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- Izinto ezingama-20 umntu obhinqileyo azifuna kwindoda kubudlelwane
- 1. Mbonise ukomelela nokuba buthathaka
- 2. Uthando lusezenzweni ezincinci
- 3. Funda ukunxibelelana
- Hlanganisa iimvakalelo zakhe kunye namazwi akhe
- 5. Yilwa, kodwa ulwe ngendlela esempilweni
- 6. Ungaze umenze azive engabonakali
- 7. Kwanokungabi namzamo kuthatha umsebenzi
- 8. Zihlaziye
- 9. Ukungasoloko ungumhlanguli
- 10. Ukuthetha inyani
- 11. Mhloniphe
- 12.Menze azive ekhuselekile
- 13. Menze azive emhle
- 14. Nxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo
- 15. Yabelanani ngoxanduva
- Tyala ixesha lakho
- 17. Thembeka
- 18. Yiba nolwazelelelo
- 19. Mxabise
- 20. Zivakalise izimvo zakho
- Ngaba unika umfazi wakho oko akufunayo kubudlelwane?
- Yise kude
Umbuzo omdala, 'Abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane?'
Ukhe uzibuze ukuba ngaba ikhona ikhowudi eyimfihlo yokuqhekeza indlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo yomfazi wakho? Ngamanye amaxesha, uqinisekile ukuba uzama ukukuxelela into, kodwa uswele amandla okuqonda ukuba uthetha ntoni?
Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ukhe unqwenele ukuba abasetyhini beze nomsesane othile wokukhetha ikhowudi?
Abantu behlabathi lezePsychology kunye noNcwadi bayazi kakuhle igama likaSigmund Freud.
Wakhe wathi edume kakhulu, "Umbuzo omkhulu ongazange uphendulwe, kwaye endingekakwazi ukuwuphendula, nangona ndineminyaka engamashumi amathathu ndenza uphando ngomphefumlo wobufazi, 'Ingaba umfazi ufuna ntoni kubudlelwane?' ”
Amanqaku aliqela kunye neengcaphuno zithatha i-jab kwabasetyhini kunye neminqweno yabo esisiseko. Ihlala isitsho njani ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba baqonde abantu basetyhini.
Babonisa abantu basetyhini njengefomula ye-algebraic okanye naluphi na uvavanyo lwenzululwazi apho umntu anokukhupha into okanye aphule ikhompawundi.
Ke, bafuna ntoni kwabasetyhini kubudlelwane namaqabane abo? Akukho sidingo soxinzelelo. Abafazi ngokwenene ayizizo zonke izinto ezinzima. Zombini izini zifuna into enye kubudlelwane; bathatha nje iindlela ezahlukeneyo ukufikelela kwiinjongo zabo.
Izinto ezingama-20 umntu obhinqileyo azifuna kwindoda kubudlelwane
Ke, yintoni abafazi abafuna ukuba bayazi amadoda?
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zobuhlobo obomeleleyo emadodeni kwinto efunwa ngumfazi ngamnye. Ungayisebenzisa ukuqonda ngcono ukuba abafazi bafuna ntoni endodeni kwaye abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane:
1. Mbonise ukomelela nokuba buthathaka
Into efunwa ngumfazi kubudlelwane kukuziva ukuba uliliwa lakhe, ukuba unokuthembela kuwe ngamaxesha anzima, ukuba uya kuhlala umenza azive ekhuselekile kwaye ekhuselekile.
Kwangelo xesha, uyayixabisa into yokuba ungamnika umbono wecala lakho elithambileyo, ukuba semngciphekweni kwakho, uloyiko lwakho kunye nokoyika.
Eyona mitshato ilungileyo yenziwe yile: Ukutshintsha iindima zokuba liqabane elomeleleyo. Ke mvumele angene, makakuxhase xaufuna inkxaso. Kwaye wenze okufanayo kuye xa eziva exakekile.
2. Uthando lusezenzweni ezincinci
IHollywood ingakholelwa ukuba zizimbo zomzimba kuphela ezinokubonisa ukuba umthanda kangakanani umfazi wakho. Kodwa awudingi ukuthumela i-limousine ezaliswe ziiroses ezibomvu ukumlanda eofisini yakhe ngoSuku lweValentine ukungqina oku.
