Umxholo
- Abantu abakhethekileyo ebomini bakho
- Ubaluleke kakhulu kum ucaphula iqabane lakho
- Ubaluleke kakhulu kum ucaphula usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho
Zininzi iindlela esinokuthi ngazo sibonise umntu esimxabisileyo kwaye simthande ukuba zithetha kangakanani kuthi. Njengoko besitsho, izenzo zingcono kunamagama kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, amagama anokuphakamisa, akhuthaze, kwaye enze ukuba umntu azive ethandwa.
Umenza njani umntu azive ethandwa ngamazwi nje?
Utsho njani ukuba "ubaluleke kakhulu kum" kwabo bantu babalulekileyo kuwe? Ngaphandle kwezenzo, sinikwa ithuba lokubonisa ukuba umntu ubaluleke kangakanani kuthi ngeengcaphuno ezintle ezithi ukhetheke kakhulu kum.
Abantu abakhethekileyo ebomini bakho
Xa uthandana, amazwi akho kulo mntu aba nentsingiselo. Hayi ngezenzo kodwa nangamazwi akho ufuna ukwazisa lo mntu ukuba athetha lukhulu kuwe. Awunakuthetha ngokuthe ngqo “ubaluleke kakhulu kum ”kodwa ngezenzo zakho, sele ubenza bazive ukuba banjalo.
Abantu abakhethekileyo ebomini bethu ayisiyo amaqabane ethu okanye amaqabane ethu kodwa nabahlobo kunye neentsapho zethu. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ufune ukwazisa aba bantu ukuba bathetha lukhulu kuwe kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba iintshukumo azonelanga, unokusebenzisa amagama ukwenza oko. Sukuba neentloni kwaye ubaxelele ukuba bakuxabisa kangakanani. Kubazali bakho, iqabane, iqabane, abantwana, kunye nabahlobo, bazise ukuba babaluleke kangakanani kuwe kwaye uxabise kangakanani ukuba bayinxalenye yobomi bakho.
Ukuba ngoku ukhangela iikowuti ezinyanisekileyo, ezichukumisayo nezimnandi ze “ubaluleke kakhulu kum” ukucaphulas Iqabane lakho, usapho kunye nabahlobo ke le yeyakho.
Ubaluleke kakhulu kum ucaphula iqabane lakho
Umlingane wakho okanye umntu otshate naye ngumntu ofuna ukuchitha ubomi bakho bonke naye sele enikwe ukuba lihlabathi kuwe. Njengendlela yokubonisa uthando, uya kuthi, ewe, ufuna ukubonisa uthando lwakho kunye nokudumisa ngeendlela ezininzi.
"Ukuba ndiyayazi ukuba yintoni uthando, kungenxa yakho."
-UHermann Hesse
Ayikho into emnandi kunomntu onokukuxelela ukuba bafumene uthando kwaye bayayazi intsingiselo yothando ngenxa yakho.
“Ndiva iintlungu kakhulu zeli hlabathi kangangokuba ndaphantse ndancama wade wangena ebomini bam watshintsha yonke into. Uzise ithemba kunye novuyo emhlabeni wam yiyo ke le nto ndizakuqhubeka ndikuthanda kude kube ngunaphakade: uthetha umhlaba kum! ”
– Ayaziwa
Ngamanye amaxesha, kubakho lo mntu unokujika nje ajikele umhlaba wakho. Ukusuka kubomi obubuhlungu obungenantsingiselo kunye nobomi obugcwele imibala kunye nolonwabo.
“Bendindedwa kodwa undigcina ndixakekile, bendibuhlungu kodwa wabeka uncumo ebusweni bam, bendibuthathaka kodwa ube ngamandla am, bendibuthathaka kwaye ubulithemba lam. Andikwazi ukuzibona kwakhona ngenxa yokuba uthando lwakho luzalise intliziyo yam; ubaluleke kakhulu kum!”
- Ayaziwa
Ukuba ufuna ukuxelela umntu "kutheni ubaluleke kangaka kum" ungasebenzisa iikowuti ukubaxelela ukuba babutshintshe njani ubomi bakho.
“Ndizokuhlala ndinombulelo kuThixo ngala mhla ndadibana nawe, andikholwa ukuba ndiyakuhlala ndithandana kakhulu kangangokuba andinakuyeka ukucinga ngawe. Ngoku ukuba uze kuhlala emhlabeni wam, ndifuna nje ukuba uyazi loo nto ubaluleke kakhulu kum!”
- Ayaziwa
Ukudibana nomntu onokuthi abaluleke kakhulu kuwe, otshintshe ubomi bakho wabangcono yinto esinokuthi sonke sidibane nayo. Ngubani omnye esinokumbulela ngale nto ngaphandle koThixo?
“Kubomi bam namhlanje, andiphindi ndibone mfazi ngaphandle kwakho wedwa kuba ungoyena ufanelekileyo kubo. Khawufane ucinge ngemini ngaphandle kokuba ubomi bam bube bubi ngolu suku bube lilolo ngaphandle kwengelosi njengawe. Ndiyakuthanda kuba ubaluleke kakhulu kum!”
- Ayaziwa
Uthando lwenza ukuba sonke isicatshulwa sivakale njengesibhambathiso. Ukuxelela umntu ofuna ukuchitha ubomi bakho kunye naye nokuba bangakanani kuwe kwaye kuyinto entle.
Ubaluleke kakhulu kum ucaphula usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho
Ukhetheke kakhulu kum iikowuteshini azipheleli kwiqabane lakho okanye kwiqabane lakho kodwa kukwakho nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakho. Aba bantu abakuthandayo nabakukhathaleleyo ngeendlela ezininzi bafanele iikowuti zothando nothando.
“Ukwazi ukuba uzise ukukhanya kolonwabo ebomini bam kwaye wandinika isizathu sokuba ndihlale ndonwabile yonke imihla. Ndivumelana neengcinga zakho kuba ndiyakholelwa kuwo onke amazwi akho. Umangalisa kakhulu ubuncwane bobomi bam! ”
- Ayaziwa
Umhlobo okanye usapho oluya kukunyanzela ukuba ubengcono kwaye ube namandla yeyokugcina.
“Uthetha lukhulu kum, yiyo loo nto ndikuthanda kakhulu kunanini na ngaphambili. Ndiyayibulela impembelelo yakho enkulu ebomini bam oyitshintshele eyona ilungileyo. Ndiva uvuyo olukhulu entliziyweni yam; ngenxa yoko ayinakwenza ngaphandle kwakho, kuba ubaluleke kakhulu kum! ”
- Ayaziwa
Ngokuqinisekileyo unethamsanqa lokufumana umntu oza kuba lapho kuwe nokuba zithini iingxaki.Ukuba unomntu ebomini bakho - uthathwa njengentsikelelo.
Ngexesha lobunzima, wahlala nam, ngamaxesha osizi wosula iinyembezi zam. Nanini na xa ndiziva ndililolo uthetha kakhulu kum!
- Ayaziwa
Usapho kunye nabahlobo bubutyebi obugcinwayo. Sonke sihlangabezana nobunzima kunye nezilingo kodwa okoko nje sinabantu abaza kukuxhasa kwaye bakuthande ngaphandle kwemeko-uza kudlula kuyo nantoni na.
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba "ubaluleke kakhulu kum" ayisiyiyo kwaphela kodwa kunokuba yindlela emnandi kakhulu yokwazisa umntu ukuba uyamthanda kwaye ubaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ungaze ube neentloni ngokwazisa umntu ukuba uyamthanda.