Umxholo
- 1. Ndancamathela
- 2. Umgwebo uyinyani
- 3. Imigaqo inokungacaci
- Uluhlu lwesampulu lwemithetho yokugcina intliziyo yakho ikhuselekile yiya kwinto encinci enje:
- 4. Ndine STD
- 5. Khange ibe ilungile
- 6. Kusasa emva kokufunxa
Abo baziinkosi kwisini esingaqhelekanga bayayazi yonke imigaqo.
Bakhuselekile ngeentliziyo kunye nemizimba yabo. Banxibelelana rhoqo ngeemfuno zabo kwaye babeke imigaqo esisiseko ukuze kungabikho mntu wenzakalayo.
Kodwa kuthi sonke, ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga luhambo oluhlala luhleli olunokuthi lubonakalise ezantsi kakhulu kunaphezulu.
Kwabo basesecingweni malunga nokuba baqale ukungazibandakanyi nezinto ezingathandekiyo, nanga amabali alumkisayo anokukwenza ukuba ucinge kabini malunga nokuba ukulala nomntu ongathandani naye kulungile kuwe:
1. Ndancamathela
Beka imida! Ndiyazi, ndiyazi. Lo ngowona mgaqo mkhulu wesondo oqhelekileyo. Ngelishwa, andizange. Imeko yam ye-FWB ihambe into enje: ukuhlangana, ukujija, ukulala, isidlo sakusasa kunye, kwaye uqhubeke nokuzikhathaza ngalo mfana kangangeenyanga ezintandathu.
Ndinqwenela ukuba bendinokuthi sidibene kwaye sihlala ngolonwabo emveni koko, kodwa eneneni, intliziyo yam yaphuke kakhulu. Yhu. - Yujing, 27
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu banamathele ngokomzwelo kumaqabane abo esondo. Uphando lubonisa ukuba i-oxytocin okanye "i-hormone yothando" ekhutshwe ngexesha lokunyusa isondoukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kwizibini.
I-Oxytocin ikwanciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye ibonakalisiwe ukuba ikhuthaza ukuthembana kunye nokudibana phakathi kwamaqabane.
Ngenzululwazi enje ngokuxhasa isenzo, akumangalisi ukuba kutheni abantu beziva beqhotyoshelwe kumhlobo wabo kunye nezibonelelo.
2. Umgwebo uyinyani
Kuninzi ukugweba okwangoku ukuba neentlobano zesini ezingaqhelekanga, ngakumbi kumantombazana. Ngokuqinisekileyo ayifanelekanga ukuba ndizive ndihlekwa ngabahlobo bam okanye ndifundiswe malunga nendlela endiza kuphelisa ngayo ukwenzakala. -UMarissa, 24
Inkcubeko yokutsala iyeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini kule mihla. Ukuba nemeko yezihlobo-kunye nezibonelelo kuqheleke ngoku kunakuqala. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabantu, ngakumbi abantu ababhinqileyo, bazifumana begwetywa ngabahlobo, usapho, kunye nabanye abantu ababandakanyekileyo kwesi senzo singaqhelekanga.
Kukho ixesha apho oku kubizwa ngokuba yi "slut shaming", okanye isenzo sokujongela phantsi abantu basetyhini ngokuziphatha kakubi.
3. Imigaqo inokungacaci
Mna kunye ne-FWB yam sasicinga ukuba sinakho konke ukuya kwisayensi. Sasinoluhlu olukhulu lwemithetho, kodwa imigaqo yaphazamiseka ngokukhawuleza.
Ngaba i-sleepover ilungile ukuba nobabini ubunesisindo kakhulu kwaye bekungakhuselekanga ukuqhuba ugoduke?
Kwaye kuya kuthini ukuba umntu olala yedwa ajike abe sisingxobo kunye nesidlo sakusasa ebhedini? Ngokusisiseko, ukuphela, besikhe sayophula yonke imigaqo eyenze ukuba kube nzima ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukusuka kwilungiselelo lethu. -Michelle, 20
Ukuba uza kubeka i-adventure engathandabuzekiyo yesini, khumbula ukuseta imigaqo ethile yomhlaba kwaye unamathele kuyo! Le mithetho kufuneka igqitywe ngawo omabini amaqabane.
