Umxholo
- 1. Xa amanyathelo akho engena ngaphakathi-sync
- 2.Xa ufikelela kwiqabane lakho phambi kwakhe nabani na ongomnye
- 3. Xa esiba liqabane lakho lokuphendula
- 4. Xa une "sithetha"
- 5. Xa uvala ii -apps zakho zokuthandana kwi-Intanethi
- 6. Xa nikholwa ngokwenene omnye komnye
Kukho okunye okubhaliweyo kwimiqondiso yokuba umtshato wakho usiya kwinkundla yoqhawulo-mtshato kule mihla bambalwa abajonga enye indlela-xa usiya esibingelelweni.
Wazi njani ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buya kuhlala buhlala buhleli? Kwindawo yokudanisa ukuthandana, kukho iziqendu ezibalulekileyo ezichaza ukuba unxibelelwano luya kwicala lomtshato. Usayikhumbula eyakho?
Unxibelelwano lumalunga namaxesha kwaye ukuhambela kukuzibophelela kubandakanya umzila wazo. Ekumameleni izifungo zomtshato izolo emtshatweni wamaxesha okuqala ndibave besabelana 'ngamaxesha' apho ngamnye wabo evakalelwa kukuba iqhina labo liya lisomelela kwaye mzuzu ngamnye wabo ukuba bayazi ukuba nguye.
Xa ukhumbula ezo nkumbulo, zinokubandakanya enye okanye ezingaphezulu koku kulandelayo, uninzi lolo ndilubonile izolo.
1. Xa amanyathelo akho engena ngaphakathi-sync
Kuhambo oluya kunxibelelwano kukho imeko. Xa niqala ukugqiba izimvo zomnye nomnye, lindelani iimfuno zomnye nomnye kwaye nibe yi-anch yomnye nomnye kukho intshukumo kuloo ndlela. Ebonakala engathandekiyo, uDana wabhengeza. .
"Kwakungomnye kusasa ekuseni apho wafaka khona iimpahla zam kwingxowa yakhe yokucoca eyomileyo endandisazi ukuba izakuba lixesha".
KuStu, loo mzuzu wafika xa uDana efuna ukuba ugqirha abhengezwe ngokukhawuleza ngosuku awayenentlanganiso enkulu yeshishini. Kukule mizuzu apho u "Ndi" esiba "thina" kunye no "wena" abe "sithi"; Inqanawa yesibini iyakha.
2.Xa ufikelela kwiqabane lakho phambi kwakhe nabani na ongomnye
Xa usazi ukuba ufikelela kwiqabane lakho phambi kwakhe nabani na ongomnye, ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lingoyena mhlobo wakho usenyongweni. Ekuqaleni, lonke ulwalamano luthabathele ingqalelo kwaye ngokukaGqirha Helen Fisher, uthando likhoboka. Nina ngabona bantu babalulekileyo omnye komnye kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuphela kwabantu okwexeshana kubomi bomnye nomnye. Ukuba amaqabane axabisana-ubuncinci kwasekuqaleni-ukukhutshelwa ngaphandle kwabanye, luphawu lophuhliso lwakwinqanawa yokuqala.
Xa izibini zishenxisa, nangona okwethutyana, kwihlabathi labo, akusoloko kuyinto embi. Kungekudala ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangene kwakhona kwihlabathi labo ngokwahlukileyo, ngoku njengebini kwaye hayi njengabantu ngabanye. Ukutshintsha okanye ubudlelwane babo ngokubaluleka luphawu lokuba baya entlanganisweni yokuchitha ubomi babo kunye.
NgokukaPeter. .
“Ndiqaphele ukuba ndiza kumhlukanisa yedwa uJan kwaye ndinexhala lokuba ayinampilo kodwa emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa ndaphinda ndamazisa kwisangqa sam. . . Kulapho ndaye ndazi ukuba uzokuhlala ixesha elide ”.
NgoJan, yayiyenye into. .
"Ndixelelwe ngomsebenzi omkhulu wamazinyo ofunekayo ndaya kuPeter endaweni yomama."
3. Xa esiba liqabane lakho lokuphendula
Njengoko umdaniso uqhubeka, amanyathelo ayahambelana ngakumbi. Kubudlelwane bokwakha, amaqabane aba liqabane lokuphendula komnye nomnye. Baye 'bajonge' omnye komnye okuyinxalenye esempilweni kunye nokuchaza ubudlelwane kunye namaqabane. Abo benza oku banoxanduva omnye komnye kuqala. Iicatshulwa ze "GM" kunye ne "GN" ziyinxalenye yoku, ukwamkela usuku kunye nokwamkela ukwahlukana kumanqanaba okuqala. Ubudlelwane obuthatha loo manyathelo luphawu lokuba izinto ziba nzulu.
