Umxholo
Ukuba unento endandiqhele ukuba yiyo, into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukuchukunyiswa liqabane lakho xa nisilwa. Kudala ukuba ukuba mna neqabane lam siyalwa, aze andolule nangayiphi na indlela, ndiye ndimke. Bendiwela iingalo zam, mhlawumbi ndimfulathele. Ilitha. Ndinelitha elihle endiliphuhlisileyo ebuntwaneni xa ndandinomsindo kubazali bam.
Kodwa bendiqhelanisa nendlela entsha yokulwa.
Ingozi kunye neRptilian Brain
Kukho isizathu esivakalayo sokuba sithande ukuphuma ngexesha lomlo: siziva singakhuselekanga. Ngokukodwa, ubuchopho bethu obuphindaphindiweyo buyayiqonda ingozi — ubomi okanye uhlobo lohlobo lokufa- kunye neenkqubo zethu zemithambo-luvo ezizimeleyo ziye ekulweni okanye kwimowudi yokubhabha. Kutheni le nto ubuchopho oburhubuluzayo bukhuthazeka xa sisilwa malunga nezitya? Kungenxa yokuba eli candelo lokuqala lobuchopho bethu bucwangcisiwe ukusukela ekuzalweni ukuba kubangelwe xa iimfuno zethu zokuncamathisela zingafikelelwa. Ngamanye amagama, siziva sikhuselekile xa umama esinika ukutya nendawo yokuhlala nothando, kwaye ialam ikhala xa iimfuno zethu zingafikelelwa ... Ngokukhawuleza phambili kumashumi ambalwa eminyaka kunye nohlobo lokuqhotyoshelana esinalo kunye neqabane lethu lothando sibonisa isincamathiselo ebesinaso kunye nabanakekeli bethu bokuqala. Xa olo manyano lusongelwa, ialam iyakhala kwaye siyoyika ubomi bethu.
Sonke siyazi ukuba umlo kunye nokubaluleka kwethu okunokwenzeka akunakuba bubomi okanye imeko yokufa. Ke into ekufuneka siyenzile kukugqitha umyalezo weengqondo zethu kwaye siyixelele ukuba ihlale izolile (kwaye ilwe nayo). Kodwa silwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo: hayi ngokungathi sisirhubuluzi, okanye iintsana ezingenakuzinceda, silwela ukusindisa ubomi bethu, kodwa ngokuzolileyo nangabo bonke ubuchule obukhulu obuza neendawo eziguquke ngakumbi zeengqondo zethu: ukukwazi ukuba nothando, Uvelwano, unesisa, unomdla, uyakhathala, ubumnene, unengqiqo, kwaye ucinga.
Uthando kunye neBongo yeLimbic
Ngenisa inkqubo yeembambo. Le yinxalenye yengqondo ejongene nobomi bethu beemvakalelo. Yinxalenye yethu eyahlula izilwanyana njengezivelele ngakumbi kunezirhubuluzi; oko kusenza ukuba sifune ukuba neenja kumaqabane ngakumbi kuneengwenya; kwaye loo nto yenza ukuwa eluthandweni kube mnandi kwaye kubuhlungu kwintlungu.
Xa sibambana ngezandla kwaye sijonge ngamehlo athambileyo, anothando, senza inkqubo entle ebizwa ngokuba yimbumba yomzimba. Isandi seLimbic kukuhlangana kwemeko yangaphakathi yomntu ukuya kwenye. Kukuphononongwa kwengqondo kwenkqubo yeemvakalelo- ukufunda iimvakalelo ukuba uyathanda. Isandi seLimbic yindlela umama azi ngayo into efunwa lusana lwakhe. Yiyo eyenza ukuba umhlambi weentaka ubhabhe kunye ... umhlambi wonke ujike ngasekhohlo kungekho ntaka ithile iphetheyo. Xa sikwi-limbon resonance kunye nomntu esimthandayo, sinika imeko yangaphakathi ngokuzenzekelayo.
Ukubaluleka kokufunda abanye
Ukusukela ekuzalweni, besiziqhelanisa nokufunda abantu- imbonakalo yobuso babo, inkangeleko yamehlo abo, amandla abo. Ngoba? Sisakhono sokusinda esikhokelela kukhuseleko nakwimpahla kodwa okubaluleke ngakumbi, kukufumana ulwazi malunga nayo yonke imeko yangaphakathi ebalulekileyo yenye. Sikujongela phantsi ukubaluleka kokufunda abanye, kodwa siyazi ukuba abo baqhuba kakuhle bayaphumelela: abazali abangcono baqhelene nabantwana babo, abanini beshishini abangcono abazimiseleyo kubaxumi babo, ii-orator ezingcono ezilungele abaphulaphuli babo. Kodwa obu buchule buyalityalwa xa kufikwa kuthando lwesithandana. Xa sisilwa nabanye bethu ababalulekileyo, sihlala sizikhupha endaweni yokuzilungiselela.
Xa sikhetha ukuzenza endaweni yazo, sinethuba lokuziqonda nzulu. Umzekelo, inyani malunga nokuba kutheni ndicaphuka xa izitya zingagqitywanga ayizizo izitya kwaphela. Kungenxa yokuba indikhumbuza indlu yam enesiphithiphithi, eyonakeleyo ikhula ngenxa yotywala bukamama ... kwaye indishiya ndiziva ndi-yucky kuba ivuselela inkumbulo endala yokuba ubomi bam babunjani ngelo xesha. Xa iqabane lam liqonda ukuba malunga nam, kunokwenzeka ukuba enze izitya zokundinceda ndiphilise inxeba elishiywe ngumama ongakhathaliyo. Xa sibuqonda ubuntu beqabane lethu ... ukuba sesichengeni kwabo, imivumbo yabo yeemvakalelo ... emva koko umsebenzi wesibini uba malunga nokuphilisa kunokuba ulwe.
Ke, ukhetha. Unako ukulwa njengezirhubuluzi, ngokungazi ulwa ukuze uhlale uphila. Okanye unokukhetha ukuphefumla nzulu, thatha izandla zesithandwa sakho usibeke kwesakho, ujonge ngothando kuye ngamehlo athambileyo, kwaye uqinise unxibelelwano lwakho ngesandi somzimba. Xa sidibana, siyakhumbula ukuba sikhuselekile kwaye siyathandana. Umnqweno wethu wokuzikhusela ngokuhlasela omnye ulibalekile kwaye nomnqweno wethu wokufumana inkathalo. Kwi-limbic resonance, sinako ukuyilungisa impazamo ye-reptilian brain: Andikho sengozini, ndisemathandweni kwaye ndifuna ukuhlala ndithandana.