Umxholo
Ingavakala iyisidenge, kodwa kukho abantu abaziva bengamalolo kubudlelwane.
Lo mntu inokuba nguwe okanye iqabane lakho. Ukuziva uwedwa kubudlelwane luphawu lwengxaki. Unokuba kubudlelwane obudala okanye obunetyhefu.
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni umntu enokuziva elilolo kubudlelwane. Isenokuba luxinzelelo oluvela kwezinye izinto, kwaye iqabane lakho alincedi ukunciphisa. Unokuba uhlala kwintsebenziswano engenaluthando, kwaye Uhamba nje kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla ngaphandle kokonwaba, uthando okanye intsingiselo.
Indlela yokujongana nesizungu kubudlelwane
Kunzima, kuqala kufuneka uchonge ukuba kutheni uziva uwedwa kubudlelwane. Ngaba liqabane lakho lingunobangela, okanye kukusilela kwabo kwenkxaso ekushiya uzive ungakhathalelwanga.
Nalu uluhlu olungakhethi cala lobudlelwane obunetyhefu onokuthi ube nakho ukuchaza ukuba kutheni uziva uwedwa kubudlelwane.
Ukuxhomekeka Xa elinye iqabane liswele kakhulu, kwaye elinye livumela ukuphathwa gadalala ukufezekisa uxanduva lwalo.
Jonga kwakhona:
- I-Narcissistic / iqabane elilawulayo -Ukuba elinye iqabane lisebenzisa i-blackmail, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxoka, kunye nobundlobongela ukulawula iqabane labo
- Ilahleko elibi - Elinye iqabane alinathemba ngayo yonke into kwaye libhenela ekusebenziseni gwenxa iziyobisi njengesixhobo sokubaleka, bagxeka umhlaba, amaqabane abo, wonke umntu, kubandakanya neposi ngobunzima babo.
- Ulwalamano olungenaluthando - Ngaba ufana neerobhothi? Ukuhamba kulungelelwaniso olufanayo imihla ngemihla, unyaka nonyaka? Nokuba ulele ebhedini enye, akukho ncoko inentsingiselo okanye isondo neqabane lakho,
- Umkhohlisi - Yonke into igqibelele. Unendlu entle enothango olumhlophe. Ungawabhatala amatyala ngokushiyeka kweDoritos kunye neepedicure, kodwa iqabane lakho lihlala liphuma nomnye umntu.
Kulula ukuba nomfanekiso ngqondweni utshatile kodwa unesithukuthezi ukuba ukunye kobu budlelwane bukhankanywe ngasentla. Uninzi lwabantu aluyazi indlela yokujongana nesizungu kwimeko enjalo.
Eyona mpendulo ixhaphakileyo ngabo funa intuthuzelo nomnye umntu, kwaye ihlala ikhokelela ukungathembeki.
Nje ukuba usichonge isizathu sokuba ube nesithukuthezi nangaphakathi kubudlelwane okanye emtshatweni ungayilungisa okanye uhambe kuyo.
Kukho iimeko apho kungacetyiswa ukuba ulungise izinto, umzekelo, xa uxhatshazwa emzimbeni yonke imihla.
Inye kuphela indlela yokujongana nesizungu.
Fumana ulwalamano olusondeleyo kunye nentuthuzelo kumntu omthandayo. Ndikhankanyile ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ube neentlobano zesini ezininzi kwaye uzive ulilolo.
Ungaluhlakulela njani ulwalamano olusenyongweni
Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kukhula ngokulula kunokuba abantu bekholelwa.
Ukuba uyayivumela, nangona kunjalo ithatha ixesha elininzi. Ukuziva ulilolo kubangelwa kukungabikho kolwalamano olusenyongweni. Xa uziva kungekho mntu unokubhenela kuye kwaye uzixelele iingxaki zakho, kulapho umntu aqala ukuziva elilolo.
Abantu baziva bebodwa xa bengenamntu wokwabelana namaxesha amnandi namabi.
Kuya kufuneka bathembe umntu ngokwaneleyo bathethe ngeemvakalelo zabo zokwenyani ngaphandle kweentloni kunye noloyiko lomgwebo. Ukufumana umntu oza kwabelana naye ngeengcinga zakho ezinzulu ngaphandle kokuthintela kunye nokunxibelelana nabo kuphela kwesisombululo sobulolo.
Ifuna ukuba neendlela ezimbini.
Kuya kufuneka ukhululeke omnye komnye xa wabelana ngokuhlamba okungcolileyo komnye nomnye. Ukuba ulilolo emtshatweni, oko kuthetha ukuba awunakulindeleka kulwalamano lwakho neqabane lakho.
Nokuba liqabane lakho lingumthombo weengxaki zakho, okanye bakude ngokweemvakalelo ukuba benze unxibelelwano.
Ityala lokuqala linzima ngakumbi. Kungenxa yoko le nto abantu abaninzi bejikela kwabanye endaweni yoko. Ukuba ufuna ukuseka unxibelelwano neqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uphinde unxibelelane nabo ngokuthandana.
Ukuba utshatile okanye ubudlelwane nomntu, ubuncinci ubunayo ikhemistri ngaphambili. Fumana ixesha lokuseka kwakhona unxibelelwano lothando neqabane lakho.
Ayizukwenzeka ngaphandle kokuba usombulule iingxaki ezisisiseko kubudlelwane bakho. Ukucela umngeni kubo kunye kungenza ubudlelwane bakho bomelele.
Ubulolo kubudlelwane bunento yokwenza nendlela isibini esisebenzisana ngayo. Ukuba uthembele omnye komnye kwaye wabelana ngempumelelo yakho, awuyi kuziva ulilolo.
Ngaba uziva uwedwa kubudlelwane? Nazi iingcebiso zendlela yokwenza (kwakhona) ukukhulisa ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho.
- Sukuyeka ukuthandana neqabane lakho
- Chaza zonke iingxaki zakho
- Xhasa iinzame zeqabane lakho
- Yenzani imisebenzi yasekhaya kunye
- Yiya kusuku losapho
- Thetha ngemini yakho
- Mamela
- Xoxa ngekamva lakho
- Gcina izithembiso zakho
- Khumbuza malunga nexesha lakho elidlulileyo
Kuvakala ngathi zizinto ezingenamsebenzi, kodwa uninzi lwezibini ziyalityeshela kwaye zilibale ukuba ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokunxibelelana yindlela nje enzulu yokuthembana. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba ngaphandle kokuthembana naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane luya kusilela.
Ke lithembe iqabane lakho. Qiniseka ukuba ungumntu ofanele ukuthembwa liqabane lakho. Emva koko ungatsho ukuba uzive uwedwa kubudlelwane.