Umxholo
- 1. Mamela ngononophelo kwaye uphendule ngokufanelekileyo
- 2. Baleka ukungcikivwa
- 3. Qondanani
- 4. Sebenzisa ithoni efanelekileyo
- 5. Funa iingcaciso
- 6. Sebenzisa isalathiso somntu wokuqala
- 7. Gcina uzolile kwaye ulungelelanise iimvakalelo zakho
- 8. Lixabise iqabane lakho
- 9. Yamkele impembelelo yeqabane lakho
Umahluko phakathi komtshato owonwabileyo nowonwabisayo ulele kubuchule bokunxibelelana.
Izakhono zonxibelelwano ezisempilweni kubantu abatshatileyo yenye yezinto eziyimfuneko ukuze umtshato uphumelele.
Kwelinye icala, ukungabikho konxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo kunokubangela ukungathethisani, ubukrakra, umsindo nengqumbo.
Nje ukuba ezi zinto zigqibe iqabane, ngokungathandabuzekiyo iiprojekthi zokuziphatha gwenxa kunye nokungakwazi ukugcina izinto ezisisiseko zonxibelelwano ekusombululeni ungquzulwano.
Abacebisi ngemitshato bacebisa amaqabane ukuba abelane ngokuphandle ngeemvakalelo zabo ezimbi kunye nezilungileyo ukugcina uxolo emtshatweni.
Izakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo nezisebenzayo kwizibini ezitshatileyo zibandakanya ukumamela, ukuphendula, ukucacisa, ukuqonda ngokuzola kwindawo efanelekileyo kunye nangendlela efanelekileyo.
Ungaze uphinde usombulule ingxaki ngeemvakalelo, njengoko ingqondo yakho engazinzanga inokukukhuthaza ukuba ukhwaze kwaye ukhale. Kodwa ukuphucula izakhono zakho zonxibelelwano emtshatweni okanye izakhono zonxibelelwano zabatshatileyo kulula ukuzithetha kunokwenza.
Jonga kwakhona:
Ukusuka kukhuphiswano omnye nomnye, ukugxeka, ukugibisela ngamatye, kunye nokungaxoleli, ukufikelela kunxibelelwano olusebenzayo kwizibini ezitshatileyo, kuya kufuneka uphephe imigibe emininzi.
Ke ukukunceda ukuba ufumane izakhono zonxibelelwano ezisisiseko kwizibini ezitshatileyo okanye ufunde iindlela ezintsha zonxibelelwano kwizibini ezitshatileyo, nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa kwizibini eziza kukhulisa izakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo emtshatweni:
1. Mamela ngononophelo kwaye uphendule ngokufanelekileyo
Unxibelelwano olufanelekileyo ludinga ukuthatha inxaxheba kwabo bobabini.
Enye yeengcebiso zonxibelelwano ezibalulekileyo kubantu abatshatileyo iya kuba kukuvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lithethe njengawe mamela ngenyameko Kuzo zonke izikhalazo, ukuxabisa, kunye neenkxalabo.
Usenokungavumelani nayo yonke le micimbi, kodwa velana ngesandi sokulila okanye ingxelo enje ngala "Ndiziva ndidanile ngenxa yesenzo sam, kodwa ingaba uyaqonda ukuba ......."
Ayisiyondlela yokuzikhusela; inika isiqinisekiso kwiqabane lakho lokuba uyithathele ingqalelo inkxalabo yabo, kodwa unoluvo lwakho okanye uluvo lwakho.
Utsalela umdla wabo kwingxoxo evulekileyo yokufumana isisombululo esipheleleyo.
2. Baleka ukungcikivwa
Kuphephe naluphi na uhlobo lokugxekwa ngokobuqu ngokuthuka, ulwimi olungafanelekanga lomzimba, ukukhwaza, kunye nokukhwaza.
Unokuba nenqaku, kodwa indlela onxibelelana ngayo inefuthe kwindlela iqabane lakho eliluthatha ngayo ulwazi.
IpheUkungcikivwa nge-ersonal kukhuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba lithathe iqhinga lokuzikhusela elithintela inkqubo yakho yonxibelelwano.
Rhoqo, ugculelo lomntu lusebenza njengesixhobo esikhokelela kwiingxoxo ezishushu phakathi kwamaqabane.
Kuya kufuneka ukhokele ulwimi lomzimba, imbonakalo yobuso, kunye nelizwi lakho ngokufanelekileyo ukunqanda ukunika iingcebiso ezingalunganga kwiqabane lakho.
Esi sesinye sezakhono eziphambili zonxibelelwano kwizibini ukuba zikhule xa zifuna iingxoxo zoxolo ngalo lonke ixesha.
3. Qondanani
Funa iqabane lakho ukuba likumamele ngaphandle kokukugweba. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa uxabiso kuqala kwibhidi yokuqhuba inqaku ekhaya.
