Umxholo
- Ukwabelana ngesondo kungaphezulu nje kwesenzo somzimba
- Ukusondelelana okwenyani ayisiyiyo nje imizimba emibini eza kunye ngesondo
- Ukwabelana ngesondo yindlela nje yokusondelelana
- Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane akulunganga kubudlelwane
- Ukusondelelana okwenyani kungaphezulu kwesondo
- Imincili yokuqala iya kuphela ngexesha elithile
- Uthando luphela nini?
- Khumbuza amaxesha amnandi xa izinto zimuncu
Sonke silangazelela ukusondelelana, kwaye ukunxibelelana ngokomzimba kunokubonakala njengokusondelelana, ubuncinci okomzuzwana. Kwaye nangona isini sichazwa njengesenzo esisondeleyo; ngaphandle kobuhlobo, asinako ukuva ngokwenyani konke oko uThixo wayefuna sikwenze.
Ungaphoswa usiqonde, sonke sikhe sithi “Quickie” ngamaxesha athile. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ibhayibhile yathi kwincwadi yeNtshumayeli, “Kubo bonkeinto, ikho ixesha, yonke into inexesha layo phantsi kwezulu: ”. Ke, xa ungenalo ixesha elininzi, kuya kufuneka wenze le uyenzayo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kungaphezulu nje kwesenzo somzimba
Asifuni ukuba ubomi bethu bezesondo buguquke bube yinto yomzimba ngaphandle kobuhlobo nothando. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sinesondo kangakanani, ukuba asiyi kuhlakulela uthando lokwenene kunye nolwalamano ngaphambi kwesondo, ngoko akuyi kuba khona emva kwesondo.
Ukusondelelana okwenyani ayisiyiyo nje imizimba emibini eza kunye ngesondo
Kwabase-Efese 5:31 (KJV) Ngenxa yesi sizathu indoda iya kumshiya uyise nonina, inamathele emfazini wayo, baze abo babini babe nyama-nye.
Isibini ukuba sisinye singaphezulu kwesondo nje ngokwasemzimbeni. Bangaphi abantu abatshatileyo abalala ngesondo, besabelana ngemizimba yabo kodwa ingezizo iintliziyo zabo? Basenokutshata, balale kunye, babelane ngesondo, kodwa bazive bebodwa.
Ngoba?
Ukwabelana ngesondo yindlela nje yokusondelelana
Njengokuba umbhobho wegadi ungengawo umthombo wamanzi, kodwa libinzana okanye isithuthi salo; Ukwabelana ngesondo akuyiyo imvelaphi yobudlelwane obusondeleyo, kodwa nje ukubonakaliswa kwayo.
Ukuba akukho manzi echibini, akusayi kubakho manzi aphuma kwipayipi yegadi.
Ngokunjalo, ukuba akukho luthando kunye nokusondelelana ezintliziyweni zethu, ngekhe kubekho namnye ophuma kwisenzo sokwabelana ngesondo.
Izibini ezininzi ziya kubelana ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato kuba zivakalelwa kukuba kukubonakaliswa kokuthandana kwabo. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, ngokwenyani abanabo ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Njengokuba kunjalo, uninzi lwezi zibini lunokuqhubeka nokwabelana ngesondo kodwa eneneni, kuthintela ukukhula kwabo kubudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane akulunganga kubudlelwane
Nangona ezi zibini zihlala kunye kwaye zize zitshate, ulwalamano lwabo luba nje ngokwasemzimbeni, kwaye bayeke ukwabelana ngolwazi olusondeleyo. Baba sisibini okanye umtshato ohamba nothando kodwa ophulukene neemvakalelo zothando; ulwalamano.
Njengokuba kunjalo, izibini ezithi zingene ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane bezesondo zinokufumana ukonwaba ngesondo, kodwa zihlala zingaze zisondelelane kuba ziyayeka ukwabelana ngolwazi. Ubudlelwane buchazwa sisenzo sokwabelana ngesondo.