Uluhlu lwesampulu lwemithetho yokugcina intliziyo yakho ikhuselekile yiya kwinto encinci enje:
- Chaza iminqweno yakho. Cacisa malunga nento oyifunayo kubudlelwane bakho obuqhelekileyo. Ukuba awuyikhangeli ukuba iguquke ibe yinto engaphezulu, yiza phambili ngayo.
- Musa ukwanga. Ukuphuzana kusondele kakhulu kwaye kuye kwaqinisekiswa ukuba kukhuthaza iziko lomvuzo wobuchopho. Ngenxa yolu lwalamano, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungcono ukuba ushiye ingxelo yakho ngokwesondo kunye nomntu oqhelene naye.
- Yiba nembeko omnye komnye, ngokwesondo nangenye indlela. Awufuni kuhlonitshwa kwigumbi lokulala, kananjalo awufuni iqabane lakho owabelana nalo ngesondo ukuba lisitye ukungcola kuwe ukuba awukhululekanga ukuba nabanye abantu bayalazi ishishini lakho labucala.
- Thetha ngothando. Kwenzeka ntoni xa usiwa “njengaye”?
- Ngaba ubudlelwane bakho buyimfihlo? Kungcono uxoxe ngokukhetha kwakho ngasese ngaphambili.
- Xoxa ngendlela oza kuzigqiba ngayo izinto. Kuza kwenzeka ekugqibeleni!
4. Ndine STD
Ndandisandula ukuphuma kubudlelwane beminyaka emine kunye nentombi endala xa ndandinowam wokuqala umtya ongenamakhonkco. Ndacinga ukuba izakundinceda ndizive ngcono. Endaweni yoko ndafumana ukuvuza ngaphantsi.
U-ex-wam wathi wayeqhula esithi sisohlwayo sam ukulala nomntu kwakamsinya nje emva kokuba ndohlukene. Ewe, iyanya. -UJake, 25
Amaziko oLawulo lweZifo noThintelo abonisa ukuba ii-STD ziyenyuka. Kukho iimeko eziyi-1.7 yezigidi ze-chlamydia ukusuka ngo-2013 ukuya ku-2017, eyi-22% yokunyuka. Iimeko ze-Gonorrhea zikhuphuke ngama-67% kunye negcushuwa ngama-76%.
Ukuba uza kuba nolwalamano nje nomntu, khumbula ukuba ukhuselekile. Yenza uvavanyo rhoqo kwaye usebenzise ukhuseleko olufanelekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha usabelana ngesondo.
5. Khange ibe ilungile
Kwikholeji, bendizimisele ukuphonononga 'imeko' kwaye nantsi into endiyifundileyo kumaqabane amane endikunye nawo. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga kumantombazana yintsini enkulu. Khange ndigqibe kube kanye. -ULora, 22
Ubusuku obunye buzwakala bumnandi, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kuyonelisa- ngakumbi ukuba ungumfazi.
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abasetyhini banamathuba okuba ne-orgasm kunye neqabane elinothando kunokudibana. Olu ayisiyeyona statistic ilungileyo yamanenekazi afuna ukufumana ukwaneliseka kukuhlangana ngokwesondo.
6. Kusasa emva kokufunxa
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga kwakulungile kum, kwada kwasa emva koko. Ndiyazi njengomfana ukuba ndifanele ukuphola ngalo lonke uthando 'em emva koko ndishiye into, kodwa bendingenguye.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kuya kushushu kwaye kusasa, ndiza kuziva ndigula malunga noko kwenzekileyo. Ndiyithathile yonke into 'yokuba netyala' njengophawu lokuba ii-hookups ezingaqhelekanga mhlawumbi bezingezizo ezam. - UAdam, 30
Ayinguye wonke umntu okwaziyo ukuthatha iimvakalelo ngaphandle kwesini.
Emva kwakho konke, isondo yenye yezona zinto zisenyongweni onokuzenza nomntu. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga ngumdlalo okhohlisayo. Inokukushiya uneemvakalelo ezingafunekiyo, ikwenze uzive unetyala, okanye uzive ngathi luthotho lokwahlukana emva komnye.
Ukuba ungumntu onamathela ngokulula okanye ongakulungelanga ukubuyela umva kubahlobo nakusapho xa befumanisa ukuba ubukade ukwintoni, isini esingaqhelekanga singekho kuwe.