Umxholo
- 1. Ufuna ukwandisa ngaphaya kwenu
- 2. Ukudibana kakuhle kwamehlo
- 3. Ukungqinelana kwangaphandle nangaphakathi
- 4. Ivumba
- 5. IiHormone
- 6. Kutheni abanye abantu bethandana ngokulula?
- 7. Qala ukusebenza kuwe ngokuzithemba uqhubeke nothando
Umbuzo ofumana ukuhoywa okuninzi kwaye ushiyeke ungaphendulwanga (kwiindawo ezininzi) kutheni abantu bethandana.
Ngoku, lo mbuzo unzima uneempendulo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo; ungayiphendula ngokwenzululwazi, ungayiphendula ngokwendalo yomntu, okanye ungayichaza ngento elula yokuba uThixo wadala indoda nebhinqa ngababini kwaye ke bayinto enye.
Xa sibancinci, into yokugqibela ethi qatha ezingqondweni zethu kukuqiqa kukaThixo. Sihlala siluthathela ingqalelo uthando njengemvakalelo, njengemvakalelo esenza ukuba sifune ukuphambana. Izinto ezincinci ezinje ngokubambana ngezandla, ukubuyisa umva, ukutya iitshokholethi ngoSuku lweValentine, kunye nokukrola amagama kwimiboko yemithi konke kuthathwa njengeempawu zothando.
Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba usiba mdala, uqala ukuqonda uluvo lokuba uthando aluyomvakalelo kodwa lukhetho. Ukhetha ukuhlala xa izinto zinzima, ukhetha ukuthatha uxanduva, kwaye ukhethe ukuhlonipha izifungo zakho.
Inzululwazi izamile kwaye yaluchaza uthando ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye impendulo yalo mbuzo iyaqhubeka itshintsha ngokuxhomekeka kumntu othandana naye.
Ezinye zezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuba abantu bathambekele ekuthandeni zichazwe apha ngezantsi. Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufumane.
1. Ufuna ukwandisa ngaphaya kwenu
Ngokwesiqhelo, uninzi lwabantu luyathandana nomntu ongafumani nje ukuba nomtsalane kwaye kufanelekile kodwa nomntu obathandayo.
Oku kudala imeko / imeko apho ufumana ithuba elitsha lokuzandisa.
Inyani yokuba lo mntu uyakuthanda ngasemva ikunika ithuba elibalulekileyo lokuziqonda, ukuba uzitshintshe, kwaye wandise iingcinga zakho; xa ulibona eli thuba, uziva uvuya kakhulu.
2. Ukudibana kakuhle kwamehlo
Ukugcina unxibelelwano oluhle lwamehlo kukuvumela ukuba ubone nzulu emphefumlweni weqabane lakho kwaye kwangoko lenza umtsalane onzulu omnye komnye.
Nokuba abantu ababini abangazange badibane ngaphambili, ukujonga emehlweni kunokubagcwalisa ngonxibelelwano olunzulu kunye nemvakalelo yokwazi loo mntu ixesha elide.
Olu nxibelelwano lunokucingelwa luthando ngabantu abathile.
3. Ukungqinelana kwangaphandle nangaphakathi
Uyathandana xa iinkqubo zomzimba wakho zingqamana nezona zinto zibalulekileyo ezikhoyo kwilizwe langaphandle. Izinto ezichazayo ezichanekileyo zibhekisa kwi-olfactory, visual, auditory, kunye ne-tactile cues ezenzeka ngolungelelwano olufanelekileyo, ixesha kunye nendawo.
Ukuthetha ngokwenzululwazi, kubudlelwane bezothando, zininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zekhemistri ezifunekayo.
Ukuze umntu athande uthando, iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza izinto zangaphandle kunye neenkqubo ze-neurochemical kufuneka zilingane ngokulandelelana kwakho ukuze uthandane.
4. Ivumba
Abantu abaninzi bathandana namaqabane abo okanye abahlobo babo ngenxa yendlela abanuka ngayo.
Isiteyitimenti esingentla sivakala singekho ngqiqweni, kodwa ukuvumba komzimba kubangela iimvakalelo zokuthanda amadoda nabafazi ngokufanayo. Ngoku, khumbula ukuba asithethi nje ngevumba eliqhelekileyo elinalo ihempe emdaka yeqabane lakho kodwa sineehempe ezingenavumba kunye nezinye iimpahla.
Le miqondiso yevumba ingena kwingqondo yakho ngenkqubo ye-olfactory, kwaye uyathandana.
5. IiHormone
IiHormone zidlala indima enkulu ekwenzeni ukuba uthandane.
Ngaba umlomo wakho uyoma kwaye intliziyo yakho iqala ukubetha ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba ezinye izinto zakho ezibalulekileyo zibethe emnyango wakho? Ewe, le yimpendulo yoxinzelelo, kwaye iyenzeka xa iihomoni ezinje nge-serotonin, dopamine, kunye ne-adrenaline zikhutshwa kwigazi lakho.
I-Loves ibethe izibini ezinamanqanaba aphezulu e-dopamine egazini labo.
Le neurotransmitter iyanceda ekuvuseleleni isixa esikhulu solonwabo kwaye inefuthe elifanayo kwingqondo njengokusebenzisa icocaine.
6. Kutheni abanye abantu bethandana ngokulula?
Ngamaxesha athile, amehlo amabini adibana kwigumbi, kwaye enye iyimbali.
Uninzi lwenu, ukuthandana kunokuba nzima. Ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukuthandana, kodwa awukwazi ukubuyisela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ube nothando, kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukunika uthando kwaye ube nothando ngaphakathi kwakho.
Xa uziva uthandeka, kwaye xa uzithanda, uyakwazi ukwenza olu thando ngaphandle. Xa ufuna isithandwa, umntu oziva engalufanelanga uthando, akanakuthi aziveze ukuba uyathandeka kwaye ke akanakuthanda. Oku kungazithembi kuguqulelwa njengokufuna, kwaye oku kuyayigxotha eminye iminqweno yothando njengokutshiza ipepile.
Uyafuneka ngakumbi, kokukhona uya kugxotha abantu, kwaye uya kuba namathuba asezantsi ekufumaneni uthando.
7. Qala ukusebenza kuwe ngokuzithemba uqhubeke nothando
Ke, ukuba uyothusa kwaye ufumana uthando, kuya kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho kuqala.
Zama ukuzithemba, zithande, zivulele kwilizwe langaphandle kwaye ngaphambi kokuba wazi, ikhemistri iya kulandela, kwaye uyakufumana uthandana.
Sukulandela intetho yakudala ethi "opposite attrts" kwaye endaweni yoko yenze injongo yakho ukufumana umntu onemilinganiselo efanayo kunye nembono efanayo ngobomi njengawe.
Ngale ndlela, uya kuba neqabane lobomi oza kwabelana ngalo ngobomi bakho naphakade.