Umxholo
- Idash yobudlelwane bokwenyani
- Into esingayifundiyo esikolweni
- Ubudlelwane obukhulu benziwe, abuzalwanga
- Xa izinto zintsha kwaye zinomtsalane
- Ezantsi kwendlela kungekho sondlo
- Ngonaphakade lixesha elide
- Seka isicwangciso sakho sokugcina ubudlelwane
Ukugcina ubudlelwane obanelisayo, obuxhasayo kunye nobude kufuneka nzulu izakhono. Kwaye njengawo nawuphi na umsebenzi ofuna izakhono ezinzulu, kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima ngamanye amaxesha. Inokukhathaza ngokunzulu. Kwaye kunokuthatha umonde omkhulu.
Idash yobudlelwane bokwenyani
Ewe kunjalo, asisoloko sicinga kakhulu malunga nelo cala lezinto xa siphakathi kokukhawuleza kwentloko yesigaba sokutshata kunye namaqabane ethu. Nangona kunjalo, ukunonga imbono yakho ngesantya esincinci sokwenyani ekuqaleni kobudlelwane obutsha bokutshitshisa uphawu kunokunceda ukumisela impumelelo ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuba ukuqala ukungena kumkhwa wokuzibandakanya kwimicimbi yolondolozo lobudlelwane ngelixa lakho ubudlelwane busemtsha buza kwenza imimangaliso yokuthintela iingxaki ekuveleni phantsi kwendlela.
Into esingayifundiyo esikolweni
Kufuneka sifunde oko kuthathwa njengezakhono zobomi ezisisiseko ekukhuleni esikolweni-ukufunda nokubhala, izibalo, isayensi kunye nemfundo yomzimba. Ikharityhulam yesiqhelo yesikolo esiphakamileyo saseMelika ikwabandakanya ukubulawa kwezinto ezinje ngebhendi, iokhestra, ubugcisa bokupheka, ukusebenza ngomthi, ivenkile yemoto, nezinto ezinje. Yintoni engekhoyo ngokukhawuleza kule kharityhulam, nangona kunjalo, ukuLungiswa koBudlelwane 101.
Ubudlelwane obukhulu benziwe, abuzalwanga
Ngelishwa, inqanaba lethu eliphezulu loqhawulo mtshato lubonakala ngathi luyakubonakalisa oku, kwaye ayimangalisi loo nto. Ukuba asifundiswanga kwangethuba ebomini izakhono ezisisiseko ezifunekayo zokugcina ubudlelwane obunempumelelo bexesha elide, ke sishiyeke sijija ebumnyameni xa sifumana eyona. Ngaphandle kwento abantu abaninzi abakholelwa ngayo, ubudlelwane obonelisayo, obuxhasayo ASIYO into abantu abaninzi abawela kuyo ngokwendalo, kwaye ayingomsebenzi wokuba omnye okanye omabini amaqabane kulwalamano ngokwendalo "alungile" okanye "mabi" abantu. Nditsho olona lwalamano luqinileyo lunokubakho ukuya emazantsi ukuba omabini amaqabane ayenzi indima yawo ekuyigcineni.
Xa izinto zintsha kwaye zinomtsalane
Khawufane ucinge ukuba ungumnini webhayisikile entsha entle, eqaqambileyo kwaye enomdla kwaye ikwimeko entle. Ukuhambisa ngesandla, ke kuthatha ixesha elincinci ukuba ufunde indlela yokuyiqhuba, kodwa amaqhosha asesandleni sakho, kwaye umoya ukwinwele zakho, kwaye yonke into iyonwabisa kwaye inoveli ngathi u Ukudada emoyeni onke amanyathelo endlela. Ke wakuba ufundile ukuqhuba loo moto, ulapha emhlabeni unaleya moto intle, inomdla, uhamba indawo, usenza izinto zenzeke, uziva kamnandi. Yinto entle!
Inje le nto ubudlelwane obutsha. Yinto entle. Ubhabha phezulu kwisimo esithandekayo seNew Relationship Energy (NRE)!
Ezantsi kwendlela kungekho sondlo
Ngoku khawufane ucinge ukuba awukaze ufunde malunga nolondolozo lwemoto, kwaye ke awuthathi manyathelo afanelekileyo wokukhathalela imoto yakho ekhazimlayo. Emva kwethutyana kudlulile — kungabikho tshintsho lweoyile, kungekho kujikeleziswa kwamavili, kungekho kuhlamba imoto okanye iawisi okanye enye into — uyaqonda ukuba imoto ayisakhazimli, kwaye yenza ingxolo ehlekisayo ongayithandiyo, kwaye yaphumelela 'Qhuba ngokutyibilikayo njengangaphambili. Mhlawumbi ngenye imini uyavuka, kwaye injini ithe tyaba nje ayifuni ukuqala. Imfuneko inyanzelisa ukuba ekugqibeleni ube nomatshini uyijonge, kwaye kuvela ... loo moto ayihambi naphi na ngaphandle kokuhlawula okuphezulu kunye nokuntsonkothileyo.
Ngonaphakade lixesha elide
Sukuvumela ubudlelwane bakho bube sengozini efanayo naleyo ihlwempuzekileyo, imoto engakhathalelwanga! Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, "ukuthanda kwakho unaphakade" kunye neqabane lakho kufanele ukuba kuhlale ixesha elide kangako-naphakade. Qiniseka ukuba uyalukhathalela uthando lwakho olungagungqiyo kangangezihlandlo ezilishumi ubungakanani bemizamo oya kuyenza ukugcina isithuthi sakho. Mhlawumbi iphindwe kalikhulu. Okanye iwaka! Uthando olungapheliyo lufanelekile, akunjalo?
Seka isicwangciso sakho sokugcina ubudlelwane
Ukuba awazi ukuba uqale ngaphi, jonga kwaye ubone ukuba ngaba kukho naziphi na iindibano zocweyo zokuqeqesha okanye zokuzihlaziya kwindawo yakho. Ezi ndidi zeziganeko zinokuba zintle ngokufumana umbono omtsha kunye nokuchola unxibelelwano olutsha kunye nezixhobo zokuphucula ubudlelwane.
Ngokubanzi, nangona kunjalo, ulondolozo lobudlelwane kufuneka lubandakanye (kodwa alukhawulelwanga) kwimisebenzi enje:
- Ukuzibandakanya kwiiseshoni zokungena kunye neqabane lakho ukuthatha ubushushu bobudlelwane kwaye nithethe ngento enokuphuculwa;
- Ukuxubha kwizakhono zakho zonxibelelwano rhoqo ngoku;
- Ukulawula ngokukuko uxinzelelo kubomi bemihla ngemihla ukuze bungadeleli ubudlelwane bakho;
- Ukwenza ixesha kunye nendawo yonxibelelwano rhoqo kunye nokusondelelana.
Thetha neqabane lakho kwaye niceba ukuba yintoni eninokuyenza ngamnye imihla ngemihla, ngeveki, ngenyanga, nangonyaka ukugcina ubudlelwane benu busemgangathweni ophezulu buqhuba kakuhle. Ngolondolozo oluqhelekileyo kwasekuqaleni, uthando lwakho lwanaphakade luya kuba nakho ukuphatha ijika eziqinileyo kwindlela yobomi ngobabalo kunye nesimbo.