Yintoni abasetyhini abayifunayo emtshatweni egcina iintliziyo zabo zonwabile zizimbo zomzimba ezincinci nezikhumbuzo zokuba usezingqondweni zakho.
Isicatshulwa esimnandi esithunyelwe emini esithi uyamkhumbula; irabha yangasemva ngelixa nibukele umabonwakude kunye; ikhadi lesipho esothusayo kwindawo ayithandayo yekofu.
Buza nasiphi na isibini esonwabileyo esitshatileyo okomzuzwana ukuba yintoni Imfihlelo kukuhlaziya uthando lwabo mihla le, kwaye baya kukuxelela ukuba zezi zinto zincinci zigcina iintlantsi ziphila.
3. Funda ukunxibelelana
Unxibelelwano yenye yezona mfuno zibalulekileyo kunye neemfuno kubudlelwane.
Oku kuya ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Kwaye uyakufumanisa ukuba ihlala incoko enkulu iya kukhokelela kumzuzu omkhulu phakathi kwamashiti.
Ngokungafaniyo namadoda, Yintoni abafazi abayifunayo kubudlelwane kukuziva ubophelelekile kwiqabane labo ukuze bonwabe ngokwenene ngokwesondo. Ingxoxo enzulu apho kukho ukubuyela umva nangaphandle kwezimvo kunokuba yinto eyothusayo.
Kwaye, kanye ebhedini, musa ukuba neentloni ngokuqhubeka nengxoxo-kodwa jolise kulonwabo lwenu ngokwasemzimbeni kunokuba, yithi, kwezopolitiko.
Khumbula ukuba indlela onxibelelana ngayo neqabane lakho emtshatweni ibonisa indlela olwanelisa ngayo ulwalamano lwakho.
Hlanganisa iimvakalelo zakhe kunye namazwi akhe
Xa nobabini ninzulu ngengxoxo, kubalulekile ukuba ungamameli nje into ayithethayo kodwa nokuva iimvakalelo eziphantsi kwamagama akhe.
Ngaba ukhathazekile, udiniwe, ulusizi, uyacaphuka, ukhathazekile? Okanye, kwicala elilunge ngakumbi, ngaba wonwabile, uyonwabile, uyonwabile kwaye uyabhanxa?
Iindlela zonxibelelwano zabasetyhini zibandakanya okungaphezulu kokuthetha nje, Mamela imiyalezo yeemvakalelo ayithumelayo ukuze ufumane umfanekiso omkhulu wento ayithethayo.
5. Yilwa, kodwa ulwe ngendlela esempilweni
Lonke ulwalamano luya kuba nesabelo salo kwimbambano. Kodwa sebenzisa la mathuba njengezifundo malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo, ngokulinganayo, nangokuvulekileyo ekuphulaphuleni icala leqabane lakho lezinto.
Into efunwa ngumfazi kwindoda ebudlelwaneni kukuba angavumelani naye ngokungaboniyo ukuphepha umlo kodwa umnike ixesha lokuveza umbono wakhe.
Ukumbonisa ukuba umvile, phinda into oyiqondileyo.
Ukufunda ukusombulula ungquzulwano ngaphandle kokuhamba sesinye sezona zakhono zibalulekileyo onokuzifumana kwaye kuya kubaluleka ekugcineni impilo yobudlelwane bakho.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Iingcebiso zobudlelwane kwabafazi zityhilwe ngamadoda
6. Ungaze umenze azive engabonakali
Kwiintsuku zokuqala zobudlelwane bakho, ngekhe ugcine amehlo akho kuye. Kuqhelekile ukuba lo mnqweno unciphise njengoko ulwalamano lwakho luguquka. Kodwa ungaze umvumele umfazi wakho azive ngathi awumboni.
Rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka, lahlani naziphi na iziphazamiso xa nithetha kunye. Beka iremote, iselfowuni, okanye ithebhulethi yakho xa nithetha kunye. Thatha gander kuye xa ethetha. Ukudibana kwamehlo kudlulisa umyalezo wokuba ubalulekile kuwe kwaye uyayixabisa into ayithethayo.
Xa efika ekhaya evela kunqothula iinwele zakhe, mxelele ukuba ungubani na unkqonkqozo. Wenze iinzame zokuba akhangeleke mhle kuwe, ke mxelele ukuba uyayibona loo nto.
