Umxholo
- 1. Uninzi lwabantu alubaphulaphuli kakuhle
- 2. Amagama aneentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo
- 3. Unxibelelwano lubonakala luyindalo kwaye ludla ngokuthathwa lula
- 4. Sinxibelelana ngokungathethi ngaphezu kokuthetha, kunokubangela ungquzulwano
Ngelixa uninzi luza kutshabalala ngengcinga yokuba kufuneka lizinikele kwezinye iingcebiso ngezibini, ayisiyombono imbi kwaphela leyo, ubuncinci kuba ubudlelwane bunzima kwaye unxibelelwano, ngakumbi, kunokuba ngumceli mngeni.
Ukucebisa ngonxibelelwano kubantu abatshatileyo kungabusindisa ubudlelwane.
Ke kuyacaca ukuba ubuncinci ufumanise ukuba kutheni ukunxibelelana ngesibini esitshatileyo kunganceda ubudlelwane bakho namhlanje.
1. Uninzi lwabantu alubaphulaphuli kakuhle
Uninzi lwabantu alufumani kulula ukumamela.
Endaweni yoko, ngokwendalo bafuna ukuthetha okanye ukuveza izimvo zabo kwaye xa bengathethi, baya kuba becinga ngendlela abavakalelwa ngayo malunga nemeko okanye into abazakuyithetha ngokulandelayo. Kuthatha ubuchule ukufunda ukumamela kakuhle.
Esi sesona sizathu siphambili songquzulwano kubudlelwane, ngakumbi xa sele kukho iimpikiswano, ukutyhola okanye ukungakhathali kubudlelwane.
Mhlawumbi ufumana iimpikiswano ezininzi okanye ukukhathazeka neqabane lakho kuba uziva ngathi abamameli, okanye usoloko utyholwa ngokungamameli.
Endaweni yokuvumela ukukhathazeka, iingxabano kunye nembambano ukuba zakheke, kutheni ungacingi ngokufunda indlela yokunxibelelana ngokukuko ngokucebisa kwezonxibelelwano kwizibini ezitshatileyo. Unokuluvuyela uxolo olufumanayo ngenxa yoko!
2. Amagama aneentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo
Sithatha amagama ngokungakhathali, sicinga ukuba siyayazi intsingiselo yawo kwaye nentsingiselo egcinwe ligama ngalinye iyafana kuye wonke umntu.
Kodwa ukuba ukhetha amagama ambalwa, ngakumbi amagama ahambisa imvakalelo, kwaye ubuze abantu abambalwa ukuba lithetha ntoni elo gama kubo (ngaphandle kwabo bebhekisa kwisichazi-magama) amathuba okuba bonke baya kuza nohlobo oluhlengahlengisiweyo Intsingiselo.
Phonononga ngakumbi kwaye ubuze abantu ukuba yintoni intsingiselo yegama abasandula ukulisebenzisa ukuchaza igama lantlandlolo kwaye uyakufumanisa ukuba ukutolika komntu ngamnye kukude lee nalapho iqale khona ungabona ngesiquphe ukuba kutheni kusoloko kukho ukudideka indlela esinxibelelana ngayo nonxibelelana ngayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha unokufumana iqabane liphendula kwinto oyithethileyo ngendlela ebonakala ingaphezulu kwaye iyinqaba kuwe, kwaye kungenzeka ukuba kungenxa yokuba intsingiselo yegama yahluke ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakho kunokuba kunjalo kuwe .
Ingcebiso kwezonxibelelwano kubantu abatshatileyo inokukunceda nobabini, njengesibini, ukuba niqonde indlela amagama eniwakhetha ngayo anokuvuselela imvakalelo omnye komnye kwaye ikufundise ukuba ungayifumana njani indlela yokunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo kwixa elizayo.
3. Unxibelelwano lubonakala luyindalo kwaye ludla ngokuthathwa lula
Kuba sifundisiwe ukunxibelelana sisebenzisa ulwimi kunye namagama ukusukela ekuzalweni kwethu, singathatha indlela esinxibelelana ngayo ngokungakhathali enokuthi ibe nefuthe kubantu abasondeleyo kuthi ngamanye amaxesha.
Asisoloko siyiqonda indlela esihlukumezana ngayo ngamazwi ethu, okanye indlela esingaqondani ngayo iindlela zonxibelelwano zomnye nomnye. Kwaye unxibelelwano oluphosakeleyo phakathi kwabo sibathandayo luya kuhlala lubangela iingxabano kunye nokuphazamiseka kubudlelwane bakho-amaxesha amaninzi kungekho nto!
Ngaba ngekhe kubengcono ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana kakuhle njengesibini ukuze ungabinakujongana nale micimbi yonxibelelwano kubudlelwane bakho?
Ingcebiso kwezonxibelelwano kwizibini inokuba lolunye lwezona mali zibalulekileyo ozenzayo ebomini bakho nakubudlelwane bakho.
4. Sinxibelelana ngokungathethi ngaphezu kokuthetha, kunokubangela ungquzulwano
Ngaba ukhe wathetha neqabane okanye ilungu losapho elisondeleyo kwaye ngequbuliso iqabane lakho libuza impendulo yakho okanye licel 'umngeni ebusweni bakho?
Mhlawumbi wena ngokungazi usonge iingalo zakho, waqengqa amehlo akho okanye uthandabuza ixesha elide xa kubuzwa umbuzo obalulekileyo, kwaye bekuninzi kakhulu ukuba iqabane lakho liphathe kuba kuyabonakala ukuba, wenza izinto ezinje ngalo lonke ixesha.
Le ngxaki iqhelekileyo yonxibelelwano inokushiya 'onetyala' evakalelwa kukuba ucaphukile kwaye uphazamisekile, ngapha koko, benze ntoni?
Iindlela zethu zonxibelelwano ezingezizo zomlomo zinokusifaka engxakini, ngamanye amaxesha kwingxaki enzulu ngokuphindaphindiweyo!
Nokuba awuzange uthethe ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho ngendlela owenze ngayo, uya kuzifumana usengxakini kaninzi ukuba awuyifumani into oyenzayo ecaphukisa iqabane lakho.
Ewe kunjalo, unokucaphukiswa kukucaphukisa kweqabane lakho oya kuthi enze umgca kwiimpikiswano ezininzi kunye nembambano engeyomfuneko!
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yile ndlela nangona usebenzisa iingcebiso kunxibelelwano kwizibini ezizixhobo njengesixhobo sokukunceda nobabini niyivume indlela enxibelelana ngayo ngokungazi kunye nangamazwi kwaye nifunde uhlengahlengiso lwendlela yenu yokunxibelelana ngokungathethi okanye ufunde ukuqonda ukutolika Unxibelelwano olungenamlomo oluvela kwiqabane lakho.
Ingcinga yokugqibela
Kweli nqaku, sinezizathu ezine kuphela zokuba iingcebiso kunxibelelwano kwizibini ezinokubaluleka kulo naluphi na ubudlelwane kunye notyalo mali olubaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane bakho, kodwa zininzi ngakumbi apho bavela khona.
Ukuba ulumkile kwaye uqala ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo neqabane lakho, uya kufumanisa iindlela ezininzi esinokuthi sinxibelelane ngayo ngendlela engeyiyo kunye nendlela yokuzilungisa. Ukushiya kubudlelwane obunoxolo nobonwabisayo apho nobabini ninxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ukuba eso ayisosizathu sokufuna ukuphonononga iingcebiso zonxibelelwano kwizibini esingazi ukuba yintoni!