Ukusondelelana okwenyani kungaphezulu kwesondo
Kuyavunywa, ukuba neentlobano zesini yinxalenye yokubonakalisa ukusondelelana, kodwa asikuko ukusondelelana. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuba lolona phawu lusondeleyo kunye noluthandekayo lothando, kodwa siyazikhohlisa nje xa sisenza ngokungathi isini sibubungqina bothando.
Amadoda amaninzi kakhulu afuna isini njengobungqina bothando; baninzi kakhulu abantu basetyhini abanike isondo ngethemba lothando.
Siphila kwihlabathi elizele ngabasebenzisi apho sihlukumezana khona ukuze sinciphise iintlungu zokuba wedwa. Kwaye ngelishwa abantu abaninzi kakhulu baya kusebenzisa isondo njengendlela yokuzalisekisa iimfuno zabo kunokuba babonakalise ezona mfuno zeqabane labo.
Kwincwadi yethu “Uthando Lokuqala, Uthando Lokwenene, Olona Luthando”, sixoxa ngendlela uthando olwalukade lukhona, alusekho. Obekulwalamano oludlamkileyo kakhulu nolusenyongweni kuye kwancitshiswa kwaba bantu bahamba nje ngothando, okanye baba nokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo nokutshabalalisayo okanye okubi kakhulu.
Phantse kwindalo iphela, obu budlelwane buqala ngokufana kokonwaba kokuqala, ukonwaba, ukonwaba, uvuyo, uvuyo kunye nolonwabo. Baba namava amnandi kakhulu kunye neemvakalelo zovuyo njengoko besondela ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Imincili yokuqala iya kuphela ngexesha elithile
Eyona nto iphantse yaqheleka jikelele kubudlelwane bethu, kukuba ngamanye amaxesha ezo mvakalelo zokuqala zovuyo, ukonwaba, ulonwabo, uvuyo, uvuyo, kunye nolonwabo azisekho.
Uninzi lwezibini zinebali elimnandi malunga nendlela abaqala ukudibana ngayo kwaye bathandana kodwa zihlala zingenakuphawula xa beqala ukuthandana. Banokuwakhumbula amanqaku ahlukeneyo apho babephoxekile okanye babuhlungu, kodwa umzuzu uthando oluqale ukuphela ngalo alubonakali.
IsiTyhilelo 2: 4 (KJV) Kodwa ke ndinendawo ngakuwe; ngokuba ulushiyile uthando lwakho lokuqala.
Uthando luphela nini?
Hayi, asithethi ngesondo; kuba uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bayaqhubeka nokwabelana ngesondo ngokwasemzimbeni nangona uthando lwabo omnye komnye luphelile.
Uthando luyaphela xa siyeka ukwabelana ngolwazi olusondeleyo kunye, kwaye xa siyeka ukwenza izinto ezithandanayo esizisebenzisayo ukwenza omnye komnye.
IsiTyhilelo 2: 5 (KJV) Khumbula ngoko apho uwe usuka khona, uguquke, wenze imisebenzi yokuqala; okanye ndoza kuwe kamsinya, ndisishenxise isiphatho sesibane sakho endaweni yaso, ukuba akuthanga uguquke.
Into uThixo afuna siyenze kukhumbula kwaye siguquke.Xa sicela abantu abatshatileyo ukuba basixelele malunga nokudibana kwabo okokuqala, usuku lwabo lokuqala, ukuthandana kwabo okokuqala kunye nomhla abatshata ngawo — bahlala bencuma njengoko bekhumbula iinkumbulo ezimnandi zexesha elidlulileyo. Nokuba imizuzu edlulileyo ngexesha lokunikwa kwengcebiso babesemqaleni omnye komnye. Omnye umntu wakhe wathi, “UThixo usinike inkumbulo ukuze sikwazi ukukhumbula ivumba nobuhle beentyatyambo ngoDisemba.
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