Umxholo
- Abancinci kunye nabaphuli-mthetho abaphambili emtshatweni
- Iziyobisi zisisisongelo esibi kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane
- Uxolelo kwaye kutheni kungafiki lula
- Sukulungiswa kwimicimbi yokuxolelwa kwemba
- Into onokuyenza xa ungakwazi ukuxolela iqabane lakho
Xa ungakwazi ukulixolela iqabane lakho, unokuziva ngathi umhlaba uphelile. Imitshato yinto enzima, enokubangela uvuyo olukhulu kunye nentlungu enkulu. Ukuba yeyiphi kwezi oya kuyifumana kumtshato wakho ixhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Ezinye zazo zisezandleni zakho, ezinye zingaphandle kolawulo lwakho. Kwaye xa kukubi okukhona ukoyisa, uya kuzifumana uwela kwindlela-yokuxolela, ukuqhubeka nokulwa, okanye ukunikezela kwaye uqhubeke nobomi bakho.
Abancinci kunye nabaphuli-mthetho abaphambili emtshatweni
Yonke imitshato yahlukile. Umntu akanakuze axelele ukuba yeyiphi ingxaki enokuba isibini asinakho ukoyisa. Kweminye, kunokuba kukuqhubeka kusikhathaza ngokushiya ubisi ngaphandle kwefriji. Kwabanye, kunokuba kukuhamba kude ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukuphatheka kakubi ngokweemvakalelo. Kwaye abanye baya kufumana indlela yokoyisa nokungona kungcatshwa kukhulu kwaye bafunde kumava.
Nokuba yeyiphi imeko, inqaku yile - akukho iresiphi yendalo iphela esebenzayo nokuba yintoni engasebenziyo. Ekugqibeleni, ngabo bantu babini abafikelela kwisigqibo sokuba yeyiphi into abanokuyiphatha kakhulu. Kwiofisi yonyango, kuhlala kukho isimanga, kwaye izibini ezibonakala ngathi zigwetyelwe ziyakwazi ukunyanga, ngelixa abo babenemicimbi emincinci kuphela bagqiba kwelokuba bohlukane.
Kodwa, njengoko uphando lubonisa, kukho iindawo ezithile zokungavisisani phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo abathathelwa ingqalelo njengabaphuli-mthetho. Ezi ziingxaki zonxibelelwano, kunye neziyobisi. Xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano, ingumcimbi onokuthi ube nefuthe kwisimo sokungena kwesi sibini kuzo zombini iindlela. Ukuba unxibelelwano alulunganga, nanini na isihlalo sendlu yangasese sishiyiwe siza kulonakalisa ulwalamano. Kwelinye icala, xa kukho unxibelelwano olulungileyo, oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo, isibini simi ithuba elihle kakhulu lokwenza oko.
Iziyobisi zisisisongelo esibi kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane
Ukuba omnye okanye bobabini abatshatileyo bangamakhoboka eziyobisi, okanye banendlela yokuziphatha (ukungcakaza, ikhoboka lesini), kugxila ekutshintsheni. Eyona nto iphambili kuyo iba kukufumana iziyobisi okanye ukuzibandakanya nokuziphatha gwenxa, kunokukhathalela usapho kunye nobudlelwane. Njengomphumo weziyobisi okanye unxibelelwano olubi olungapheliyo, omnye wabatshati unokuzifumana ekwimeko apho bangasakwaziyo ukuxolela khona.
Uxolelo kwaye kutheni kungafiki lula
Ukhe weva ukuba kuyingozi kangakanani ukungakwazi ukuxolela. Ngokuqinisekileyo unamava ngokuthe ngqo ngendlela ingqumbo enetyhefu, inzondo, umsindo, kunye nazo zonke ezinye iimvakalelo zokuba buhlungu kunokuba. Kwaye mhlawumbi ukhumbula amaxesha amyoli xa wawungafanele uziva ngaloo ndlela ngentlungu kunye nostalgia.
Sukulungiswa kwimicimbi yokuxolelwa kwemba
Sihlala sinamathela ekonzakalisweni nasekukhubekeni njengendlela yokulawula imeko. Kuqhelekile ukuba ube nazo zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo xa wawuphosakele, kwaye akukho nanye kuzo ehlala imnandi. Kodwa, emva kwexesha elithile, kuya kufuneka sikwazi ukuqhubela phambili kwaye singazinzisi kwinto eyenzekileyo kuthi. Nangona kunjalo, abantu bahlala kakhulu bengakwazi ukuyenza.
Oku kuqhelekile kuba sidinga iimeko ezithile ukuze sikwazi ukuyeka ulawulo esikholelwa ukuba sinalo xa sinenqala. Okokuqala, emva kokona kwamaqabane ethu, sonke sinethemba lokucela uxolo olulungileyo, olunyanisekileyo. Sidinga oku ukuze sibone ukuba sikwicala elinye. Kananjalo kuya kufuneka siphilise ngokwenzakala kwethu. Sidinga ukwenzakala ukuze siguquke sikhule. Okokugqibela, sifuna isimilo esenzakalisayo siyeke kwaye singaze siphinde. Ukuba nayiphi na kwezi meko ayifezekiswanga, uninzi lwethu alunakufumana kuthi ukuba sixolele.
Into onokuyenza xa ungakwazi ukuxolela iqabane lakho
Xa ufumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukuxolela, nokuba ungazama kangakanani, zixolele. Abantu bathambekele ekubeni bazive benetyala xa bengenako ukuxolela amaqabane abo. Nokuba ungcatshiwe kwaye udanile ngenxa yamazwi, ungaziva ngathi nguwe ekufuneka uxolele kwaye ulibale. Kodwa, unelungelo lokuba ungenzi njalo. Ke, yeka ukuzityhala ekuxoleleni into ongenakuyixolela iqabane lakho, kwaye uyeke ikhonkco okwangoku.
Endaweni yoko, thatha umzuzwana ukuze uzazi ngcono. Yintoni eyakwenza wangakwazi ukuxolela? Yintoni le uyifunayo kwiqabane lakho? Yintoni eyayilahlekile? Inokwenzeka njani ukuba imeko igqithe ngendlela eyahlukileyo? Zeziphi iindlela onokukhetha kuzo kunye nomtshato wakho ngoku? Zininzi izifundo ezibalulekileyo onokuzifunda kuzo zonke iimeko, kubandakanya nale.