Umxholo
- Yima, umamele kwaye ukhathalele-nokuba awukhathali
- Dlala, cinga kwaye ungazithathi nzulu
- Fumana uvuyo kuvuyo lwabo
- Yiba khona
Ndiva ngathi "ndinqanyuliwe" sisona sikhalazo sixhaphakileyo endisivayo kwizibini ezinabantwana.
Bachaza ngothakazelelo unxibelelwano olulula, "lwendalo" ababenalo omnye komnye kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye baziva bedanile kuba imizamo yabo emihle ngobusuku bobusuku isabashiya beziva bekude omnye komnye. Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
Ngelixa thina (kwaye ngo "thina", ndithetha yonke into kaHugh Grant rom-com phaya), sithanda ukwenza unxibelelwano lubonakale ngathi ngumtsalane womlingo, kubomi bokwenyani, unxibelelwano yinto oyenzayo. Kunye nokondla. Khulisa.
Ayibonakali nje ngomlingo kuba uhleli ujonge kwelinye ipleyiti ye-sushi enexabiso elingaphezulu.
Ukuya ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo neqabane lakho, kufuneka uyenze yenzeke.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezi, nobabini sele nizazi iindlela ezininzi zokuphucula unxibelelwano kubudlelwane bakho. Ngapha koko, mhlawumbi usebenzisa izakhono zakho zonxibelelaniso oluphezulu amaxesha ngamaxesha ngemini nabantwana bakho.
Enye indlela elula yokuvuselela ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho kukusebenzisa izakhono zobuzali okanye ingcebiso yokuba ngumzali usebenzisa yonke imihla-kodwa neqabane lakho.
Unokumangaliswa yindlela ezi zilula ‘ukunxibelelana nomntwana wakho ' Izakhono zinokunceda ekuvuseleleni imitshato kwaye zikhule ubudlelwane obomeleleyo:
Yima, umamele kwaye ukhathalele-nokuba awukhathali
Umntwana wakho ubuya ekhaya enxunguphalo efuna ukuchaza iinkcukacha zomzuzu zendlela uDebbie ayithathe ngayo ikhrayoni epinki kwaye akayifuni kwaphela ipinki kuba wayesele enekhrayoni ekhanyayo (inwebu!).
Ingaba wenza ntoni? Uyeke le uyenzayo, umamela ibali, ubuza imibuzo, uzibuze ukuba kutheni uDebbie wayeyinto enje, uyavelana neentlungu ezibuhlungu zomntwana wakho ngenxa yekhrayoni.
Ngamafutshane, ubabonisa ukuba ubakhathalele, hayi malunga nekhrayoni epinki exabisekileyo, kodwa malunga nabo namava abo. Ibaxelela ukuba babalulekile. Ingxaki kukuba, asisoloko siyiqonda into yokuba amaqabane ethu afuna into enye ukuze azive exhunyiwe.
Ungangabinomdla wokumamela iinkcukacha zeentlanganiso zabaxumi okanye iisemina zokuthengisa.
Kodwa ukuba uzibekela bucala iimvakalelo zakho okomzuzwana kwaye Nika ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo xa iqabane lakho lithetha ngento ebalulekileyo kubo, uya kulinceda lizive lithandwa.
Asinguye wonke umntu onomdla kwizinto ezifanayo, kwaye zilungile ngokugqibeleleyo. Kodwa ukunika iqabane lakho ixesha nengqwalaselo yokuthetha ngezinto ezibaluleke kubo linyathelo elinye eliya kwincoko edibeneyo.
Dlala, cinga kwaye ungazithathi nzulu
Unokuphelelwa amandla ekupheleni kosuku, kodwa uya kuthatha ixesha lokwakha indiza yeLego okanye wenze iqela leti kunye nomntwana wakho.
Abazali badlala nabantwana babo kodwa amaxesha amaninzi bagcina ixesha lokudlala labantwana kuphela. Ukudlala kulisango lovelwano, imfesane kunye nokuyila-izixhobo eziyimfuneko kunxibelelwano lokwenyani. Mhlawumbi lixesha lokudlala kunye neqabane lakho.
Bekani ixesha lokuba kunye ngaphandle kwe-ajenda ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya kuyo nayiphi na into edadayo kwisikhephe sakho, nokuba sisabelana nge-ice cream sundae okanye ukuthenga izinto zokudlala zabantu abadala kwigumbi lokulala.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe sisilingo- nokuba umyalezo obhaliweyo oshushu emini (okanye ngcono kodwa i-imeyile ye-NSFW) unokutshintsha ithoni kwaye uncede ulwalamano lwakho namandla ahlaziyiweyo kunye nokudlamka.
Fumana uvuyo kuvuyo lwabo
Unokumangaliswa kukwazi kwabantwana bakho ukuba bonwabe ngokulinganayo ngalo lonke ixesha besiva ingoma efanayo kaElmo. Into ekumangalisayo, nangakumbi, kukukwazi kwakho ukuba nochulumanco kunye nabo, ixesha le-127th ngalo mhla.
Kungenxa yokuba ngelixa ungafuna ukukrwitsha eso silo sibomvu, ebomvu, ufumana uvuyo kulonwabo lomntwana wakho.
Kuya kuba njani ukwenza okufanayo kwiqabane lakho? Ukuba nenxaxheba kwiimvakalelo nolonwabo lwabo? Ungakwenza njani oko ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo neqabane lakho?
Isenokuba yinto ebanzi ngakumbi njengokucwangcisa umhla omangalisayo kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga ukuba iqabane lakho liyalithanda umculo.
Kodwa kunokuba yinto elula njengokuthatha umzuzwana ukubona ukubengezela emehlweni abo xa bechaza ulwazelelo lwabo lwe-D & D kwaye bazivumele ukuba nibe noluvo lolo luvuyo niyaziyo ukuba baziva.
Yiba khona
Le inkulu. Amandla onke okuba ubekhona. Abantwana bayayenza ngaphandle komthungo kwaye, xa ukunye nabo, ngandlela thile uyaphumelela ukuxelela uluhlu lwezinto zengqondo ukuba zihlale phantsi okomzuzu ngelixa ubandakanyeka kumdlalo okruthayo.
Nangona kunjalo, xa amaqabane ehleli kunye ekupheleni kosuku, uluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa lubuya nempindezelo.
Zama ukuvumela ukuba uluhlu lokwenza izinto luhlale kwakhona (luyakuphila iyure yokungahoywa), beka phantsi iifowuni, ucime izikrini kwaye uzonwabele ngokwenzekayo kunye neqabane lakho ukuba wenza indawo yelungelo- ngoku kunye.
Yonke le nto inokubonakala ngathi kulula ukuyithetha kunokwenza, kodwa khumbula ukuba zezi ingcebiso yokuba ngumzali kunye nezixhobo onazo noziqhelanisayo.
Ngenjongo ethile, ukucinga okuthile kunye nemvume yokuzivumela ukuba ube kwiimvakalelo zakho, unxibelelwano olulangazelelayo kunye neqabane lakho lunokufikeleleka.
Kodwa ukuba ufuna uncedo lokufikelela kuyo, cinga ngonyango lwezibini. Lukhetho olunokukunceda utyhile nantoni na enokuthi isingele phantsi unxibelelwano lwakho.
Okwangoku, ndiza kubukela isiqendu no-Elmo ekhwele ibhayisikile yakhe enamavili amathathu ngelixa ecula ingoma yokukhwela ibhayisikile yakhe enamavili amathathu. Kwakhona.