Umxholo
Njengomphathiswa wesibini, ndihlala ndiva amaqabane echaza omnye komnye njengonamathele, obandayo, owenqabayo, okanye ohlala kwilizwe lakhe. Into abayichazayo ngokuyintloko ayizizo iimpawu zobuqu kodwa iindlela zokuncamathisela ezenzeka ebuntwaneni kwaye ziyaqhubeka nokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bethu babantu abadala.
Indlela esinxibelelana ngayo namaqabane ethu, nokuba sifuna ukusondelelana okanye ukusondelana, indlela esixakeke ngayo ubudlelwane bethu kunye nendlela esiphatha ngayo ukwaliwa zizinto ezimisela izimbo zethu zokuncamathisela. Ngamanye amagama, izitayile zokuncamathisela ziindlela zethu zokunxibelelana namaqabane ethu asenyongweni. Zisiphumo sonxibelelwano lwethu olusekwe ngokuncamathiselwe kubazali bethu kunye nentambo zentlalo.
Ukuncamathiselwa kunokukhuseleka okanye kungakhuselekanga, kuxhomekeke kumgangatho wobudlelwane bethu nabazali bethu xa sasisebancinci kakhulu. Izitayile ezibini eziphambili zokuncamathisela okungakhuselekanga kukuxhalaba kunye nokuthintela ukunamathela. Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo endiyibonayo phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo abajamelana noxinzelelo lobudlelwane liqabane elinesitayile sokuncamathisela esidityaniswe neqabane elithintelayo.
Abalingani abanesitayile sokuncamathisela sokuthintela bahlala befumanisa ukuba abakwazi ukunika oko amaqabane abo akufunayo kubo njengothando lomzimba, ukusondelelana, okanye ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Isitayile sokuncamathisela kulungelelwaniso lokungakhathalelwa ngokweemvakalelo kwabazali okuzibonakalisa njengesidingo esomeleleyo sokuzimela kunye nokuzimela kubudlelwane babantu abadala.
Xa becaphukisiwe, amaqabane aphephayo afuna ixesha lodwa lokuzola kwaye bahlala befumana inqanaba eliphezulu kakhulu loxinzelelo kulwalamano lwabo. Nangona kunjalo, kunqabile ukuba bajonge ngaphakathi ukufumana oyena nobangela weengxaki zabo. Bahlala besithi uxinzelelo lobudlelwane nakumaqabane abo okanye kwiimeko zangaphandle.
Abantu abanengqondo ethembayo phantse ihlala ikhokelela ekuphoxekeni kwaye balungile ekunyamekeleni abanye kodwa ingezizo ezabo bathambekele ekubeni nesitayile sokuncamathela. Amaqabane ngokuncamathisela okuxhalabileyo anokuqonda ukuba amaqabane awo azingca okanye azicingela yedwa kwaye uziva enamathele kubudlelwane obukwelinye icala apho iimfuno zabo zingakhathalelwanga ngendlela abanyamekela ngayo amaqabane abo.
Bavame ukuba nesidingo esinamandla sokuthetha izinto xa becaphukile. Ukuncamathisela okuxhalabisayo kukuziqhelanisa nothando nengqwalaselo yabazali engahambelaniyo. Kukwanokwenzeka ukuba basoloko belumkile ngazo naziphi na izoyikiso kubudlelwane kwaye banolwazelelelo nakutshintsho oluncinci kwimo yeqabane labo okanye amandla obudlelwane.
Uloyiko, inkxalabo kunye nokukhathazeka zihlala zibenza bangabinazo kwaye bathambekele ekugxileni kwizigqibo malunga nobudlelwane babo ngokukhawuleza.
Unxibelelana njani nomlingane onesitayile sokuncamathela kwixhala?
Abantu abaneendlela zokuncamathela koxinzelelo bahlala bexhalabile kuba iimvakalelo zabo zingumthwalo, kwaye ezona ngxaki zabo zinkulu okanye uloyiko lokwahlukana, ukuba wedwa nokushiywa.
Ukuba iqabane lakho linestayile sokuncamathela, kunokuba luncedo kuwe ukuba ulandele ezi ngcebiso ukoyisa imiceli mngeni kubudlelwane bakho bokuncamathela.
- Nxibelelana emehlweni kwaye udlulise ukuba unomdla, uyabandakanyeka kwaye uyaphendula xa uncokola.
- Bonisa umdla / umdla kwaye ubuze imibuzo.
- Nika isiqinisekiso kwangoko kwaye xa ukhuthazwa.
- Yabelana ngezinto malunga nawe kunye neemvakalelo zakho- ungazi ukuba uziva njani okanye apho izinto zimi khona ziyaliphazamisa iqabane lakho elixhalabileyo.
- Zama ukusombulula / ukulungisa izinto ngalo mzuzu okanye ngokukhawuleza. Nika iqabane lakho ithuba lokuba bathethe ngeemvakalelo zabo.
Unxibelelana njani neqabane
Abantu abaneendlela zokuncamathisela ekuthinteleni bahlala bexhalabile kukungenelela ngaphakathi okanye ukuziva bebanjiwe, kwaye ezona ngxaki zabo ziphambili okanye uloyiko batyholwa / bagxekwa okanye baziva bengalawuleki.
- Ukuba iqabane lakho linendlela yokuphepha yokuncamathisela, kunokuba luncedo kuwe:
- Mamela ngakumbi kwaye uthethe kancinci- izivakalisi ezimbalwa ngexesha elinomsantsa phakathi xa iqabane lakho liphendula- ufuna incoko ibe yincoko hayi eyomntu omnye. Ukuba uzifumana ukwi-monologue, sele ulahlekelwe ngabaphulaphuli bakho (iqabane).
- Nika iqabane lakho ixesha lokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo / iingcinga- musa ukuba semngciphekweni wemibuzo yakho okanye unyanzelise ukuba iqabane lakho kufuneka labelane nawe ngendlela abaziva ngayo kwangoko nangoko.
- Endaweni yoko, baxelele ukuba banokufikelela kuwe xa bekulungele ukuthetha.
- Khokela incoko ngokuba sesichengeni kunye neemvakalelo ezithambileyo- ukuqala incoko ngomsindo, ukugxeka, kunye nokugxeka kuyaphikisana kakhulu Beka iimvakalelo zakho ecaleni ngalo mzuzu ukukhuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba livule ukuze lakhe ubudlelwane obunobuthathaka.
- Zama ukusombulula / ukulungisa izinto ngokukhawuleza. Sukulijamela iqabane lakho ngemiba eliqela engasonjululwanga obehleli kuyo- endaweni yoko uze nomcimbi omnye ngexesha, ulisombulule udlulele kwelilandelayo.
Ezi zezinye zezona ndlela ziluncedo ekufezekiseni unxibelelwano olusebenzayo kubudlelwane. Ngaphandle kweendlela zokuncamathisela ezahlukileyo, ukubaluleka konxibelelwano kubudlelwane akunakukrwelelwa ngokwaneleyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukujongana nombuzo-indlela yokulungisa unxibelelwano kubudlelwane kunye nokwenza nzulu uthando, uvelwano, novelwano omnye komnye.