"Umtshato ococekileyo unokuba nexabiso, kodwa umtshato olungileyo unexabiso" ~ David Jeremiah ~
Yintoni ebangela umtshato uphumelele?
Iingcali zengqondo, Iingcali zengqondo, Abaqeqeshi bomtshato, iincwadi zokuzinceda kunye nabanye benza konke okusemandleni abo ukuchaza ukuba yintoni eyenza umtshato olungileyo kunye nendlela onokugcina ngayo uthando emtshatweni wakho kwaye wenze uthando luhlale. Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonisa ukuba ngaphandle kwalo lonke uncedo kunye namanqaku kunye neengcebiso ezivela kwiikholamu zeengcebiso kunye nokunye, uqhawulo mtshato luxhaphake kakhulu kuluntu lwethu. Imitshato iyaqhekeka mihla le kwaye umntu uyanyanzelwa ukuba azikise ukucinga, kuqhubeka ntoni?
Kwenzeka ntoni kwiziko lomtshato?
Ndiqinisekile ukuba likhona inani lezizathu zokuba imitshato iqhekeka kodwa ndiye ndabona kwaye ndicinga ukuba esinye sezizathu zokuba imitshato iqhekeka kungenxa yokuba njengayo yonke into iye yaba yinto yorhwebo. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa ikwayiyo nokhuphiswano lokuba ngubani ongoyena mtshato mkhulu nowona ulungileyo. Hayi abantu abaninzi bathathe ixesha lokuzibandakanya ngokwenene kwiingcinga malunga nokuba kutheni batshata kwaye luhlobo luni lomtshato abangathanda ukuba nalo.
Ingxaki kukuba kule mihla siphila kuyo sichitha imali eninzi kakhulu nexesha elininzi ekucwangciseni umtshato esingachithi xesha nemali kuwo ekufumaneni ukuba yintoni kanye kanye yenza umtshato olungileyo nokuba singenza njani unayo umtshato olungileyo. Ngokuthengiswa kwemitshato, senziwe sakholelwa ukuba uthando kuko konke okudingayo ukuze ugcine umtshato, kodwa ayisiyonyani leyo. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngothando, sisiqalo esihle, kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into efunekayo ukugcina umtshato kwaye nawuphina umtshato oxhokonxwa luthando kuphela awunakuphumelela.
Kunye nothando, amaxabiso kunye nezimo zengqondo zizinto ezibalulekileyo kumtshato olungileyo
Kubonakala kum ukuba abantu abachithi xesha laneleyo lokujonga kwixabiso elibalulekileyo kubo nokuba babelana ngamaxabiso afanayo kunye nabatshati babo. Bajolise kakhulu kwimililo yomlilo ekufuneka ibekho ekuqaleni kobudlelwane kodwa kungekudala okanye kamva banike enye into.
IHollywood isiqinisekisile ukuba ii-fireworks kunye ne-chemistry zezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa amaxesha ngamaxesha i-fireworks kunye ne-chemistry ziyancipha kwaye zinika indlela kwimiba engakhange ixoxwe.
Thatha ezemali umzekelo, uphando lubonise ukuba imiba yezemali ingoyena nobangela wokuqhekeka komtshato. Ubukhulu becala, oku kuyenzeka kuba abantu abaninzi abalithathi ixesha lokuthetha ngemali nangendlela ezakuphathwa ngayo xa betshata. Endaweni yoko bachitha ixesha kunye nemali emtshatweni kodwa yeeyure ezimbalwa kunasemtshatweni (olungileyo) wobomi bonke.
Injongo yoqobo yomtshato
Ngokwesimo sengqondo, into engeyiyo yinto yokuba uninzi luye lwaphazanyiswa laza lalahleka kwinjongo yokuqala yomtshato. Umtshato ayililo iziko elilenzelwe ukuzenzela inzuzo, liziko elilenzelwe injongo yokukhonza, ukukhonza uThixo kunye neqabane lakho. Kukule nkonzo oyifumanayo. Kodwa ndiqaphele ukuba uninzi lungena emtshatweni lube "luyintoni kum?" Isimo sengqondo. Kuyinyani eqinisekileyo ukuba nabuphi na ubudlelwane olindele ukufumana kubo kunokuba unike, uza kuba mfutshane.
Xa umtshato ungenelwa nge "yintoni kum?" Ingqondo, isiphumo sigcina amanqaku. Uqala ukucinga, ndiyenzile le nto ke kufuneka ayenze. Iba malunga nawe nokuba ungaphuma kuyo kwaye ukuba awuyifumani le nto uyifunayo, ubophelelekile ukuba uyikhangele kwenye indawo. Ukugcina amanqaku akupheli kakuhle kwaye umtshato awukho malunga nokuba ngubani owenza ntoni, nini.
Nantsi into endiyicebisayo:
- Kuthekani ukuba siqala ukuchitha imali encinci ngosuku lomtshato kwaye sigxile ngakumbi emtshatweni?
- Kuthekani ukuba sitshata sinesimo "sokuthanda nokukhonza" kunokuba "sigcine amanqaku"?
- Kuthekani ukuba sigxila kumaxabiso ekwabelwana ngawo kwaye sisekele isiseko esomeleleyo endaweni yomlilo kunye nekhemistri?
- Kuthekani ukuba xa siqalisa uhambo lomtshato, sithatha olo hambo ngenjongo yokupha nokupha sodwa?
Khawufane ucinge ngolonwabo olunokubakho, kwaye ngakumbi ndiyakholelwa ukuba oku kunokuba sisiqalo sokwenza umtshato olungileyo!