Umxholo
- Ukuxela ngokusondeleyo kunye nokubuyisela
- Ukuziveza ngokusondeleyo kumntu ongalunganga kunokubangela ukuba ube nentliziyo ebuhlungu
- "Ekuboneni-kwam"
- Ukusondelelana okwenene ngumahluko phakathi "kwenkanuko" kunye "nothando"
Ngaphambi kokuba sithethe ngovuyo, imfuneko, kunye nemiyalelo yesini; kufuneka siqonde kuqala ukusondelelana. Nangona isondo lichazwa njengesenzo esisondeleyo; ngaphandle kobuhlobo, asinakulufumana ngokwenyani uvuyo lukaThixo ngesondo. Ngaphandle kolwalamano olusenyongweni okanye uthando, isondo siba sisenzo somzimba okanye inkanuko yokuzinqwenela, efuna ukwenziwa kuphela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, xa sinobudlelwane obusondeleyo, isondo aluyi kufikelela kwinqanaba lokunyaniseka kukaThixo kodwa liza kufuna omnye umdla kunokuba unomdla wethu.
Ibinzana elithi "ukusondelelana emtshatweni" lihlala lisetyenziselwa ukubhekisa kwiintlobano zesini. Nangona kunjalo, eli binzana ngokwenyani lingumbono obanzi kakhulu kwaye lithetha ngobuhlobo nonxibelelwano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ke, masichaze ukusondelelana!
Ubusondeleyo baneenkcazo ezininzi kubandakanya ukuqheleka okanye ubuhlobo; ukusondela okanye unxibelelwano olusondeleyo phakathi kwabantu. Umoya ococekileyo wangasese okanye uxolo olusondeleyo. Ukusondelelana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.
Kodwa enyeInkcazo yokusondelelana esikuthandayo ngokwenene kukuzibonakalisa kolwazi olusondeleyo lomntu kunye nethemba lokuphindisela.
Ukusondelelana akwenzeki nje, kufuna umgudu. Lulwalamano olusulungekileyo noluthandana ngokunyanisekileyo apho umntu ngamnye efuna ukwazi ngakumbi ngomnye; ke, benza umzamo.
Ukuxela ngokusondeleyo kunye nokubuyisela
Xa indoda ihlangana nomntu obhinqileyo kwaye bahlakulela umdla omnye komnye, bachitha iiyure ngeeyure nje bethetha. Bathetha buqu, ngefowuni, ngokuthumela imiyalezo, nangeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuncokola. Into abayenzayo kukuzibandakanya kufutshane.
Bayazityhila kwaye babuyisela ulwazi lomntu kunye nolusondeleyo. Babhengeza ixesha labo elidlulileyo (ukuthandana ngokwembali), okwangoku (ukusondelelana okwangoku), kunye nekamva labo (ulwalamano olusondeleyo). Oku kutyhilwa kusondeleyo kunye nokubuyekezwa kunamandla amakhulu, kangangokuba kukhokelela ekubeni bathandane.
Ukuziveza ngokusondeleyo kumntu ongalunganga kunokubangela ukuba ube nentliziyo ebuhlungu
Ukuzityhila okusondeleyo kunamandla, kangangokuba abantu banokuthandana ngaphandle kokuba badibane ngokwasemzimbeni okanye babonane.
Abanye abantu bade basebenzise ukubhengeza okusondeleyo kwi "Catfish"; into apho umntu ezenza ngathi ngumntu abangayisebenzisiyo i-Facebook okanye amanye amajelo asekuhlaleni ukwenza ubungqina obubuxoki bokulandela ukukhohlisa ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi. Abantu abaninzi bakhohlisiwe kwaye baxhamla inzuzo ngenxa yokuziveza kwabo.
Abanye baphuke iintliziyo kwaye bade babuhlungu nasemva komtshato kuba umntu abazityhila kuye, ngoku akameli umntu abathandana naye.
"Ekuboneni-kwam"
Enye indlela yokujonga ukusondelelana isekwe kwibinzana elithi "In-to-me-see". Kukubhengeza ngokuzithandela ulwazi kwinqanaba lomntu kunye neemvakalelo ezivumela omnye ukuba "abone" kuthi, kwaye basivumele ukuba "sibone" kubo. Sibavumela ukuba babone ukuba singoobani, yintoni esiyoyikayo, nokuba sithini amaphupha, amathemba kunye neminqweno. Ukufumana ubudlelwane obusenyongweni kuqala xa sivumela abanye ukuba banxibelelane neentliziyo zethu kwaye nathi sinabo xa sabelana ngezi zinto zisondele entliziyweni yethu.
Nkqu noThixo ufuna ukusondela kuthi ngokusebenzisa "in-to-me-see"; kwaye usinika nomyalelo!
UMarko 12: 30-31 (KJV) uze uyithande ke iNkosi uThixo wakho ngentliziyo yakho iphela, nangomphefumlo wakho uphela, nangengqondo yakho iphela, nangamandla akho ephela.
Uze umthande ummelwane wakho njengawe siqu.
Akukho mthetho wumbi mkhulu kunale.
Apha uYesu usifundisa iindlela ezine zothando nokusondelelana:
- “Ngentliziyo Yethu Yonke”Ukunyaniseka kwazo zombini iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo.
