Umxholo
- Ukuthandana nomntu oqhawule umtshato - ungalindela ntoni?
- 1. Ukuzibophelela akuyi kuza lula
- Thatha kancinci
- 3. Ukulindela kuthelekiswa nenyani
- 4. Imiba yezemali iya kubakho
- 5. Abantwana baya kuza kuqala
- 6. Ukujongana ne-Ex
- Ngaba uyakwazi ukumelana nale mingeni?
Xa ungayilindelanga kwaphela, umntu uza kuza ebomini bakho ayitshintshe-ngokoqobo.
Xa kuziwa kuthando, sukuchitha ixesha lakho ekugxileni amandla akho kwi ukhangela umntu ngaphakathi "kokukhethwa" kwakho kuba inyani yile, thina musa ukulawula ukuba ngubani esithandana naye nge.
Ewe kunjalo, sifuna ukuthandana nomntu ozimeleyo kwaye ongatshatanga kodwa kuthekani ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uwela indoda eqhawule umtshato? Ungathini xa uthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato ikunika lonke ulonwabo olungapheliyo? Ngaba ufumana phezulu ukuthandana indoda kutshanje umtshato?
Kwaye okokugqibela kodwa kungaphelelanga apho, ukulungele njani ukujongana nemiceli mngeni yokuthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato?
Ukuthandana nomntu oqhawule umtshato - ungalindela ntoni?
Ukukhetha ukuthandana nomntu oqhawule umtshato kunokubonakala kunzima kwaye inyani yile; Kunzima kakhulu ukulungelelanisa ngakumbi xa uza kuthandana nendoda enembali enzima ekuqhawuleni umtshato nakwi-ex yayo. Kwakhona, ukuthandana nendoda esandula ukuqhawula umtshato nabantwana nje yongeza kuluhlu lwakho lweengxaki.
Ukubeka ulindelo yinto yokuqala leyo Kuya kufuneka uqaphele Phambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuya kumhla nomntu oye waqhawula umtshato. Esona sizathu siqhelekileyo sokuba kutheni ingasebenzi kukuba awukakulungeli kule meko.
Kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuba uhlengahlengise imeko yakhe, yiyo loo nto ukulungela esona siseko sisiseko sakho ukuba ufuna ulwalamano lwakho luphumelele.
Yintoni oyilindeleyo xa uthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato?
Lindela uhlengahlengiso oluninzi, Lindela ukuba kuya kufuneka urhoxise izicwangciso ngokungalindelekanga kwaye ulindele ukuba lo mntu uza kujongana nemicimbi kunye nokunye okuninzi.
Njengoko besitsho, ukuba umntu ubalulekile kuwe, ke, ungoyisa imiceli mngeni ukuba unqwenela ukuqhubeka uthanda indoda eqhawule umtshato.
Nantsi ke eyona mingeni ixhaphakileyo yokuthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato.
Imiceli mngeni eqhelekileyo yokuthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato
1. Ukuzibophelela akuyi kuza lula
Ukuba ucinga kulungile abafazi i-WHO ufumane ukothuka ngokuzibophelela emva koqhawulo-mtshato, emva koko uyaphazama. Namadoda aziva ngale ndlela, nokuba siyintoni na isizathu soqhawulo mtshato; isaphula izifungo abazithembisa zona.
Abanye, ukuthandana kusenokuba mnandi, kodwa xa besiva ukuba iya isiba mandundu, banokuziva ukuba kufuneka baphume kulwalamano ngaphambi kokuba baphinde benzakale. Kufuneka uvavanye izinto.
Ngaba le ndoda ikulungele ukuba nesibindi kwakhona okanye uziva ngathi ijonge nje ukuthandana namantombazana ngoku?
Thatha kancinci
Oku kunokuba yenye yemiceli mngeni ojamelana nayo xa ukhetha ukuthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato. Njengoko engakulungeli ukuzibophelela ngokulula, i ubudlelwane Ngaba, ewe, thatha isantya kancinci ngaphezu kobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo obaziyo.
Unokuba ugcinwe kancinci Ungalindeli ukudibana nabahlobo bakhe okanye usapho okwangoku. Kananjalo, nangona inokubonakala ikhathazekile, sukuyikhathaza ngayo okanye ungayithatheli kuye. Endaweni yoko, kungcono ukuba uqonde ukuba uvela phi.
