ukusondelelana okwenyani kunamacala amaninzi kwaye sisitshixo kubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli nobusempilweni, nkqu nakwabo batshatileyo bakubudlelwane obukude.
Ngamanyathelo okusasaza eluntwini kwihlabathi liphela, ukuhlala uqhagamshele ngakumbi kunanini na ngaphambili kungqina ukuba ngumdlalo weqonga kunye nawo ngokwawo.
Kodwa akufuneki ichaze ukungabi nathemba kwezi zibini kubudlelwane obukude. Ubuhle kwesi saqhwithi kukuba sityhala abantu ukuba bafumane iindlela ezintsha zokunxibelelana kwaye bahlale benxibelelana. Ngokukodwa xa ubudlelwane bemigama emide ingeyiyo eyonyani ngokwezibalo.
Ukuziqhelanisa nezakhono zokujamelana nengqondo
Ukufumana ubudlelwane obude kude akukho lula. Enye yezinto zokuqala endinokukhuthaza nabani na kubudlelwane obukude ukuba bazenze kukuzimisela okwangoku.
Impendulo kwinto eyenza ubudlelwane bexesha elide busebenze ingqondo.
Ukuziqhelanisa nengqondo akufuneki kube kukudika. Esinye sezibonelelo ezininzi zokuncika engqondweni kukukunceda uxabise amaxesha axabisekileyo anamhlanje kunokuba unqwenele ukuwathemba.
Olunye uncedo lokuqonda kukukhuthaza ukuphumla, okuxhasa ukukhulula uxinzelelo ngelixa kukuvula amandla.
Ngaphambi kokuba siqhubele phambili ekuphuhliseni ukusondelelana, masime kancinci kwaye sizenzele.
Gxila kwaye uvumele ukuphefumla kwakho kube yi-ankile yakho. Thatha umoya omninzi ngaphakathi kwaye ukhuphe umlomo wakho kancinci kancinci (phinda amaxesha ambalwa njengoko kufanelekile kwimeko yakho yokwazisa). Emva koko, gxila ngaphakathi kwaye ungene kwiimvakalelo zakho.
- Zinto zini ezintathu uzivayo?
- Zinto zini ezintathu ozibonayo eziluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka?
Qaphela ukuba ujolise kwaye uzinze, kodwa zive ukhululekile ukuba uzivumele ukuba uphonononge ingqondo kunye neengqondo zakho ngokunzulu njengoko ufuna. Ngoku, masibuyele kulwakhiwo lobudlelwane kunye nokujongana nemiceli mngeni yobudlelwane obude.
Unxibelelwano lubalulekile ekwakheni ukusondelelana
Xa kufuneka wenze i-ace indlela yokuphatha ubudlelwane obukude, eyona nto iphambili kukunxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka.
Nokuba likweliphi inqanaba ubudlelwane obukulo, ukusuka kutshanje ukuthandana, ukutshata, ukuya kumaqabane ixesha elide, eyona nto ixhalabisayo uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abelana nam malunga nokungoneliseki emtshatweni kubangelwa kukunxibelelana.
Ke siwuvala njani umsantsa kubudlelwane be-LDR? Masithethe ngendlovu egumbini - ukufaka iimvakalelo zakho ebhotileni.
Zithande ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungazifihli okuyinyani ukuze uxhamle inguqulelo yomnye umntu kuwe. Thetha inyani yakho kwaye uvumele iqabane lakho ukuba live intliziyo yakho.
Emva koko, isiseko sobudlelwane obusondeleyo sinokuqala.
Njengoko sixhomekeke kulwalamano, umbuzo ulele kwindlela yokwakha kunye nokugcina ukusondela.
- Ngaba uyayiva intliziyo yeqabane lakho?
- Uyawuva umoya wabo?
Amaxesha amaninzi, imiqobo uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abajamelana nayo ayisiyo eyomzimba, kodwa ibanga leemvakalelo, endinobuganga bokukutsho ukusondelelana. Ukusondela kokungaziva kuphela umphefumlo wabo olandelayo, kodwa ukuya nzulu nokuziva iintliziyo zabo. Ewe, nokuba ziimayile ezahlukeneyo.
Ziqhelise ukukhumbula; Yiyiphi ingqiqo onokuyilungisa ukuze unxibelelane ngcono neqabane lakho?
Iindlela ezimbalwa zoyilo lokwakha ulwalamano kubudlelwane obukude kukuthetha nje okwakudala kwifowuni okanye kwincoko entsha yevidiyo.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela oyikhethayo kuqala, phuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela -yitshintshe kwaye wenze ngokuchaseneyo.
Inye, iyazenzela kwaye leyo yintlantsi yobomi.
Kodwa ezibini, kubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba ukhathalele ngokwaneleyo ukuba uve iintliziyo zabo ngokuphuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela.
Jonga kwakhona:
Apha ngezantsi, uya kufumana iimbono ezimbalwa zokumba nzulu ngelixa ugcina ubudlelwane obukude kula maxesha anzima.
Yimba nzulu ukomeleza uthando lwakho kunye nonxibelelwano
Nazi izixhobo ezimbalwa kunye neengcebiso kubudlelwane obukude ekuvuseleleni ubuchule kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kolwalamano lwakho. Oku kuyakukunceda ekufumaneni ukuba ungagcina njani ubudlelwane obukude bumnandi.
- Thumela iqabane lakho iphakheji yokhathalelo ngezinye zezinto abazithandayo kwaye zibandakanya into enye eyothusayo (yenza ubuchule) ukufumana ingqalelo yabo
- Yenza amalungiselelo okuba ukutya abakuthandayo kusiwe ekhayeni labo
- Ziqhelise ukubulela kunye neqabane lakho; yabelana ngento enye onombulelo ngayo
- Funda incwadi kunye phantse yonke
- Dlalani umdlalo we-intanethi kunye
- Bukela imovie efanayo
- Incoko yevidiyo ngelixa upheka
- Yabelana ngengoma yakho oyithandayo okanye wenze uluhlu lokudlala lomculo
- Ziqhelise ukuya ezantsi kwimemori yendlela, Ukwazi iqabane lakho ngcono (zeziphi izinto abazithandayo nabangazithandiyo, ngubani oyena mntu azithemba kuye, yeyiphi eyona mpazamo yabo inkulu, leliphi elona phupha labo likhulu). Yenza uyilo kwaye uphonononge iqabane lakho ngenqanaba elitsha lokulandela kunye nokufuna ukwazi.
- Okokugqibela, sukuncama, lo bhubhani naye uya kudlula.
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