Umxholo
- Iindlela ezimbini zokwenza intlekele
- Ukwahluka njani ukwahluka kwesoyikiso sokwenyani
- 1. Cela umngeni ku "kuthekani ukuba" iingcinga
- 2. Dlala umdlalo othi “kuthekani ukuba“ iingcinga
- 3. Zibuze malunga nendlela osombulule ngayo iimeko zoxinzelelo nezingakonwabisiyo
- 4. Yiba nomonde
- 5. Fumana inkxaso
Ngaba wena okanye iqabane lakho nikhe niziqhushumbe izinto, ngendlela engalinganiyo? Okanye uneengcinga ezingenangqondo okanye ezibaxiweyo ngayo yonke into encinci eyenzekayo ebomini bakho?
Iindlela ezimbini zokwenza intlekele
Intlekele inokuthatha iindlela ezininzi, kodwa nantsi imizekelo emibini elula. Okokuqala, kunokuba ngohlobo lokuba nengcinga engenangqondo kunye nokukholelwa kwinto embi kakhulu kunokuba injalo. Okwesibini, inokubetha imeko yangoku okanye intlekele kwimeko yexa elizayo engakhange yenzeke.
Ukwahluka njani ukwahluka kwesoyikiso sokwenyani
Nazi izinto ekufuneka sizazile.
Iingqondo zethu azihlali ziwazi umahluko phakathi kokuphanzisa (ukucinga ngesoyikiso) kunye nesoyikiso sokwenyani.
Into egqibela ukwenzeka kukuba siqale ngengcinga elula engenangqondo kwaye le ngcinga ithumela ingqondo yethu kwimowudi yoxinzelelo. Emva koko siqhoboshela imvakalelo kule ngcinga ingenangqondo, enje; uloyiko okanye ingozi. Ngoku, le ngcinga ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi ndawo. Le ngcinga ngoku iba "kuthekani ukuba imeko". Apha, kwi "kuthekani ukuba" siqala ukudlala ngeenxa zonke nazo zonke iimeko eziyintlekele. Ngokusisiseko, ingqondo yethu sele ithinjiwe kwaye sikwimo yokuphakuzela kwaye akukho ndlela yimbi sinokuyenza ngaphandle kokuyonakalisa le meko.
Nanku umzekelo: ndiye kugqirha wam namhlanje. Kuhambe kakuhle kodwa ugqirha wam ufuna ndenze umsebenzi wegazi. Yima, ngoku ndiyoyika! Kutheni efuna ndenze umsebenzi wegazi? Kuthekani ukuba ucinga ukuba ndinesifo esoyikekayo? What if ucinga ukuba ndiyafa? OMG! Kuthekani ukuba ndiyafa?
Ukuba oku kuvakala ngathi wena okanye iqabane lakho, nanga amanye amanyathelo okukunceda UKUQEDA UKUQALA
1. Cela umngeni ku "kuthekani ukuba" iingcinga
Zibuze ukuba ngaba le ngcinga indisebenzela ngenjongo? Ngaba le ngcinga isempilweni? Ngaba bukhona ubungqina bokuba ezi ngcinga ziyinyani? Ukuba impendulo nguhayi, musa ukunika loo ngcinga enye yesibini yexesha lakho. Guqula loo ngcinga, ziphazamise, okanye uqhubeke nokuphinda le ngcinga ayisiyonyani. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka sicele umngeni kwezi ngcinga zingenangqondo kwaye sizibuyisele kwangoku apho sinegunya lokucinga kwethu.
2. Dlala umdlalo othi “kuthekani ukuba“ iingcinga
Dlala lo msitho ungenangqondo kunye nentlekele. Ke ndiyokwenza umsebenzi wegazi kwaye kukho into engalunganga. Kwenzeka ntoni ke? Ndiza kulunga? Ngaba ugqirha uya kuba neengcebiso zokulungisa izinto? Ngamanye amaxesha siyalibala ukudlala le meko kude kube sekupheleni. Into enokwenzeka ekugqibeleni kukuba siya kuba kulungile kwaye kuya kubakho isisombululo. Mhlawumbi into ebonakalayo emsebenzini wakho wegazi kukho ithuba elifanelekileyo lokuba ivithamini okanye isongezelelo sinokukunceda. Sidla ngokulibala ukudlala imeko yonke indlela yokuphela kwaye sizikhumbuze ukuba sizakulunga.
3. Zibuze malunga nendlela osombulule ngayo iimeko zoxinzelelo nezingakonwabisiyo
Ngokunokwenzeka ukuba uphathe uninzi lweemeko ezininzi ezixinzelelekileyo nezingonwabisiyo ebomini bakho. Uqhube njani? Masibuyele umva kwaye sizikhumbuze ukuba singamelana namaxesha anzima kwaye, masikhuphe kwezi zixhobo kunye nezixhobo esasizisebenzisa ngelo xesha kwaye sizisebenzise kwakhona ngoku.
4. Yiba nomonde
Ukutshabalalisa yindlela yokucinga. Kuthatha ixesha ukutshintsha indlela esicinga ngayo. Eyona nto inkulu onokuzenzela yona kukwazi ukucinga kwakho kwaye ube nomonde nesiqu sakho. Ezi zinto zithatha ixesha. Ngokwazisa kwaye, ukuziqhelanisa nezinto kunokutshintsha.
5. Fumana inkxaso
Ngamanye amaxesha intlekele iyasigqwesa. Inokudala uxinzelelo kunye nokungasebenzi kakuhle kubomi bethu nakubudlelwane. Isenokuba lixesha lokufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha kunye nezixhobo zokukunceda ekusebenzeni ngeengcinga neemvakalelo ezinjalo.