- “Ngomphefumlo Wethu Yonke”-Umntu wonke ongaphakathi; imeko yethu ngokweemvakalelo.
- “Ngengqondo Yethu Yonke”-Ubume bethu bengqondo; ukubeka ubukrelekrele kuthando lwethu.
- “Ngamandla Akho Onke”- Amandla ethu; ukuyenza ngokungagungqiyo ngamandla ethu onke.
Ukuthatha ezi zinto zine kunye, umthetho woMthetho kukuthanda uThixo ngako konke esinako. Ukumthanda ngokunyaniseka okugqibeleleyo, ngenzondelelo enkulu, ekusebenziseni ngokuzeleyo ukuqonda okukhanyisiweyo, nangamandla onke obuntu bethu.
Uthando lwethu malube kuwo omathathu amanqanaba obuntu bethu; ukusondelelana komzimba okanye umzimba, umphefumlo okanye ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, kunye nomoya okanye ukusondelelana ngokomoya.
Akufuneki sichithe nawaphi na amathuba esinayo, okusondela kuThixo. INkosi yakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kuye ngamnye kuthi onqwenela ukuba kubudlelwane kunye Naye. Ubomi bethu bobuKristu abukho malunga nokuziva ulungile, okanye malunga nokufumana ezona zibonelelo zihle kunxibelelwano lwethu noThixo. Endaweni yoko, kungaye etyhila okungakumbi ngaYe kuthi.
Ngoku umthetho wesibini wothando unikwe thina omnye komnye kwaye uyafana nowokuqala. Makhe sijonge lo myalelo kwakhona, kodwa kwincwadi kaMateyu.
UMateyu 22: 37-39 (KJV) Wathi ke uYesu kuye, Uze uyithande iNkosi uThixo wakho ngentliziyo yakho iphela, nangomphefumlo wakho uphela, nangengqondo yakho iphela. Nguwo lowo owokuqala nomkhulu umthetho. Owesibini ke ufana nawo: Uze umthande ummelwane wakho ngoko uzithanda ngako.
Okokuqala uYesu uthi, "Kwaye owesibini uyafana nawo", lowo ngumthetho wokuqala wothando. Ukubeka nje, kufuneka sithande abamelwane bethu (umzalwana, udade, usapho, umhlobo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo namaqabane ethu) njengokuba simthanda uThixo; ngentliziyo yethu yonke, nangomphefumlo wethu wonke, ngengqondo yethu iphela, nangamandla ethu ephela.
Okokugqibela, u Yesu usinika umthetho wegolide, "mthande ummelwane wakho njengoko uzithanda ngako"; "Yenza kwabanye njengoko ubuya kuthanda benze kuwe"; “Bathande ngendlela ofuna ukuthandwa ngayo!”
UMateyu 7:12 Zonke izinto ngoko enisukuba ninga bangazenza abantu kuni, yenzani ezikwanjalo nani kubo; kuba oko kungumthetho nabaprofeti.
Kubudlelwane obunothando bokwenene, umntu ngamnye ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi ngomnye. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba bafuna ukunceda omnye umntu. Kolu lwalamano lusenyongweni ngokwenene, indlela yethu kukuba sifuna ubomi bomnye umntu bube ngcono ngenxa yobomi babo. Ubomi bam bubhetele kuba nam ndikulo! ”
Ukusondelelana okwenene ngumahluko phakathi "kwenkanuko" kunye "nothando"
Igama elithi inkanuko kwiTestamente eNtsha ligama lesiGrike "Epithymia", esisono esabelana ngesondo esigqwetha isipho esivela kuThixo ngesini. Inkanuko iqala njengengcinga eba yimvakalelo, ethi ikhokelele kwisenzo: kubandakanya uhenyuzo, ukukrexeza, kunye nezinye izinto ezigwenxa ngokwesondo. Inkanuko ayinamdla wokuthanda ngokwenene omnye umntu; Inzala yalo kuphela kukusebenzisa loo mntu njengeyona nto inqwenelekayo okanye yanelise.
Kwelinye icala Uthando, isiqhamo soMoya oyiNgcwele esibizwa ngokuba yi "Agape" ngesiGrike yile nto uThixo asinika ukuba soyise inkanuko. Ngokungafaniyo nothando lomntu oluphindaphindeneyo, iAgape yeyokomoya, ukuzalwa ngokoqobo okuvela kuThixo, kwaye kubangela ukuthanda ngaphandle kokuphindisela.
Yohane 13: Ngayo le nto baya kwazi bonke, ukuba ningabafundi bam, ukuba nithe nathandana
UMateyu 5: Nivile ukuba kwathiwa, Uze umthande ummelwane wakho, uluthiye utshaba lwakho. Ke mna ndithi kuni, Zithandeni iintshaba zenu, basikeleleni abo baniqalekisayo, benzeleni okulungileyo abo banithiyayo, nibathandazele abo banigxekayo banitshutshise;
Isiqhamo sokuqala sobukho bukaThixo luthando kuba uThixo uluthando. Kwaye siyazi ukuba ubukho bakhe bungaphakathi kuthi xa siqala ukubonisa iimpawu zakhe zoLuthando: ukuthantamisa, ukuxabisa, ukuxolela okungenamda, ububele kunye nobubele. Yiyo eyenzekayo xa sisebenza kubuhlobo obusenyanisweni okanye bokwenyani.