Umxholo
- Ukufumana uthando kwikholeji
- Izifundo kunye nokuthandana ekholejini
- Ikholeji ukuthandana iingcebiso kuwe
- 1. Ukuba neqabane akuyomfuneko
- 2. Khetha umntu oza kuncedisa
- 3. Funa imbeko, hayi ingqalelo
- 4. Zixabise izifundo zakho ngalo lonke ixesha
- 5. Qiniseka ngesiqu sakho kuqala
- 6. Yiba neenjongo kwaye ubeke izinto eziphambili
- 7. Ngaba ungamelana nezifundo kunye nobudlelwane?
- 8. Cinga ngcono
- 9. Iintlungu ezibuhlungu azimenzi umntu ongaphantsi
- Sigqiba thina
Ukuya ekholejini ayithethi nje loo nto usisiqalo esitsha yokufunda ngokujongana nobomi, indawo oyikhethileyo, kunye neengxelo ezininzi. Inyani yile, ufunda ngakumbi kwiikholeji kunezifundo nje.
Ukuba kwikholeji kukwathetha ukuba ngoku uya kujongana nengxaki yokwenene ebomini.
Lelona xesha lilungileyo Ngokwenyani ibasemathandweni kwaye ube kubudlelwane - izandi ezivuyisayo? Ewe kunjalo!
Eli ikwalixesha apho kufanelekileyo ukuba sithathe lonke ingcebiso ngobudlelwane bekholeji esinokuyifumana njengoko inokubumba ngokubabazekayo sibe ngabantu abadala.
Ukufumana uthando kwikholeji
Ukuqala ikholeji yakho ubomi sele eyoyikisayo. Imvakalelo efanayo inokwanda ukuba uyaqonda ukuba eli ikwalixesha apho ukuqala kwikholeji kuqala.
Sukuba nexhala! Ngapha koko, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive uxhalabile kwaye usoyika ngalo lonke utshintsho olukhulu olwenzekayo ebomini bakho. Ngaphandle kwabafundi, iingxelo, kunye neeprojekthi, uyakuqala ukwazi abantu abaninzi kwaye ukuba unethamsanqa, ikwayiyo le ithuba lokufumana uthando kwikholeji.
Siya kuba nemingeni yethu ekholejini.
Nazi Imiceli mngeni kwizifundo, kwi ubomi bokuhlala Ewe kunjalo ukufumana uthando. Kwabanye, ukuvuma umntu ukuba uyabathanda kuza lula, kodwa kukwakho iimeko apho uloyiko lokwaliwa lukhulu ngakumbi kunesibindi esinaso sokuvuma iimvakalelo zethu.
Ngamnye wethu uya kudlula kwezi zilingo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kungcono ukuba Mamela kwimamela kum iingcebiso ubudlelwane ekholejini ayisiyo eyokuthandana kuphela kodwa kwanendlela esinokwenza ngayo izifundo zethu kunye nothando ngobomi.
Ukufumana uthando kwikholeji akuyomfuneko kodwa kuya kufuneka sivule kwaye sikulungele ukudibana nomntu esinokuthandana naye.
Izifundo kunye nokuthandana ekholejini
Uninzi lwenu olusandula ukuqala ikholeji ngokuqinisekileyo luya kufuna ukwazi ukuba "Ukuthandana kusebenza njani ekholejini." Ngubani ongayiyo?
Amakhwenkwe okanye amantombazana kufanele qaphela ukuba imithetho yekholeji yokuthandana ke asizukulahleka ngobomi obukhawulezayo esiza kungena kubo.
Ubudlelwane bekholeji butshintshile ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Namhlanje, abafundi beekholeji zivulekile ngakumbi ukuba zithandane kwanokudlala ngothando. Yinto ebizwa ngokuba yinxalenye emnandi yekholeji, a ukukhulula uxinzelelo kwaye kungenxa yokuba lelo lixesha apho sonke sikhona ukuzihlola kwaye isini sethu.
Inye into onokuyilindela kwingcebiso yobudlelwane bekholeji kukufumana ulwazi kunye nobulumko kungekuphela nje kukuthandana kodwa kwindlela esiphatha ngayo ubudlelwane.
Uthando lunokwenza ubomi bakho bekholeji bumangalisa kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukuphatha ukuba nobudlelwane kwaye ujolise kwizifundo zakho, oku kunokuba nefuthe elihle kwikamva lakho.
Namhlanje, abafundi beekholeji bayazi ngakumbi ngento abayenzayo kwaye uninzi lwabazali sele luvumela abantwana babo abasekholejini ukuba babenendawo yabo kwaye bathande ubomi kodwa kufuneka sikhumbule neengcebiso zobudlelwane beekholeji eziphezulu eziza kwenza oku kube lula kancinci thina.