Ukuziva uxabisekile kwaye ukholelwa ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuxabisa lichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo indlela oziva ngayo ngomtshato wakho, indlela ozibophelele ngayo kuwo, kunye nenkolelo yakho yokuba iya kuhlala.
Le yenye yezona ngcebiso zobudlelwane zibalaseleyo emadodeni kwinto efunwa ngabafazi kubudlelwane
7. Kwanokungabi namzamo kuthatha umsebenzi
Xa ubandakanyeka kubudlelwane obungakulungelanga wena (okanye yena), yonke into ibonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi omninzi.
Ukuthatha isigqibo apho ungaya khona isidlo sangokuhlwa kubonakala ngathi kuthatha umgudu omkhulu, kwaye ukwenza izicwangciso zeempelaveki kuyacaca ukuba kuyadinisa nomntu ongalunganga.
Kodwa xa uyifumene “enye,” ubudlelwane bakho bufana nokuqhuba ngaphandle kweziqhoboshi ngaphandle kokutyibilika, ngaphandle kokuzikhandla nomoya opholileyo.
Kuya kufuneka usebenze ukuze ugcine ulwalamano ludlamkile kwaye lutsha. Nangona kunjalo, nomntu olungileyo, olu luhlobo lomsebenzi olonwabisayo.
8. Zihlaziye
Gcina izakhono zakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho lukhula ngokuzama izinto ezintsha kunye. Yenye yezinto ezibalulekileyo ezifunekayo kubudlelwane.
Kungathatha iholide kwindawo engaqhelekanga okanye ukwenza i-adventure engaqhelekanga njenge-kayaking okanye i-hang-gliding.
Iingcali zobudlelwane zikhomba kwikhonkco phakathi kwe-adrenaline rush kunye nokwanda kwe-libido, ke cinga malunga naloo nto xa ulungiselela isifundo sakho sokuqala sokuntywila kunye!
Ayilungelanga into enobungozi kangaka? Kuthekani ngokubhalisa kwiklasi yemfundo yabadala kunye nokufunda into entsha kraca kunye?
Ulwimi lwasemzini, okanye ukupheka kwesiFrentshi ... nantoni na etshintsha izinto ukusuka kwindlela yesiqhelo, ngalo lonke ixesha ukonyusa amandla akho engqondo!
9. Ukungasoloko ungumhlanguli
Izinto zokuqala kuqala, bafuna ntoni kwabasetyhini kubudlelwane xa ekhalaza ngesiganeko esithile emsebenzini okanye nakweyiphi na idrama yosapho, kude kube okanye ngaphandle kokuba ebuza uluvo lwakho, kugcine kuwe.
Makhe aphume, makakhale ngokungabikho kokusesikweni kwale meko, kwaye ubekhona.
Ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, asifuni uSuperman ngalo lonke ixesha. Ngamanye amaxesha, indlebe enomdla kunye nobukho obutofotofo ziimpendulo zento efunwa yintombazana kubudlelwane.
10. Ukuthetha inyani
Amadoda athambekele ekuvumeni ngezinto abangenanjongo zokuzibona. Kubo, ayisiyonto inkulu leyo, kodwa into efunwa ngabafazi kubudlelwane kukuba yinyani kwilizwi lomntu liyimbonakaliso yokuba ngumntu onesidima.
Xa umfazi ebamba indoda yakhe ngokuxoka, uqala ukuthandabuza onke amagama owakhe wawathetha.
11. Mhloniphe
Abo bahlaziyayo 'Ndiyakuthanda' abasoze banele kumfazi oqinileyo. Ukuba uyamthanda, bonisa. Yiba nembeko kuye, ube mnene, umamele, ube nenkathalo, kwaye uthambe ngamazwi akho hayi kuye kuphela kodwa nakwabanye.
Ke, ungamnyanga njani umntu obhinqileyo?
Olunye lweempawu ezintle zendoda elungileyo kukuphatha abantu basetyhini ngentlonipho.
Mbonise ukuba uyindoda elungileyo, ulungile, ungumntu olungileyo.
Ndithembe. uyakuthanda ngaphezu kokuba ucinga. Akukho nto inomtsalane kumntu obhinqileyo kunendoda eyenza kanye le nto athi iyakwenza.
12.Menze azive ekhuselekile
Ngoku, uninzi lwamadoda ludla ngokucinga ngentombazana ekubandezelekeni ngalo lonke ixesha ndibakhombisa eli nqaku lincinci.
