Umxholo
- Xa kukho umahluko kwezimvo
- Izidingo zamadoda, iimfuno zabasetyhini
- Umelana kakuhle kangakanani neenkqwithela zeemvakalelo?
- Ukwenza iqabane lakho lazi ukuba uyakhathala
- Uxolelo vs. ingqumbo
Uninzi, ukuba ayizizo zonke izibini ezithandanayo, ezibuza ukuba yintoni eyenza ubudlelwane busebenze rhoqo. Nokuba kuqala nini ukuthandana, okanye xa bedibana nengxaki yabo yokuqala (okanye yamashumi amahlanu), ukuphinda baqwalasele iziseko zobudlelwane obusempilweni. Siza kukunika iindawo ezintlanu eziphambili zokujonga (ngokufanelekileyo) kunye neqabane lakho okanye ngokwakho. Ezi ziindawo ezingasebenzi kakuhle kubudlelwane obunciphayo, kwaye oko kuyahlaziywa kwaye kulungiswe kunyango lwengqondo. Zama iingcebiso zethu ukubona ukuba unokuseta umtshato wakho ubuyele kwimeko esempilweni ngakumbi kunye neyonwabisayo.
Xa kukho umahluko kwezimvo
Nangona singathanda ukukholelwa ukuba umhlaba wethu awunanjongo kwaye unemithetho ecacileyo yobukho, inyani kukuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kunaleyo. Ubuncinci ngokwengqondo. Siphila iseti yokuvela kwethu kunye namava ahluka ngokwabanye. Ngamanye amagama, konke malunga nembono. Nokuba sifana kwaye sisondele kangakanani kumaqabane ethu, kunikwe into yokuba siya kuba nezimvo ezahlukeneyo kwimicimbi emininzi.
Kodwa, kuyinyani ukuba abantu banezimvo ezahlukileyo, banamandla okunxibelelana ngezimo zabo kunye neemfuno. Kwaye ukuhlonipha ezo zabanye. Inkani yokunyanzelisa umbono wakho kuphela ichaphazela ubudlelwane, ngakumbi kwiminyaka yamva yomtshato.
Ke, endaweni yokuma umhlaba wakho nokuba ungathini, zama ukuthambisa isimo sakho sengqondo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba uvelwano nothando lukhala nge-ego.
Izidingo zamadoda, iimfuno zabasetyhini
Xa abantu ababini beqala ukudibana kwaye bethandana, bahlala benesigaba sokungazingci, ngandlela thile. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyakhumbula ukuba kwakulula kangakanani ukubeka iimfuno zeqabane lakho elitsha kuqala. Ububambe kakhulu kwixabiso labo kwaye ubanike konke okusemandleni akho ukubakholisa. Ngelishwa, njengoko ingqumbo nokungavisisani kusakha emtshatweni, ukuzimisela kwethu ukubeka iimfuno zamaqabane ethu kuqala kwehla ngokulusizi.
Inyaniso iyaxelelwa, phantse wonke umtshato ngumzabalazo wamandla.
Ngakumbi okanye kancinane ngokufihlakeleyo, emva kokuba siphumile kwinqanaba lobugqi, sifumana imvakalelo yokuba iimfuno zethu ngoku kufuneka zibe yeyona nto iphambili ekuzameni komntu wonke.
Ngokukodwa ukuba umtshato awusebenzi ngendlela ebesinethemba lokuba uza kusebenza ngayo. Ukuhlaziya ubudlelwane bakho, zama ukubuyela kwisigaba sasemva komtshato kwaye uphinde ugxile kwiimfuno zeqabane lakho.
Umelana kakuhle kangakanani neenkqwithela zeemvakalelo?
Umtshato yindawo enye apho uluhlu olubanzi lweemvakalelo luya kubonakala ngaphezulu kweminyaka oyichitha kunye. Zombini ezilungileyo nezingalunganga, ezixineneyo okanye ezinobulali, ukuya komnye okanye kwiminyhadala engaphandle. Kwaye akufuneki ucinezele iimvakalelo zakho. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela ezisempilweni nezingahambelaniyo nokubonisa imvakalelo.
Ukuba ubunomkhwa wokukhulula umsindo wakho kumgangatho weBhayibhile ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, kusenokwenzeka ukuba buphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Iqabane lakho liphele liziva lingakhuselekanga kuwe, nokuba ungathetheleleka kangakanani na. Ukwenza umtshato wakho ubengcono, funda indlela yokuqonda kunye nokunxibelelana neemvakalelo zakho ngcono.
Ukwenza iqabane lakho lazi ukuba uyakhathala
Njengoko ixesha lihamba, kuqhelekile ukuba umtshato ufane nexesha lokuthandana ngokuncipha. Nangona sonke sasikholelwa ukuba siza kuziva sithandekile ubomi bethu bonke, akunjalo ukuba izinto zisebenza njani.
Nokuba yibhayoloji eqhuba iihomoni zethu, okanye inyani engathandekiyo yobomi kunye noxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla, ngokuhamba kwexesha siye silibale ukubonisa amaqabane ethu ukuba sibakhathalele kangakanani.
Ukuba ufuna iindlela zokwenza umtshato wakho usebenze kwaye nangaphezulu koko, ungamangalisa, kuya kufuneka ujonge iindlela zokufumana (kwaye uhlale) uthandana kwakhona.
Siyazi ukuba kunokuba nzima ukucinga ngothando xa unengxaki yokungaboni ngasonye, ukubolekwa kwemali mboleko, imisebenzi kunye nokukhulisa abantwana bakho, kodwa kuya kufuneka uhlale ukubeka phambili iqabane lakho ukuba libaluleke kangakanani ebomini bakho.
Uxolelo vs. ingqumbo
Yonke imitshato ibetha amaqhuqhuva endleleni, kwaye abo baphumeleleyo ngabo bayaziyo ukubeka uxolelo nothando kuqala. Inzondo iyangena kwimitshato emininzi kwaye icothisa iziseko zayo. Endaweni yokuba uzonwabise kwaye uvumele ukukhokelwa yinzondo nobukrakra, zama ukungabi nenqala. Akululanga ukuxolela iziphoso ezincinci okanye ezinkulu, kodwa kukho indlela. Kwaye ukuyifumana sisitshixo kulwalamano olusempilweni.