Ikholeji ukuthandana iingcebiso kuwe
Ukuba uku-nyaka wakho wokuqala kwikholeji kwaye ngandlela thile uziva ukuba ukulungele ukuqala ukuthandana nomntu kwikholeji ke yeyakho le.
Khumbula, ayinamsebenzi ukuba kanjani Iinkulungwane zeminyaka zikhululiwe okanye evulekileyo, iingcebiso ngobuhlobo bekholeji usaxabisa ixesha lakho ngenxa yokuba uyakholelwa okanye hayi, ukuba uyayithanda indlela engeyiyo- nkqu nezifundo zakho ziya kuchaphazeleka.
1. Ukuba neqabane akuyomfuneko
Eyokuqala college dating iingcebiso Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ukuba nesoka okanye intombi ayisiyomfuneko kwikholeji.
Ewe siyayiqonda indlela “emnandi” ngayo ukuba phakathi kwabantu abathandanayo kodwa ukuba uyenza le njongo, ayicetyiswa loo nto.
2. Khetha umntu oza kuncedisa
Enye iingcebiso zekholeji zokuthandana kubafana namantombazana kukuba umntu oza kukhetha ukuthandana naye kufuneka abe ngumntu oya kuba negalelo kwimpilo yakho iphela.
Oku Umntu kufuneka akulungele ayingomntu ozokwenza nzima ubomi.
Ukuthandana nomntu ongalunganga kunokukunika uxinzelelo olunokubangela ukuba ungaziphumeleli izifundo zakho.
Ungakuvumeli oku kwenzeke.
3. Funa imbeko, hayi ingqalelo
Funa intlonipho kumntu oza kuthandana naye, hayi ingqalelo.
Ewe, ingqalelo ilungile okwethutyana kodwa intlonipho inkulu kwaye kunjalo enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo olo thando lunokusifundisa.
Asinakuba sonke sinobudlelwane obunzulu kwikholeji kodwa kufuneka okungenani siqiniseke ukuba siqinile kwinto esifuna ukuba nayo.
4. Zixabise izifundo zakho ngalo lonke ixesha
Elinye icebiso lobudlelwane kwikholeji ekufuneka silikhumbule kukuba nobabini kufuneka nisaxabise izifundo zenu.
Inyani yile, kunjalo Kulula ukuphazamiseka ngothando ukuba yethu izifundiswa ziba kwindawo yesibini ephambili. Oku akufuneki kwenzeke, endaweni yoko, nobabini kufuneka nincedane ukuba nibe ngcono kwizifundo zenu.
5. Qiniseka ngesiqu sakho kuqala
Ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokumangalela umntu okanye singene kubudlelwane, kufanelekile Kuqala kufuneka siqiniseke ngeziqu zethu.
Ukungena kubudlelwane, xa ungakulungelanga akuyi kusebenza. Umona, ukungazithembi kunye nokulwa ngokungeyomfuneko kuya kwenzeka xa ungekakulungeli ukungena kubudlelwane.
6. Yiba neenjongo kwaye ubeke izinto eziphambili
Ukuba kwikholeji kuxinzelelo ngokwaneleyo. Ke ungavumeli ulwalamano lwakho luthathe umthwalo kumanqanaba oxinzelelo lwakho. Kubalulekile ukuba wena neqabane lakho nibe neenjongo eninokusebenza kunye.
7. Ngaba ungamelana nezifundo kunye nobudlelwane?
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuqala njani ukuthandana kwikholeji, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba ungaziphatha zombini izifundo kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Ukuba unako, mhlawumbi unako qalisa ukwamkela abanqandi okanye inkundla intombazana oyithandayo. Ukuba akunjalo, mhlawumbi usafuna jolisa kwizifundo zakho Ekuqaleni.
8. Cinga ngcono
Ukuba uziva ubonakalisa umdla nomnye umntu kunaye - cinga ngcono. Kutheni ungxamela ukuba nobudlelwane?
9. Iintlungu ezibuhlungu azimenzi umntu ongaphantsi
Hlukana okanye Intliziyo ebuhlungu soze ikwenze umntu ongaphantsi. Ikwathetha ukuba awuthandeki nawe.
Ke, ukuba oku kuyenzeka, khumbula ukuba usenokwazi ukuthanda nokuthandwa.
Sigqiba thina
Siyazi kananjalo nokuba zingaphi iingcebiso zobudlelwane beekholeji kunye neengcebiso esihlangana nazo, ekupheleni kosuku, sisengabo abo Siza kuzigqiba.
Ukuba ngumfundi wasekholejini kuyonwabisa, kunzima, kuxinzelelo, kwaye akulibaleki yiyo loo nto silapha- ukuhlala ubomi bethu silungiselela ikamva lethu.
Ukufumana uthando endleleni kuya kuba kuhle kodwa kukwakhumbuza kancinci ukuba nathi kufuneka sibe nobulumko.