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Nakuphi na ukuziphatha ngokwesondo okanye komzimba okwenzeka ngenkani, ngaphandle kwemvume yomnye umntu, kuphantsi kohlaselo ngokwesondo. Oku kuncinci kuxoxwa ngako, kuncinci kuthethwe ngako ngesihloko, nakweli xesha langoku. Uninzi lwemicimbi ebikade ikukuziphatha kwentlalo kwaye kungafane kuthethwe ngayo ngoku kuxoxwa ngayo ngoku.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo kunye namaxhoba awo basajamelene nemiceli mngeni yokufumana ingqalelo ebafaneleyo.
Amaxhoba esi senzo soburhalarhume ahlala ejongene namahlazo ekuhlaleni ukuba athe athetha ngamava awo. Baxelelwa ukuba bakhumbule uhlobo lweempahla ababezinxibile, okanye babenxilile kakhulu okanye yayilixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba bodwa? Oku kubakhokelela ekuthandabuzeni kwaye, yiyo loo nto, bonakalisa impilo yabo yengqondo.
Amaxhoba ahlala engabelani ngamava abo okanye ukufikelela kuncedo ngenxa yokuphazamiseka ngokwasentlalweni nangokwengqondo abanokuthi bajongane nako.
#Metoo kunye #timesup ziintshukumo zanamhlanje zentlalo ezikhuthaza uninzi lwabasetyhini ukuba bathethe ngamava abo okuhlaselwa. La mabali anokuvela kwiintsuku ezimbini ezidlulileyo okanye kwiminyaka engama-20.
Amaxhoba afuna umntu ukuba abaphulaphule njengoko amava abo ebakhathaza ngonaphakade. Abantu ngoku bayasiqonda isidingo sokuthetha ngalo mbandela. Nangona kunjalo, amanani-manani abalisa ibali elahlukileyo. Ukudlwengula lolona lwaphulo mthetho lungaxelwanga; I-63% yokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo ayichazwanga emapoliseni (o).
Impembelelo yokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo
Kulowo ungalixhoba, kuya kuba nzima ukuziva okanye ukuqonda ukuba lixhoba elinjani emva kwaloo mava. Amava akwenza ube nebala ixesha elide, kwaye kwezinye iimeko, naphakade. Ayifani nayo nayiphi na into embi okanye iphele ebomini bakho, apho kwenzeke into ebuhlungu, kwaye uyachacha emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa.
Izinto ezoyikisayo zokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo ziyakukhathaza ixesha elide, kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi.
Amava anjalo anokuthintela ubomi bakho bomsebenzi kunye namathuba. Inokuba nefuthe elibi kubomi bakho bangoku, mayingabi ngamathuba exesha elizayo.
Kuzala uloyiko oluhlala luhleli okanye imeko yokungazithembi xa uwedwa ebusuku, okanye usebhayini usela utywala okanye xa usuka emsebenzini uye ekhaya. Uqala ukoyika wonke umntu ozama ukujonga okanye athethe nawe.
Ulahlekelwa kukuzithemba nokuzithemba nakumadoda owaziyo ixesha elide. Kwaye okona kubi kuxa uhlala uzibek 'ityala okanye uzithandabuza.
Xa umntu obhinqileyo eqala ukuzithandabuza, xa esoyika ukuthetha, xa engafikeleli ngelizwi okanye emzimbeni efuna uncedo kodwa eqinisekile uyaludinga, kuxa amadoda, njengeqabane lawo lobomi afunga ukuba aza kuba ecaleni kwento yonke enobunzima kwaye ibhityile, inokunceda.
Ama-93% abaphuli-mthetho ngamadoda, kwaye abasetyhini ngabona banokubethwa yindoda. Yiyo loo nto uninzi lwamaxhoba lungenathemba okanye lufune inkxaso nakweyiphi na indoda ebomini babo. Bavame ukungabathembi xa kufikwa kulo mbandela.
Kungenxa yesi sizathu le nto abayeni kufuneka beze phezulu kwaye babonise indlela abahluke ngayo kwaye banokuba yinkxaso abayifunayo. Ngelixa abanye abantu, izihlobo okanye usapho, banokulifulathela iqabane lakho, babasole, okanye babatyhole ngokuxoka kwaye bayifeketha, umfazi wakho kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba uyakumkholelwa.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Iindlela ezi-3 ezinamandla zokuxhasa uMfazi wakho oXhatshazwa ngokwesondo
Kufuneka wenze ntoni okanye ungenzi?
Siyaqonda ukuba kunokudideka ukuba siphendule njani kumabali anje. Nalu uluhlu lokukunceda uphume
- Sonke, ngaxa lithile, siye sahlekisa ngodlwengulo okanye ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba uyaziqonda iimpazamo ezinjalo, kwaye uzibophelele ukuba ungaze uphinde uziphinde. Kuya kufuneka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba iqabane lakho liyazi ukuba uyithatha ngokungathí sina le micimbi kwaye ayisiyonto incinanana ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungaqhula ngayo.
- Incoko kunye nonxibelelwano zizinto ezisisiseko kubudlelwane bonke, kodwa kulo mbandela, kunokuba nzima kancinci. Kuya kufuneka umazise, ngaphandle kokuthetha, ukuba unomdla kuyo nantoni na ekufuneka abelane ngayo. Kunzima kakhulu ukuthetha ngamava alolu hlobo, yiyo loo nto kufuneka ube ngumphulaphuli onomdla.
- Musa ukumxelela ukuba “ucinga ngokugqithiseleyo” okanye nantoni na enje ngenjongo yokumenza azive engcono. Akudingeki ukuba ubenze bazive ngcono; Bafuna nje ingqiniseko yokuba ukhona nokuba bakwimeko embi.
- Mnike ixesha. Musa ukuphosa imibuzo kuye, sukutsiba kwizigqibo kwaye ungazami ukuthatha umba ezandleni zakho uwusombulule. Ulixhoba; uye athathe isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni ngayo. Kungumsebenzi wakho ukumkhuthaza ukuba angazibambezeli, azenzele ubulungisa ngelixa ulapho ecaleni kwakhe.
- Izinto ezoyikisayo ahamba kuzo, azifanelanga ukuthelekiswa nezinye izinto ezoyikisayo. Wonke umntu unamava amnandi namabi, kwaye wonke umntu unendlela yakhe yokujongana nabo. Ukuthelekisa nokumxelela ukuba amava akhe mancinci kangakanani kuya kongeza kolo sizi sele ehamba nalo.
- Zonke iinkcukacha anokuthi abelane ngazo, zonke zenzeke ngokuchasene nentando yakhe. Ungazivumeli ezo nkcukacha ukuba zifike kuwe, yazi ukuba la yayingawona maxesha amabi kakhulu ebomini bakhe kwaye umona wakho okanye ukungazithembi yeyona nto yokugqibela ayifunayo ngoku.
- Thetha ngokucacileyo. Mxelele indlela oziva ngayo, mxelele into ocinga ukuba kufuneka yenziwe. Bonisa ukuthatha inxaxheba ngokulinganayo; Amaxesha akhe amabi ngamathuba akho amabi ngokunjalo, dlula kuwo kunye.
Wena, umntu avume ukuchitha naye ubomi bakhe bonke, kufuneka ubenomqolo wakhe nokuba sekutheni.