Umxholo
- Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uphephe ukuxakeka imini yonke?
- Ungaluthintela njani uxinzelelo olunxulumene nomsebenzi?
- Ngaba ukuzahlulela kuyinto embi?
- I-rollercoaster yemvakalelo yokurhweba
- Ungajongana njani nemvelaphi eyahlukileyo yeqabane lakho?
- Umnini-shishini ophumeleleyo, umthandi othandekayo?
Bathi amaqondo oqhawulo mtshato aphezulu kakhulu koosomashishini ...
Ngaba yinyaniso leyo?
Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ungaluthintela njani uqhawulo mtshato ngokuba liqabane elilungileyo ngelixa unexesha lokukhulisa ishishini lakho?
Kule nqaku uza kufunda ngezinye zeengcebiso ezilungileyo zomtshato koosomashishini.
Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uphephe ukuxakeka imini yonke?
Ukutshata nosomashishini ngamanye amaxesha kunokuziva ngathi uza kwindawo yesibini kwaye ishishini lihlala liza kuqala.
Njengosomashishini kuyakufuneka wenze ixesha lokutyala imali kubudlelwane bakho. Njengakwishishini ungafuna ukusebenza kwiinjongo zexesha elide kubudlelwane bakho. Yonke into ekhulayo ifuna ukuhoywa, injalo ke ishishini kunye nothando. Nobabini niyakufuna ukuzinikela kwaye nikulungele ukuzincama.
Ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane bakho businde kuxinzelelo lweshishini, kungcono ucinge-kunye neqabane lakho-apho uya kube uneminyaka emihlanu ukuya kwelishumi ukusukela ngoku. Ke kuya kuba lula: yenza yonke into esemandleni akho ukusebenzela ukufikelela kuloo njongo.
Ukuba ngusomashishini ungaziva uxakekile kwaye ungxamile imini yonke. Ngaphandle koluvo lokuziva uxinezelekile kungcono ukucwangcisa ixesha ukuze uchithe ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye neqabane lakho. Unokufuna ukwenza imikhwa ethile yokuqinisekisa ukuba awuzukuhlala ucinga malunga neshishini lakho ngelixa uchitha ixesha neqabane lakho. Omnye umkhwa onjalo kukungaze ujonge i-imeyile xa ukunye neqabane lakho kwaye ucime izaziso ze-imeyile- okanye utshintshele ifowuni yakho kwimowudi yenqwelomoya.
Ungaluthintela njani uxinzelelo olunxulumene nomsebenzi?
Uxinzelelo olunxulumene nomsebenzi luxhaphakile phakathi koosomashishini. Kodwa qagela ukuba yintoni, kukho okungakumbi emhlabeni ke ishishini lakho.
Ukuzixakekisa ngeshishini lakho kwaye nokuthetha ngalo rhoqo kunokuba yinto entle kuwe, kodwa hayi kakhulu kwiqabane lakho. Qiniseka ukuba unezinye izinto onomdla wokuthetha ngazo kunye. Qiniseka ukuba niyazenza izinto enizonwabelayo nobabini.
Ukwabelana ngeenkxalabo zakho okanye umzabalazo njengosomashishini kunokuba nenkululeko kakhulu, kodwa mhlawumbi iqabane lakho ayingoyena mntu ungathatha iingxaki zakho kuye. Ngamanye amaxesha usomashishini ocinga ngokufanayo unokuziqonda ngcono iingxaki zakho. Ngale ndlela awuzukuphazamisa iqabane lakho ngentetho enxulumene neshishini kwakhona. Oku kunceda ekuqinisekiseni ukuba yonke iminithi oyichitha neqabane lakho igcwele izihloko ezilungileyo.
