Umxholo
- Ungaze uthethe kakubi ngeqabane lakho esidlangalaleni
- Ngalo lonke ixesha hlula umsebenzi wasekhaya
- Yenza ngokucacileyo
- Yiba nesondo ngakumbi
Ngaba wena neqabane lakho nikwiqela elinye? Andithethi ngokutshata nje. Ndithetha ngokuba nomqolo weqabane lakho nokuba kunjani. Ndithetha ngezinto ezincinci emtshatweni. Ndithetha ngokunceda iqabane lakho ukuba liphakame xa liwile. Ngaba ucinga ukuba wena neqabane lakho nilolo hlobo? Ndiyathemba njalo. Kuba ezo ntlobo zemitshato ziyasebenza. Kungenxa yokuba ezo ntlobo zemitshato zidala ukuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo omnye komnye. Ukuba akunjalo, Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokuqala ukwakha iqela elikhulu emtshatweni:
Ungaze uthethe kakubi ngeqabane lakho esidlangalaleni
Andikwazi nokuqala ndikuxelele ukuba zingaphi izihlandlo izibini, kubandakanya nomyeni wam, sinetyala "lokuqaqambisa" amaqabane abo phambi kwabanye abantu. Kuvakala ukuba umsulwa ngokwaneleyo xa uqala ukujonga, kodwa xa uthetha kakubi ngomlingane wakho phambi kwabanye (nokuba kukuhlekisa) kunokumenzakalisa kakhulu ukuzithemba kwakhe. Oku kuvumela kuphela ukuwohloka komtshato ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Kwelinye icala, izibini eziphumelelayo kwaye ezibonakala zonwabile ngokungenakwenzeka zezona zithetha kakhulu omnye komnye esidlangalaleni. Ke ndicebisa ukuba xa wena neqabane lakho nidinga ukomelela, qala ukuthetha nabo kwabanye abantu. Iqabane lakho liza kuziva lithandwa kwaye lifunwa kwiintsuku ezizayo.
Ngalo lonke ixesha hlula umsebenzi wasekhaya
Umsebenzi wendlu unokuba yinxalenye yobomi. Nangona kunjalo, kuyinxalenye yobomi! Nokuba inguwe neqabane lakho ngoku, kusekho umsebenzi wasekhaya ekufuneka wenziwe kunye nokuhlamba iimpahla kufuneka kuhlanjwe. Kubalulekile ukuba wena neqabane lakho nifunde ngaphambili ukwahlulahlula phakathi ezantsi ukuze kungabikho mthwalo unzima.
Xa yayindim ndedwa owenza umsebenzi wasendlwini, upheka, njl.njl. Kodwa sakuba sibonile ukuba siliqela kuyo yonke into, kubandakanya yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya, ubomi baba ngcono kakhulu kuthi sobabini kuba sasixabana ngokungaphezulu.
Yenza ngokucacileyo
Ukungafihli nakuphi na ukuhlobana kufanele kube yinto ephambili kodwa ukungafihli emtshatweni kunyanzelekile. Ukunyaniseka kwakha ukuthembana kwaye ukuthembana kwakha ukusondelelana. Okukhona unyaniseka kwiqabane lakho, kokukhona ubudlelwane benu buya kuba bhetele kuba niyakwazana kwelona nqanaba linzulu, elona lisondeleyo.
Kwelinye icala lelo, iimfihlo nobuxoki kudala iindonga kunye nomgama emtshatweni. Ukuxoka kwiqabane lakho kuphela kutshabalalisa ukuthembana okuya kuphelisa ulwalamano. Ndiyayazi le nto. Emtshatweni wam, bekukho imfihlo kunye nobuxoki obudale umgama omde kwaye butshabalalise ukuthembana. Kuthathe ixesha elide kakhulu ukwakha ukuthembana kwaye nangaphezulu ukuba nobomi obusenyongweni obusempilweni kwakhona.
Yiba nesondo ngakumbi
Ukwabelana ngesondo! Mamela, ndiyazi ukuba kukho itoni yeziphazamiso ebomini ezenza ukuba ulwalamano oluhambelanayo kunye neqabane lakho kubonakale kungenakwenzeka. Kodwa ayisiyiyo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuhlala kuyinto yokuqala ukususwa kwidokodo kuba ijongwa njengomsebenzi weqhekeza endaweni yeklasi engundoqo. Kukho izifundo ezininzi phaya ezithi isini YIMFUNO, hayi ukufuna nje, kwamadoda (nabasetyhini). Sisidingo kuba sisondeza amadoda kubafazi babo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Kungenxa yoko le nto amadoda ephumelela kubudlelwane kunye nokusondelelana okungaguquguqukiyo komzimba.
Kwelinye icala ukungaguquguquki, ubudlelwane obuqhele ukungazenzi ezona zinto ziphambili ngokwesini kuhlala kungonwabanga njengezibini ezenzayo. Kungenxa yokuba xa isondo lisaliwa njalo, amadoda avakalelwa kukuba amaqabane awo awakhathaleli kwaphela, hayi isini kuphela. Ukwalelwa kukubetha ngqo kwi-ego yabo, impilo-ntle yabo, kunye nokuzithemba kwabo Zonke ezo zinto kufuneka zibekwindawo esempilweni ukuze zibe nolwalamano olusempilweni.
Olu luhlu alubandakanyi konke ke nceda ufumane izinto ezininzi ezinokukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba nibe kwiqela elinye. Kungenxa yokuba xa wena neqabane lakho nikwiqela elinye, izinto zobugqi zenzeka kubandakanya inqanaba elinzulu lokusondelelana ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala!