Umxholo
- 1. Mamela ngenyameko
- 2. Lawula ukugxeka
- 3. Ncamathela kumxholo
- 4. Nikezela ngamanye amaxesha
- 5. Musa ukujonga wena kuphela
Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo emtshatweni lubandakanya okungaphezulu kunokuthetha nje.
Konke malunga nokuqonda iqabane lakho, ukubamamela xa ungaboni ngasonye emtshatweni, unyanisekile, kwaye uzivulele wena kunye nobuthathaka bakho kubo.
Ewe konke oku kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe. Iipateni zonxibelelwano ezisebenzayo ezinokukunceda ekusombululeni ukungavisisani emtshatweni kungathatha iminyaka ukumisela, kunye nomzamo omkhulu.
Ewe kunjalo, nakanjani na unokungaqondani, okunokuthi kuphazamise ubudlelwane bakho. Nangona kunjalo, into omele uyiqonde kukuba ukwaneliseka emtshatweni kuxhomekeke kwindlela onxibelelana ngayo nobuchule neqabane lakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, iimeko ezithile zinokusikhokelela ekubeni sikholelwe ukuba sanele, kwaye siphendula ngokunika amaqabane ethu ukungathethi, ukuphawula ngqwabalala, okanye ngenjongo yokuthetha izinto krwada ukubenzakalisa.
Zonke ezi zinto zinokonakalisa unaphakade kubudlelwane.
Inqanaba lesentloko kunye nokuchonga iindlela ezichuliweyo, ezizodwa, nezilula zokujongana nokungavisisani emtshatweni kuyacetyiswa.
Xa ungavumelani nomntu, sukuvele uphume uphume; kuyakuqhubeka kuphela ukubhebhetha ukungavisisani emtshatweni, kwaye umphumo awusoze uthandeke.
Endaweni yoko, bonisa iindlela ezintsha, ezinemveliso ngakumbi zonxibelelwano ngokungavumelani kwakho emtshatweni kwaye wonwabe kubudlelwane obonwabisayo.
Kule nqaku, sinemibono eya kunika uncedo olufanelekileyo kwizibini malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana kangcono neqabane lakho kunye nendlela yokujongana nokungavumelani kubudlelwane.
1. Mamela ngenyameko
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa elinye iqabane liqala ukwabelana kakhulu, ungazibona uzibuza, "uza kuyeka nini ukuthetha ukuze ndikuxelele ukuba ndicinga ntoni?"
Nje ukuba iqabane lenziwe, awuzange uve nantoni na ekufuneka bayithethile okanye benze ngaphakathi kwinto ababeyithetha.
Ukuva ngokulula (kunye nokungaqondi) akumameli iqabane lakho.
Ukuba umamele ngenene, uyifaka ngaphakathi intsingiselo, uyiqonde into abafuna ukuyidlulisa, kwaye emva koko unokunika iingcinga / iingcebiso zakho ngalo mbandela.
Kuya kufuneka unike ingqalelo ngakumbi kwizinto ezincinci ezinje ngolwimi lomzimba kunye nethoni njengoko zichaza iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho kunye nokuba bacinga ntoni ngalo mzuzu.
Ukubonisa ukuba umamele yenye indlela yokuphucula unxibelelwano.
2. Lawula ukugxeka
Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukungavumelani ngentlonipho.
Xa unengxabano emtshatweni, yenza umgudu wokuphepha ukuhlaselwa kunye nokugxekwa. Kunqande ukubeka phantsi, ukuthukisa, kunye nokuthetha kakubi ngomzimba, njengokujonga iso.
Endaweni yoko, gcina ulwimi lwakho kunye nethoni ithambile. Umzekelo: "Sithandwa, ngumbono onomdla lowo, kodwa ndicinga ....." okanye "Ungaphinda undibalisele loo nto, khange ndiyifumane ..."
Ngokhetho lokuqala, unika iqabane lakho ithuba lokuxoxa ukuba kutheni becinga njalo kwaye yintoni le izise umbono othile.