Ukuqhubekeka ukunqanda uxinzelelo yinto elungileyo ukuba wazi ukusikelwa umda kwakho kunye nolindelo. Uninzi lwabarhwebi 'bayasokola' kwi-hypomania kwaye banomdla kwaye banethemba. Yeyiphi eyona nto intle kakhulu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha la mandla aphezulu anokukushiya okanye iqabane lakho uzive udiniwe okanye uxinekile xa izinto zingasebenzi njengoko ubuzimisele. Kubalulekile ukuba ube sengqiqweni kwaye ujonge kufutshane kuzo zonke izinto othi "ewe" kuye. Ixesha namandla akho anciphile. Zisebenzise ngobulumko.
UTony Robbins uthi uxinzelelo ligama eliphumelelayo loloyiko. Ukusilela kuhlala kunokwenzeka ngokubakho kweziqalo. Nangona kunjalo ayizukulimaza ishishini lakho ukuba ulala kamnandi kanye ngexeshana, okanye ubeke phambili iqabane lakho ngeempelaveki. Unokuzifumana ezi zinto ziyakuhlaziya kwaye zikuvuselele ngokutsha, ukuze ube nokubanamandla okusebenza kwishishini lakho.
Ngaba ukuzahlulela kuyinto embi?
Ukuzinikezela kunokuba yintsikelelo nesiqalekiso.
Ekuqaleni iqabane lakho linokumangaliswa kwaye lichukunyiswe lixabiso lakho lokuqina kunye nokuzinikezela. Uyalithanda ishishini lakho kangangokuba uqhubeka nje. Kodwa kungekudala okanye kamva ukuzinikezela okufanayo kunokubeka umsantsa phakathi kwenu nobabini. Yenza iqabane lakho ubabalo kwaye uvume ukuba libaluleke kangakanani ixesha nosapho lwakho. Ekugqibeleni impumelelo ngaphandle kokuzaliseka loloyiso olungenamsebenzi. Uzakufuna usapho kunye neshishini lakho ukuze uzive uphumelele ngokwenyani.
I-rollercoaster yemvakalelo yokurhweba
Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kunokuba nzima kuye nawuphi na usomashishini. Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lokuzama ukuyenza kunokuba ngumthwalo onzima. Ngamanye amaxesha unokuziva ngathi ulwa nehlabathi. Inkxaso yeqabane lakho ayixabisekanga kwezi meko. Yazi kodwa, ukuba iqabane lakho lineengxaki zalo, ngenxa yoko inkxaso engagungqiyo ayisoloko ifumaneka.
Ungajongana njani nemvelaphi eyahlukileyo yeqabane lakho?
Amathuba kukuba iqabane lakho alilo somashishini. Ngaba uyayiqonda indlela oziva ngayo ngokusebenza njengosomashishini?
Ayisiwo nje umsebenzi, unokuziva ngathi yile nto uyenzelwe ukuba uyenze. Kwabanye abatshatileyo oku kudala uhlobo oluthile lomona: bafuna ukuba yeyona nto iphambili kwindawo yokuqala. Ngelishwa, kubanini bamashishini abaninzi ishishini liza- phantse-libaluleke ngokulinganayo njengolwalamano.
Ukuqondana kuyasebenza apha. Ukuba uyaliqonda iqabane lakho kwaye liyakuqonda, uya kuba usendleleni eya kubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide.
Umnini-shishini ophumeleleyo, umthandi othandekayo?
Ukuba ngusomashishini ophumeleleyo kunye neqabane elikhulu akuhlangani ngokukodwa. Ninokuba nobabini. Inxalenye ekhohlisayo ibetha ibhalansi elungileyo. Uya kufuna ukutyala ixesha kwiqabane lakho, ngelixa unexesha elaneleyo kunye namandla okuzinikela kwishishini lakho.
Emuva xa wawutshatile wavuma ukuba kulunge okanye kubi. Ke nokuba ubomi buza kuba noxinzelelo okanye buxakeke kangakanani na, qiniseka ukuba niyancedana. Ukutshata nosomashishini ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba yimincili. Yonwabela ukukhwela kwaye uxabise omnye nomnye.