Iqabane liya kuziva lixabisekile nangona kukho ubuthathaka bakhe. Ngokwendalo, ubudlelwane obunamandla buhlala busebenza ngcono xa ubeka izihlangu zeqabane lakho njengoko ufuna ingqalelo yabo kwinkqubo yonxibelelwano enesiqhamo.
4. Sebenzisa ithoni efanelekileyo
Ngaba nonke nizinzile ngokwasemphefumlweni xa ningena kwingxoxo? Ingxabano malunga nomcimbi obuthathaka inokujika ibe yintlekele kuphela ngenxa yokuba usilele ukusebenzisa ithoni elungileyo.
Izibini ezinxibelelana nokukhula zisebenzisa ithoni efanelekileyo ebonakaliswe ngengqondo ezinzileyo ukujongana nemeko.
Ungaze ufumane ingqalelo yeqabane lakho ngomsindo; ubophekile ukuba uphakamise ilizwi lakho elikhokelela ekuvaleni ngokupheleleyo kwejelo lonxibelelwano.
Ithoni esebenzayo ikunika isipho sokuthobeka kunye nembeko, ekhokela ukhetho lwakho lwamagama kwaye uqhubeke uthoba iqabane lakho ukuba lingene kwingxoxo ngokuthobekileyo.
5. Funa iingcaciso
Esinye isakhono sonxibelelwano kubantu abatshatileyo ukuba baziqhelanise nokubuza imibuzo yokufumana inyani okanye ukufuna inkcazo kumaqabane abo. Obu buchule benza ukuba abantu abatshatileyo baqondane ngcono kunokuba benze iingcinga.
Nobabini ninoxanduva lokulawula ingxoxo. Ukusetyenziswa kwemibuzo evulelekileyo kunemibuzo evaliweyo kunika ithuba iqabane lakho lokwabelana ngolwazi kunye neengcinga malunga nemeko.
Imibuzo evaliweyo ihlala isetyenziswa ngexesha lokuncinwa kwamapolisa hayi kunxibelelwano olunesiqhamo.
6. Sebenzisa isalathiso somntu wokuqala
Njengoko ufuna iimpendulo, yiba yinxalenye yombuzo, umzekelo, xa ufuna ukuba nengxoxo evulekileyo malunga neqabane lakho uphephe iindlela zabo:
“Ndivakalelwa kukuba niyazishiya iimbopheleleko zenu kuba andinikeli ngqalelo ngokwaneleyo.”
Ngoku, le isenokungabi yimeko, kodwa inyani yokuba uyavuma ukuba uyinxalenye yengxaki nokuba awuyiyo, inika iqabane lakho umngeni wokuyamkela kwaye uyamkele le meko njengoxanduva oluhlangeneyo.
7. Gcina uzolile kwaye ulungelelanise iimvakalelo zakho
Isicwangciso esiliqili sokunxibelelana kubantu abatshatileyo kukuba Hlala uphole lonke ixesha uthetha nomlingane wakho Nokuba uyazi ukuba impikiswano iya isiba buhlungu ngexesha lengxoxo.
Ukuzola kukunika ukuzeyisa ukuze ufumane ukuqonda okunzulu ngale meko kwaye, kwangaxeshanye, kunceda iqabane lakho ukuba likhuphe iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu kwaye liqhubele phambili kwisisombululo.
Elona xesha lilungileyo lokunxibelelana kuxa sele upholile, kwaye nguwe olawula iimvakalelo zakho.
8. Lixabise iqabane lakho
Unxibelelwano, oluzele zizityholo kunye neengcinga ezimbi, alunakuze lube nesiqhamo. Iqabane lakho kufuneka libe neempawu ezintle. Ngaphandle koko, unokukhetha ukuqhawula umtshato kunonxibelelwano, zixabise ezo mpawu.
Wonke umntu ufuna uxabiso kunye nezincomo ezintle ukuze athambise intliziyo ukunyaniseka nokungafihlisi- ipharamitha yokunxibelelana ngempumelelo.
9. Yamkele impembelelo yeqabane lakho
Uhlobo olubi lokunxibelelana ubudlelwane kuxa elinye iqabane lilawula okanye lilawula kwelinye.
Sebenzani kunye ukunciphisa ubudlelwane benu kwezi zithethe kwaye musa ukuvumela oku kuthintele inkqubo yoqhakamshelwano enoxolo.
Njengoko ufuna ukuba nezakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo neqabane lakho, qaphela imeko-bume, uzinzo ngokweemvakalelo, kunye nokuzimisela ukuvula intetho.
Ukongeza, iqabane lakho kufuneka libe nolwazi lwangaphambili ngesizathu sentlanganiso. Kuphephe ukukhankanywa kwamava adlulileyo.
Izakhono zonxibelelwano kwizibini ezitshatileyo ngokuqinisekileyo sesinye sezahluko ezibalulekileyo zobomi ekufuneka iqabane ngalinye lizikhumbuze xa sele zisithi 'ndenza njalo'.