Okulusizi kukuba, into abangakwaziyo ukuyiqonda kukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini abathethi ngamandla omzimba wendoda xa besithi bakwenzile okanye bazive bengakhuselekanga nomntu othile.
Iphantse yahlala malunga nokuba baziva njani bekhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazivule.
Yintoni abafazi abafuna ubudlelwane kukuba bazive bekhuselekile kwaye bekhuselekile ngaphambi kokuba bathethe uluvo lwabo okanye umnqweno kumfana wabo.
Kwaye kuthatha indoda eyomeleleyo ukumamela kwaye ilandele iingcebiso zeehafu zabo ezingcono ngokunjalo.
13. Menze azive emhle
Enye yezinto abantu ababhinqileyo abayifunayo kukuziva ulungile kwiqabane labo. Akukho nto ibuhlungu njengowesifazane okholelwa ukuba akonelanga.
Nayiphi na indoda ethi nangayiphi na indlela okanye nangayiphi na indlela, engakwaziyo ukwenza iqabane layo liziva lilifanelekile ayifanelanga kuqala.
Akafanele ajonge abanye kwaye esoyika ukuba ungatshintsha ingqondo. Kuya kufuneka abe nokuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kubudlelwane ukuze azi ukuba awuyi ndawo, kwaye le ntembeko siyinikwa ngamaqabane ethu.
14. Nxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo
Ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni kuhlala kungahlawulwa ngokwaneleyo. Ngokubanzi, izibini zivakalelwa kukuba ukutshintshiselana kwemihla ngemihla okanye ukungabikho kwayo akuchaphazeli ubomi babo bemihla ngemihla.
Rhoqo uyakufumanisa ukuba ukunxibelelana rhoqo neqabane lakho kuya kukhulisa hayi kuphela ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kodwa kwanokwabelana ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ngokwahlukileyo emadodeni, 'ingaba abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane' kukuziva usondele ngokwenene kumaqabane abo. Incoko enzulu apho kukho into emnandi nayo kwaye ingangumbono obalaseleyo.
Ngaphezu koko, xa ulele ebhedini, musa ukoyika ukuqhubeka nencoko-kodwa ke ijolise kulonwabo lwakho olwabiwo ngokwasemzimbeni ngokuchaseneyo neminye imiba yasekuhlaleni.
Yazi ukuba indlela onxibelelana ngayo neqabane lakho lobomi emtshatweni ichaphazela ukwaneliseka kwenu nobabini kobo budlelwane.
15. Yabelanani ngoxanduva
Abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane?
Umntu ongoyikiyo, kodwa owamkela ngokuzithandela uxanduva lwasekhaya, ukusuka ekuhlambeni izitya, ekuphekeni ukutya nasekuhlambeni iimpahla.
Enye yezinto ezithandwa ngabasetyhini kuxa amadoda eqala ukuthatha uxanduva lwasekhaya. Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo amanenekazi ayifunayo kumaqabane abo. Bafuna ukuba amadoda abo abe nomdla kwimisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye babancede ngandlela zonke.
Thatha umdla ekuthengeni iivenkile zokutya, usapho, kwaye utyale amandla kunye nabantwana.
Amanenekazi aya konwaba zezi zinto zincinci zomzimba.
Tyala ixesha lakho
Abasetyhini kufuneka bathethe. Kufuneka baziveze kumaqabane abo. Baziva bexhumene namaqabane abo xa bechitha ixesha kwaye babelana ngezinto abanazo ezingqondweni zabo kunye neqabane labo.
Qiniseka ukuba wenza ixesha lokuba ngumfazi wakho. Oku akuyi kumenza azive esondele kuwe kuphela kodwa kuya kumenza akhululeke kwaye azole.
17. Thembeka
Enye yeendlela zokuqonda iimvakalelo zabasetyhini kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obuphilileyo kukuthembeka.
Umfazi wanamhlanje unikwe amandla, uzanele, kwaye unokukhathalela zonke iimfuno zakhe. Kodwa ubudlelwane abusebenzi ngaloo ndlela. Kubudlelwane, omabini amaqabane kufuneka akwazi ukuxhomekeka omnye komnye. Umfazi ufuna indoda anokuthembela kuyo.
Yiba nokuthenjwa, ubekhona kuye xa ekufuna, ubekhona ngokweemvakalelo kuye.