Kukhetho lwesibini, unika iqabane lakho ithuba lokucingisisa ngembono yabo kwaye babone eyabo impazamo ngaphambi kokuba unike ingxelo yakho.
Ngale nto, uthintela ukungavisisani emtshatweni, yazi ukuba isebenza njani ingqondo yeqabane lakho, kwaye ekugqibeleni, phucula ukuqonda kwakho komnye nomnye.
Ukugxekwa kwenza abantu bazive bezikhusela kwaye kuthintela nenkqubo yokumamela, enokuthi ikhokelele ekukhuleni komsindo nakwiimvakalelo ezibuhlungu.
3. Ncamathela kumxholo
Ukuthintela ukungavisisani emtshatweni, hlala kumzuzu wangoku, kwaye unamathele kumxholo osondeleyo. Kuya kuba bubuyatha kakhulu ukuzisa imicimbi emidala nengadibaniyo kwaphela kwincoko. Iya kongeza kuphela ipetroli ukonakalisa imicimbi.
Ke unxibelelana njani neqabane lakho xa ninokungavisisani emtshatweni?
Cebisa ukugqiba incoko kamva, ngakumbi ukuba uziva udiniwe, unxunguphele, kwaye kubonakala ngathi awukwazi ukugqiba. Ukuthatha ixesha lokuphumla kuya kuninceda nobabini nifumane umbono omtsha kwaye nixoxe ngemicimbi ngokuqola ngakumbi.
Khumbula, kufuneka uxoxe ngesihloko esinye ngexesha kwaye uhlale uhlonipha ukukwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba kunye nokuzibophelela kwincoko.
4. Nikezela ngamanye amaxesha
Akukho ndawo yokuphikisana ngokungapheliyo malunga nokuba ngubani olungileyo okanye ongalunganga ngexesha lokungavumelani emtshatweni. Ukulungiswa malunga noku kuhlala kulimaza ubudlelwane.
Ukuba ukuba 'ulungile' kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuthetha ngothando kwiqabane lakho, uyawuyeka umba ulahleke kumzabalazo wamandla.
Khumbula, ukuba ngumntu omkhulu ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ulalanise kube kanye ngexesha kuya kunceda kuphela ubudlelwane bakho.
Bukela kwakhona: Kutheni kulungile ukuyekelela eluthandweni.
5. Musa ukujonga wena kuphela
Xa sinento ebalulekileyo edlulayo ebomini bethu, sifumana lo mnqweno ungaphakathi wokuba sabelane ngezi ndaba kunye namava nabantu esibathandayo.
Kulindeleke ukuba icinywe; Nangona kunjalo, phakathi kolo lonwabo, sihlala sigxila kakhulu kuthi kwaye sityeshele ukubuza amaqabane ethu nayiphi na imibuzo okanye simamele into abaya kuyithetha.
Ubomi beqabane lakho bubaluleke njengobakho, ke kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba unokutshintshiselana nabo kwaye ungathethi nje ngawe.
Awudingi ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luphele kuba wena neqabane lakho anikhange nikwazi ukuba niza kuthetha njani omnye nomnye.
Ukungavisisani emtshatweni kuyakwenzeka ngoku, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba uyazisebenzisa kwaye ufumane indlela yokujongana nemicimbi efanayo xa ivela kwixesha elizayo.
Ukungavisisani kubudlelwane kuya kwenzeka, kwaye ngekhe uhlale ukwazi ukufumana iindlela zokuzisombulula. Nangona kunjalo, enye into onokuyenza kukufunda ngokungavisisaniyo ngengxabano.
Ngokusebenzisa ezi ngcebiso malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana emtshatweni, uqinisekile ukuzisa indlela entsha kwindlela onxibelelana ngayo.
Ngokujolisa ekunxibelelaneni ngentlonipho, uya kuba nakho ukusombulula nakuphi na ukungavisisani emtshatweni, uvuselele ubuhlobo bakho, amava akho asondele ngakumbi, kwaye wakhe ubudlelwane obomeleleyo bokuthembana neqabane lakho.