Yonwabela ubudlelwane bakho kwaye uthathe kancinci.
3. Ukulindela kuthelekiswa nenyani
Uyakhumbula ukuba ukulindela kwenzakala kanjani? Khumbula oku ingakumbi ukuba umntu othandana naye uqhawule umtshato.
Awunakulindela ukuba abekhona rhoqo xa umfuna ingakumbi xa enabantwana. Musa ukulindela ukuba akucele ukuba ungene naye njengobuhlobo bakho bangaphambili.
Yazi lonto le nyani iya kwahluka ngaphezu kwezinto ozilindeleyo. Omnye wemiceli mngeni ephambili yokuthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato kukuba kuya kufuneka uyenze Qonda into ozifaka kuyo.
4. Imiba yezemali iya kubakho
Yilungele le nto.
Kufuneke u uyawazi umahluko yokuthandana nomntu oqhawule umtshato kunye nomntu ongatshatanga ngaphandle koxanduva. Kukho amaxesha apho inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato isenokungabi yeyokugqibela okanye ithathe umthwalo kwiimali zomntu lowo.
Sukuyithathela kuye ukuba akanakukunyanga kwindawo yokutyela entle okanye kwiholide enkulu.
Kuya kubakho namaxesha apho anokucebisa ukuba uthathe isidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye utye endlwini yakho kunokuba utye kwivenkile yokutyela, ke sukucinga ukuba akazimiselanga ukuchitha mali kuwe- qonda ukuba oku kuyakwenzeka.
5. Abantwana baya kuza kuqala
Oku kunokuba ngumceli mngeni onzima wokuthandana nomntu oqhawule umtshato-ngakumbi xa ungekho ebantwaneni. Ukuthanda indoda eqhawule umtshato kunzima, kodwa ukuba umntu othandana naye unabantwana, ke akunakukukhetha kubo.
Le yi inyaniso enzima lonto kufuneka wamkele ngaphambi kokungena kubudlelwane.
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho angathanda rhoxisa umhla wakho xa abantwana bakhe bebiza okanye ukuba abantwana bayamdinga. Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ayikuvumeli ukuba ungene endlwini yakhe njengoko abantwana bakhe bengakulungelanga ukudibana nawe kunye neemeko ezininzi apho unokuziva ukuba awunakuba naye ngokwakho.
6. Ukujongana ne-Ex
Ukuba ucinga ukuphatha ixesha kunye nabantwana bakhe kunzima, kuya kufuneka ujongane nomceli mngeni wokuva okuninzi kumfazi wakhe wangaphambili.
Oku kunokuxhomekeka kwimeko yabo, kukho amaxesha apho abantu abatshatileyo bahlala bengabahlobo kwaye kukho abanye abasaza kuba neengxabano malunga nokugcinwa njalo njalo.
Abantwana baya kuba nento eninzi yokuthetha ngakumbi xa beqala ukudibana nawe. Unokuweva amagama amaninzi "mama wam" ukuze ulungele ukuba ungakhathali malunga nawo.
Ngaba uyakwazi ukumelana nale mingeni?
Zonke ezi imingeni isenokubonakala isoyikisa kwaye uze uyicinge, kunzima kodwa eyona nto iphambili apha kukuba uyakwazi zivavanye kuqala Phambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuya kubudlelwane.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba andikulungelanga ukujongana nale mingeni ukuthandana nomntu osandula ukuqhawula umtshato okanye ukuba ucinga ukuba unako kodwa awuqinisekanga - sukuhamba ngayo.
Le isenokungabi yingcebiso oyikhangelayo kodwa yinto elungileyo ukuyenza.
Ngoba? Elula - ukuba uyakuqonda oku embindini wobudlelwane, ke uya kubuyela umva kubudlelwane kwaye oku kuya kubangela enye into ebuhlungu kwindoda othandana nayo.
Msindise oku ukuba awuqinisekanga ngekhulu leepesenti ukuba ungamamkela njengoko enjalo kwaye uzimisele ukuthatha imiceli mngeni yokuthandana nendoda eqhawule umtshato.