KuGwen, ukuxelwa kweendaba zonyango yayingumzuzu obalulekileyo. .
"Xa ndafumana umnxeba ovela kuDoug kulandela utyelelo kugqirha wamathambo ndaqonda ... kwakulomzuzu endandisazi ukuba uDoug undikhathalele ngokwaneleyo ukuba angabelana ngolwazi olu ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye saba yiyunithi".
Olu tshekisho kuye lwalungumqondiso wothando kunye nothando lwakhe olwandayo.
4. Xa une "sithetha"
Isihloko esibingelelweni sithintelwe kukwanda kwamanani 'ethu' -oko kukuthi, uzijonga njengenqanawa. Ukuya ku 'mna' uye ku 'thina' kubalulekile kuba ichaza indawo yababini.
KuSara, kwakukwinqwelomoya njengoko babelungiselela ukuhamba. .
“Ndithe ndakuva uDan ebuza kwigosa leenqwelo-moya ukuba bangakwazi na ukuhlala ngaphambili kuba“ 'sinethuba elifutshane ", ndeva into elizwini lakhe kwaye ngalo mzuzu, ndasondela kuye kumanyano lwethu. ”
5. Xa uvala ii -apps zakho zokuthandana kwi-Intanethi
Xa uAmanda wagqiba kwelokuba aphume match.com wayesazi ukuba lixesha elifanelekileyo. Wayekhe wakhona kwi-app ngamathuba athile ukuze aqhubele phambili ukubetha kwakhe ngokutsha kunye nokujonga ngokungakhethi imeko yase-Jordan kwi-Intanethi. Kodwa ngoku akasaziva ukuba kufuneka evule ukhetho okanye aqhubeke nokujonga iqabane lakhe.
Oko kwathiwa, ukuvala i-intanethi yakho ukuthandana kunye nokuthandana usetyenziso luphawu lokuba ubudlelwane bakho ubuncinci bukhokele kwi-monogamy, i-precursor, ngesiqhelo, kwisibingelelo. Nangona abantu namhlanje xa ukuthandana badla 'shiya iinketho zabo evulekileyo' njengoko yindlela elula kakhulu kunye ukufikelela sinazo ukuthandana apps. Nje ukuba ezo zivaliwe isivumelwano senziwe ubuncinci engqondweni enye, ekhokelela ekubeni enye yenze okufanayo.
U-Amanda uxele. . .
"Besinayo 'intetho' kwaye ndibuze iJordani ngobukho bakhe kwi-Intanethi, endiyazi kakuhle ukusuka kumaxesha ngamaxesha. Uye wathi akasafuneki ukujonga kwaye wayevala iakhawunti yakhe. Kum eli yayilinyathelo elibalulekileyo. ”
6. Xa nikholwa ngokwenene omnye komnye
Ngokunokwenzeka, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kunxibelelwano olusempilweni ngumbono wokuba amaqabane akholelwa komnye nomnye. Xa uStephanie waqonda ukuba uJake angamnceda aphumelele impelaveki yakhe nosapho wayesazi ukuba angaya kuye nantoni na.
"Xa wayendixelela ukuba uzokundijoyina, esazi ukuba kuya kuba nzima kangakanani ukuba sekhaya, kwaye uyakuba sisidenge ndiyazi ukuba ulapho ixesha elide".
Njengoko siqala ukudibanisa sizifumana sithatha iingcebiso zamaqabane ethu. Intlonipho, ukunconywa okanye umbono wethutyana- 'ndiyakholelwa kuwe', uqala ukubonakala. Intlonipho ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye xa ikhula, ngakumbi kunye neminye imiqondiso. Ingathetha ukuba imeko esisigxina ikwimo.
Ubudala, umtsalane, ubukrelekrele kunye nempumelelo ayibalulekanga. Akunjalo kwigumbi lokulala; njengengcali yezesondo, ayindothusi into yokuba la maxesha kunqabile malunga nokwabelana ngesondo. Ngamaxesha onxibelelwano abalulekileyo. Ngawo lawo maxesha nangaphezulu njengoko sikhula kunye ekufuneka simbambe kwaye sikhumbule.