18. Yiba nolwazelelelo
Ukucinga okuncinci kunokuhamba indlela ende yokuqonda- Abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane.
Ngamanye amaxesha simenzela imisebenzi embalwa, simenzele imisebenzi yasekhaya, simkhuphele isidlo sangokuhlwa, simthengele iintyatyambo ngaphandle kwesizathu. Konke oku kunokumonwabisa ngokwenene. Cinga ngento emonwabisayo.
19. Mxabise
Ukuxabisa umntu obhinqileyo akuthethi nje ukumbulela ngemini yabasetyhini. Ingakumbi.Umxelele ukuba uyamxabisa kunye negalelo lakhe kubudlelwane ngokwenza izijekulo nezipho ezincinci. Kuya kufuneka umxabise kungekuphela ngasese kodwa ekuhlaleni, phambi kwabahlobo bakho.
Amaxesha ngamaxesha, ukubonisa umbulelo kuya kumgcina onwabile kwaye kuya kumkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke nokusebenza ekwenzeni ubudlelwane bakho bube ngcono.
20. Zivakalise izimvo zakho
Amadoda, ngokungafaniyo nabasetyhini, ahlala engakuthandi ukwabelana ngayo yonke into namaqabane abo. Kodwa, enyanisweni, ukuziqhelanisa okunempilo kakhulu. Ubudlelwane apho omabini amaqabane abelana ngazo zonke iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bevakalisa izimvo zabo zisempilweni ngakumbi kwaye ziyanelisa ngakumbi kunalezo apho iqabane lifihla izinto komnye nomnye.
Abasetyhini banotyekelo lokucinga kakhulu.
Xa amaqabane abo ezifihla iimvakalelo zabo okanye naluphi na olunye ulwazi kubo, lubenza uxinzelelo oluninzi. Ke ukuba unayo into engqondweni, xoxa ngayo nomfazi wakho. Iyakumsindisa kuninzi lokucinga kwaye iya kwenza ubudlelwane bakho bube ngcono.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Esona siqwenga seengcebiso zomtshato emadodeni
Ngaba unika umfazi wakho oko akufunayo kubudlelwane?
Abasetyhini ngabanakekeli ngaphakathi. Kubudlelwane, babakhathalele amaqabane abo, bakhulisa kwaye bomeleze ubudlelwane babo. Abasetyhini, kwiimeko ezininzi, batyale imali ngakumbi kubudlelwane babo kunamaqabane abo angamadoda.
Oku akuthethi ukuba amadoda axabisa ubudlelwane nangaphantsi. Kuphela kukuba abantu basetyhini banotyekelo lwendalo lokuba nenkathalo ngakumbi, kwaye ngenxa yoko banegalelo kakhulu kwiimvakalelo kubudlelwane. Kufuneka bayixabise loo nto.
Abasetyhini ngamanye amaxesha basebenzisa iindlela ezingangqalanga zonxibelelwano amadoda afumanisa kunzima ukuzichaza kwaye aziqonde- Abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane.
Bazichaza ngokufihlakeleyo ngokwenza izijekulo, ulwimi lomzimba, kunye nokucebisa ngamadoda angakwaziyo ukuyitolika into abazama ukuyithetha. Ngenxa yoko, iimfuno zabo kubudlelwane ngamanye amaxesha zihlala zingazalisekanga.
Eyona ndlela yokuxabisa abantu ababhinqileyo ayikuko ukunika izipho okanye ukuthi enkosi kodwa kukuphindisela imizamo yabo yobudlelwane. Banika lonke uthando, inkxaso, kunye nentlonipho efunwa ngamaqabane abo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, bafanele ukufumana yonke into abayifunayo kubudlelwane.
Yise kude
Ezi ngcebiso nje ezimbalwa zokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho ngokuqonda, "bafuna ntoni abafazi kubudlelwane?"
Ngaba yindlela entle yokufumana iingcebiso nangakumbi? Ngaba uyazi ukuba ngubani omnye umntu onokukunika ezona ngcebiso zintle zamadoda? UMFAZI WAKHO! Buza umfazi wakho ukuba unokwenza ntoni ukuze umtshato wakho ubengcono.
Oko kungena kugxile ekuphuculeni umtshato wakho kuhlala kwamkelekile kwaye kunokuba ngcono kunokusebenzisa umguquleli kwi-Intanethi ukuqonda iqabane lakho!