Umxholo
- Ukuchaphazeleka ngokuthe ngqo
- Ukuba sesichengeni
- Ndiziva ndingowakho
- Ukuya kumdlalo womdlali omnye ukuya kwiqela lezemidlalo
- Ukutshintsha kwezinto eziphambili
- Utshintsho kubomi bezesondo
Utshilo "ewe" kwisindululo somlingane wakho, kwaye ngoku uguqe ngamadolo kumalungiselelo omtshato.
Kuninzi okunokuqwalaselwa, ukufumana indawo kunye nomphathi, ukukhetha noku-odola amakhadi okonga umhla kunye nezimemo, ukuthatha isigqibo kwiimenyu, zingaphi iindwendwe ezimemayo, kwaye kunjalo nelokhwe!
Kodwa kukho into mhlawumbi ebaluleke ngakumbi kunazo zonke iinkcukacha onokucinga ngayo: Utshintsho oluza kuziswa ngumtshato ebomini bakho.
Sicele izibini ezitshatileyo ukuba zabelane ngokujonga malunga nokuba umtshato ubutshintshe njani ubomi babo. Makhe sibone ukuba bathini.
Ukuchaphazeleka ngokuthe ngqo
UVirginia, oneminyaka engama-30, usixelela ukuba ebengalindelanga utshintsho olunje ebomini bakhe. "Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, mna noBruce besikhe sahlala kunye isibini seminyaka ngaphambi kokubopha iqhina," usixelela.
Ngokukhawuleza, ndanolusu emdlalweni. Xa sasihlala nje kunye, ndinombono wokuba ndingaphuma kubudlelwane nangaliphi na ixesha ngaphandle kokungakhawulezi kakhulu kwezinto.
Kodwa emva kokuba sitshatile, yonke loo nto yatshintsha.
Zombini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, ngokwenene! Izinto zethu zexabiso zidityanisiwe, kunye namagama ethu omabini ngoku kwii-akhawunti zebhanki, imali mboleko, izihloko zemoto. Kwaye besinamathele ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo njengendoda nomfazi.
Olu luvo lokuba nolusu kumdlalo, ukuba izibonda zaziphezulu kuba kukho ukuzibophelela okusemthethweni kunye nokuziva okunzulu ngakumbi. Ndiyayithanda! ”
Ukuba sesichengeni
"Ukutshata ungatshatanga kwandivumela ukuba ndibesengozini emfazini wam," utshilo uBob, oneminyaka engama-42.
Owu, ngokuqinisekileyo, xa sasithandana sasibonisa amacala ethu okwenyani, iintsumpa nazo zonke, kodwa sakuba sitshatile ndandinoluvo lokuba umfazi wam ngumntu wam okhuselekileyo ngokwenene, umntu phambi kwakhe endingenakuba nguye kuphela mfo ”kodwa futhi-kwaye oku kwakubaluleke kakhulu kum-bonisa uloyiko lwam kunye nexhala.
Ndiyazi ukuba uyakuhlala enomqolo wam. Zange khe ndibenalo oluvano lokuthenjwa ngokupheleleyo xa sasithandana nje. Umtshato wabutshintsha ngaloo ndlela ubomi bam.
Ndiziva ndingowakho
"Andiphumanga kusapho ndaya kusapho olukhulu," uCharlotte, 35, wabelana nathi. "Xa sasithandana ndandisazi ukuba uRyan uvela kule ntsapho inkulu, isondeleyo, yamaKatolika, kodwa andizange ndizive ndiyinxalenye yelo xesha. Ukuba andifuni ukuya kwesinye sezidlo zabo okanye amaqela, ibingeyonto inkulu. Sasithandana nje kunye nentombi. Yayindim ndedwa umntwana kwaye ndandingazange ndibone ukuba kunjani ukuba nentsapho enkulu.
Xa sitshatayo, yayingathi anditshati kuphela noRyan kodwa yonke intsapho yakhe. Baye bandithatha ngokungathi ndingomnye wabantu abazalana nabo. Kwakumangalisa ukuziva olu luvo loluntu. Ndiziva ndisikelelekile ukuba abantu abaninzi bandilungele. Ukuziva ngathi ndingoyena mntu kwaba lolona tshintsho lukhulu xa ndatshata ndingatshatanga. ”
Ukuya kumdlalo womdlali omnye ukuya kwiqela lezemidlalo
URichard, oneminyaka engama-54 ubudala, uchaza olona tshintsho lwakhe lukhulu "njengokuya kumdlalo omnye womdlali ukuya kwimidlalo yeqela". Uthi: "Bendihlala ndizimele. “Ndandicinga ukuba yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ehlabathini. Akukho mntu kufuneka ndinike ingxelo, ndinokuza ndihambe ngaphandle kokuphendula.
Kwaye ke ndadibana ndathandana noBelinda kwaye yonke loo nto yatshintsha. Ukutshata kwethu, ndaqonda ukuba ngoku sasisobabini, kwaye ndandiyithanda loo mvakalelo yokungabi ndedwa.
Abanye abantu bakhalaza malunga 'nokuba ngumfazi oyibhola kunye neetyathanga elijikeleze amaqatha abo', kodwa kum, kuchasene. Olu luvo lokuba sobabini siyinxalenye yeqela, kum lolona tshintsho lukhulu ekutshateni kwam, kwaye lolona lonwabo olukhulu kum. ”
Ukutshintsha kwezinto eziphambili
UWalter, oneminyaka engama-39, usixelela ukuba ezona zinto ziphambili kuye zatshintsha xa watshata. “Ngaphambili, bendigxile kakhulu kuphuhliso lwam lomsebenzi wobugcisa. Ndisebenze iiyure ezinde ngendlela engummangaliso, ndamkela ukuhanjiswa kwemisebenzi ukuba oko kuthetha imali engaphezulu kunye nesikhundla esiphezulu, kwaye ndinike ubomi bam kwinkampani.
Kodwa xa ndatshata, konke oko kwakubonakala kungabalulekanga kangako.
Umtshato wawuthetha ukuba kwakungasekho malunga nam, kodwa ngathi.
Ke ngoku, zonke izigqibo zam zobuchwephesha zenziwa kunye nenkosikazi yam, kwaye sijonga okona kulungele usapho. Andisawubeki phambili umsebenzi wam. Izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ekhaya, neqabane lam nabantwana bam. Bendingayi kuba nayo enye indlela. ”
Utshintsho kubomi bezesondo
“Uyazi ukuba yintoni etshintshe nyani ukutshata kwam?” Ubuza uRachel, 27. "Ubomi bam ngokwesondo! Njengebhinqa elingatshatanga, andizange ndizive ndikhuselekile ngokwaneleyo kunye namaqabane am ukuba ndiphumle kwaye ndonwabele izinto kwigumbi lokulala.
Ndazithemba kwaye ndinexhala lokuba inoba ucinga ntoni isithandwa sam. Kodwa isini esitshatileyo siyinto eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo.
Usondelelana nomntu omthanda ngokwenyani kwaye umthembile.
Oku kundivumela ukuba ndivulele kumava amatsha, ndicebise ngezinto ezintsha zokuzonwabisa ukuzama, kwaye ndingoyiki ukuba uza kundicinga kakubi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, asizukuzimela ngexesha lepati ukuya kulala kwigumbi lokulala labandwendweli, kodwa sichitha iiyure ebhedini ngeempelaveki sifumanisa nje ukuba kunjani ukonwaba kwisini esitshatileyo.
Andinakuyitshintsha loo nto ngenxa yobomi bam bokwabelana ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato ngayo yonke imali ekhoyo emhlabeni! ”