Umxholo
- Imizabalazo yemali okanye yexesha lokuba ngumzali ichaphazela abantwana
- Ukungachithi ixesha nabazali bobabini kunokuba yingozi ebantwaneni
- Ingcebiso kubazali
- 1. Sukuxoxa ngemizabalazo yakho nabantwana bakho
- Khuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba bathethe nomnye umzali
- 3. Qiniseka ukuba abantwana bakho baziva bethandwa ngabazali bobabini
- 4. Sukubenza abantwana bakho bakhethe icala
- 5. Yiba nolawulo xa uthetha nabantwana bakho
- Ukukhetha le ndlela kunzima kodwa kufanelekile
Ngaba abantwana banokonwaba ngokukhuliswa ngumzali omnye? Kanjalo. Kodwa abantwana baxhamla kakhulu ngokukhuliswa ngabazali bobabini. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ungabambisana njani nomzali kunye neqabane lakho langaphambili.
Amaxesha amaninzi umzali omnye angaphela ahlule omnye umzali, mhlawumbi ngokungazi. Umzali unokucinga ukuba bayabakhusela abantwana babo kodwa akusoloko kunjalo.
Abazali banezimvo ezahlukileyo kwezona zilungele abantwana babo. Omnye umzali unokucinga ukuba abantwana kufuneka bathathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo yeqela ngelixa omnye ecinga ukuba imisebenzi emculweni okanye kubugcisa kufuneka ibe yeyona nto iphambili.
Xa umzali elindeleke ukuba ahlawule isabelo sabo kwimisebenzi yabantwana nokuba bacinga ukuba yeyona ilungele abantwana babo, kungakho umzabalazo.
Imizabalazo yemali okanye yexesha lokuba ngumzali ichaphazela abantwana
Baziva ukungavani.
Naxa abazali bezama ukuyifihla, abantwana bahlala bekwazi ukuba baqhuba njani abazali babo.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baziva bedibene ngakumbi nomzali onelungelo lokugcina ngakumbi kwaye uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo (umzali ogcina umntwana).
Abantwana banokuziva ngathi bayamngcatsha umzali ogcina umntwana ngokusondela kumzali ongamgcinanga.
Abantwana banokuthi, ngenxa yokunyaniseka kumzali ogcina umntwana, bakhethe ukuchitha ixesha elincinci kunye nelincinci nomzali ongamgcinanga umntwana. Le meko inokwenzeka kancinci, ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye ekugqibeleni ikhokelela ekubeni abantwana babone okuncinci kakhulu kumzali ongagcinanga.
Ukungachithi ixesha nabazali bobabini kunokuba yingozi ebantwaneni
Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana abachitha ubuncinci i-35% yexesha labo kumzali ngamnye, endaweni yokuhlala nomnye kwaye batyelele nomnye, banolwalamano olungcono nabazali babo bobabini, kwaye benze ngcono ezifundweni, ngokwasentlalweni nasengqondweni.
Uninzi lwabazali abaneenjongo ezintle bangena kule meko. Ngexesha lokufikisa kwabantwana, babe bejolise kubomi babo, banokungafuni ukusebenza kubudlelwane nomzali wabo ongagcinanga.
Unokufumana ukuba ujongene nolutsha oluchasayo xa ufuna ngokwenene omnye umzali.
Ingcebiso kubazali
Ngalo naliphi na inqanaba lobomi babantwana bakho, ukucebisa ngokubambisana nokuba ngumzali kunokunceda ekuphiliseni ubudlelwane kunye nomzali ongamgcinanga umntwana.
Iingcali zonyango ezibonelela ngokucebisa ngokubambisana nokuba ngumzali kufuneka babe namava okusebenza neentsapho ezijongene noqhawulo-mtshato kwaye apho omnye umzali enolwalamano olubi nabantwana.
Ezi Therapists zisebenza nabazali, nokuba kukodwa ngokwahlukeneyo okanye bekunye, kwaye bangenise abantwana kwingcebiso njengoko kufuneka.
Ngaphandle kwesityala, i-Therapist ivavanya ukuba usapho lufike njani kule ndawo kunye nendlela yokutshintsha unxibelelwano, isimilo, kunye nobudlelwane bamalungu osapho ukuze basebenze kwaye basebenze ngcono kunye.
Nazi iingcebiso ukuze ungangeni kumgibe wokwahlukanisa iqabane lakho langaphambili kunye nokwenza iingxaki kubantwana bakho:
1. Sukuxoxa ngemizabalazo yakho nabantwana bakho
Ungaze uxoxe ngemizabalazo onayo ne-ex yakho phambi kwabantwana bakho, nokuba bayabuza ngayo.
Ukuba abantwana bakho babuza malunga nomba othile, mabazise ukuba uyasebenza nonina okanye utata wabo kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba bazikhathaze ngawo.
Khuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba bathethe nomnye umzali
Ukuba abantwana bakho bakhalaza ngomnye umzali, bakhuthaze ukuba bathethe naye malunga naloo nto.
Bazise ukuba kufuneka balungise izinto kunye nomama okanye utata wabo kwaye ngekhe ubenzele lonto.
3. Qiniseka ukuba abantwana bakho baziva bethandwa ngabazali bobabini
Qinisekisa abantwana bakho ukuba omnye umzali wabo uyabathanda kwaye akukho namnye kuni olungileyo okanye ongalunganga, eyahlukileyo.
4. Sukubenza abantwana bakho bakhethe icala
Musa ukuvumela abantwana bakho bazive ngathi kufuneka bathathe icala. Zigcine ziphakathi kwemicimbi yabantu abadala kwaye uthethe ngokuthe ngqo kwi-ex yakho malunga nantoni na enxulumene nemali, ishedyuli, njl.
5. Yiba nolawulo xa uthetha nabantwana bakho
Lumka kwindlela onxibelelana ngayo nabantwana bakho. Thintela iingxelo ezinje:
- Utata akafuni ukuhlawulela izifundo zakho zebhaleyi. ”
- “Umama wakho usoloko ekulahla kade!”
- "Andinamali yokuhlawula oko kuba ndichitha iipesenti ezingama-30 zexesha lam ndisebenza ukuhlawula isondlo kunyoko."
- Kutheni utata engazukubona umdlalo webhola yomnyazi? ”
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba wenza enye yezi zinto zingasentla, cela uxolo kubantwana bakho kwaye ubazise ukuba usebenza ngokutshintsha indlela onxibelelana ngayo nomama okanye utata wabo.
Ukukhetha le ndlela kunzima kodwa kufanelekile
Kunzima ukuthatha indlela ephezulu kodwa ngokwenene yenza umahluko kwimpilo-ntle yabantwana bakho. Ukongeza, uyakufumanisa ukuba ubomi bakho buya kuba ngcono ngeendlela ezininzi. Uya kuba noxinzelelo oluncinci ebomini bakho kwaye uya kwakha intsebenziswano esebenzayo kunye ne-ex yakho ukuze ungayijongani nemicimbi yabantwana bakho wedwa.
Uyakufumanisa ujonge phambili kwimisebenzi okanye kwinkomfa zootitshala endaweni yokoyikisa. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nabahlobo abasenyongweni kunye ne-ex yakho okanye ubhiyozele iiholide kunye kodwa ukuba nobudlelwane obuhle bokusebenza yenye yeendlela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho abasindanga kuqhawulo-mtshato kodwa bayaphumelela kusapho lwakho emva komtshato.