Umxholo
- 1. Uza kuhamba ujikeleze
- 2. Uya kuba yingcali ekwenzeni abahlobo abatsha
- 3. Ukutshintsha kunzima kubantwana
- 4. Ukufumana umsebenzi onentsingiselo ngokwamakhondo omsebenzi kunzima kwiqabane lomkhosi
- 5. Amaxabiso oqhawulo mtshato aphezulu kwizibini zomkhosi
- 6. Uxinzelelo lomlingane wasemkhosini lahlukile kuleyo yabantu
- 7. Unemithombo elungileyo yempilo yengqondo ezandleni zakho
- 8. Ukuba ngumfazi womkhosi akufuneki ukuba kubenzima
Yonke imitshato ineengxaki zayo, ngakumbi xa abantwana befika kwaye neentsapho zikhula. Kodwa izibini ezomkhosi zinemiceli mngeni ekhethekileyo, ejongene nomsebenzi: konke ngelixa ujongana noxanduva losapho lwesiNtu.
Sithethile neqela lamaqabane omkhosi abelana ngeenzuzo kunye neengozi zokutshata nelungu lenkonzo exhobileyo.
1. Uza kuhamba ujikeleze
UCathy, otshate nelungu loMkhosi Womoya waseU.S., uyacacisa: “Intsapho yethu ishukunyiswa ngokomyinge weenyanga ezili-18 ukuya kwezi-36. Oko kuthetha ukuba elona xesha lide siye sahlala endaweni enye yiminyaka emithathu. Kwelinye icala, kulungile kuba ndiyakuthanda ukufumana imeko-bume entsha (bendililungu lomkhosi, ngokwam) kodwa njengoko usapho lwethu lukhula lukhulu, oko kuthetha ukuba kufanelekile ukuphatha xa ilixesha lokupakisha nokudlulisa. Kodwa yenza nje, kuba ngokwenene awunakukhetha lukhulu. ”
2. Uya kuba yingcali ekwenzeni abahlobo abatsha
UBrianna usixelela ukuba uthembele kwezinye iiyunithi zosapho ukwakha inethiwekhi yakhe entsha yabahlobo nje ukuba usapho lwakhe ludluliselwe kwisiseko somkhosi. Ukuba semkhosini, kukho uhlobo olwakhelwe ngaphakathi kwi "Wagon Wamkelekile". Amanye amaqabane omkhosi onke eza endlwini yakho nokutya, iintyatyambo, iziselo ezibandayo kwakamsinya nje ukuba ungene. Incoko ilula kuba sonke sinento enye esifana ngayo: sitshatile namalungu enkonzo. Ke awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze umsebenzi omninzi ukwenza ubuhlobo obutsha ixesha ngalinye ushukuma. Yinto entle leyo. Ungena ngoko nangoko kwisangqa kwaye unabantu bokukuxhasa xa ufuna, umzekelo, umntu oza kujonga abantwana bakho kuba kufuneka uye kwagqirha okanye ufuna nje ixesha lakho wedwa. ”
3. Ukutshintsha kunzima kubantwana
UJill usixelela ukuba: "Ndonwabile kukusoloko ndihambahamba, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba abantwana bam banexesha elinzima lokushiya abahlobo babo kwaye kufuneka benze abatsha rhoqo emva kweminyaka embalwa." Ewe kunjalo, kunzima kwabanye abantwana. Kuya kufuneka baziqhelanise neqela labangamaziyo kunye neqela eliqhelekileyo kwisikolo esiphakamileyo ngalo lonke ixesha usapho ludluliswa. Abanye abantwana bakwenza ngokulula oku, abanye banexesha elinzima ngakumbi. Kwaye iimpembelelo zale meko eguqukayo-abanye abantwana basemkhosini banokuya kwizikolo ezili-16 ezahlukeneyo ukusuka kwibanga lokuqala ukuya kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo- banokuziva ixesha elide ebudaleni.
4. Ukufumana umsebenzi onentsingiselo ngokwamakhondo omsebenzi kunzima kwiqabane lomkhosi
USusan, otshatele kwiColonel, uthi: " Uqhubeke wathi, "ndandingumphathi okwinqanaba eliphezulu kwinkampani ye-IT ngaphambi kokuba nditshate noLouis." “Kodwa emva kokuba sitshatile saqala ukutshintsha izikhundla zomkhosi rhoqo emva kweminyaka emibini, ndandisazi ukuba akukho nkampani iza kufuna ukundisebenzisa ngelo nqanaba. Ngubani ofuna ukutyala imali ekuqeqesheni umphathi xa esazi ukuba akazukuhlala ixesha elide? ” USusan waphinde waqeqeshwa njengomfundisi-ntsapho ukuze aqhubeke nokusebenza, kwaye ngoku ufumana umsebenzi wokufundisa abantwana beentsapho zomkhosi kwizikolo zeSebe lezoKhuselo. "Ubuncinci ndibanegalelo kwingeniso yosapho, utshilo," Kwaye ndiziva ndonwabile ngalento ndiyenzela uluntu lwam. "
5. Amaxabiso oqhawulo mtshato aphezulu kwizibini zomkhosi
Umlingane osebenzayo kulindeleke ukuba angabikho ekhaya rhoqo kunasekhaya. Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo nakowuphi na umntu obhalisileyo, uNCO, igosa eliyimvume okanye igosa elisebenza kwiyunithi yomlo. "Xa utshata ijoni, utshata uMkhosi", itsho njalo intetho. Nangona amaqabane omkhosi ekuqonda oku xa etshata nomntu amthandayo, inyani inokuba yinto eyothusayo, kwaye ezi ntsapho zibona inqanaba loqhawulo-mtshato lwe-30%.
6. Uxinzelelo lomlingane wasemkhosini lahlukile kuleyo yabantu
Iingxaki zomtshato ezinxulumene nokuthunyelwa kunye nenkonzo yasemkhosini zinokubandakanya imizabalazo enxulumene nenkonzo ebangelwe yi-PTSD, uxinzelelo okanye unxunguphalo, imiceli mngeni yokunyamekela ukuba ilungu labo lenkonzo libuya lenzakele, iimvakalelo zokuzahlula kunye nenzondo kumaqabane abo, ukungathembeki okunxulumene nokwahlukana okude, kunye ne-roller ukuguquguquka kweemvakalelo ezinxulumene nokuthunyelwa.
7. Unemithombo elungileyo yempilo yengqondo ezandleni zakho
"Umkhosi uyaluqonda uhlobo olukhethekileyo loxinzelelo olujamelene nezi ntsapho", utshilo uBrian. “Uninzi lweziseko zinabasebenzi abaxhasa ngokupheleleyo abacebisi ngemitshato kunye neengcali ezinokusinceda ukuba sisebenze kuxinzelelo, ukuziva ulilolo. Akukho mabala aqhotyoshelweyo ekusebenziseni ezi ngcali. Umkhosi ufuna siziva sonwabile kwaye sisempilweni kwaye senza konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuba sihlala sinjalo. ”
8. Ukuba ngumfazi womkhosi akufuneki ukuba kubenzima
UBrenda usixelela imfihlo yakhe yokuhlala elungelelene: “Njengomfazi wasemkhosini oneminyaka eli-18 nangaphezulu, ndinokuxelela ukuba kunzima, kodwa akunakwenzeka. Kuyabila ngokwenene ekubeni nokholo kuThixo, omnye komnye, nakumtshato wakho. Kufuneka nithembane, nxibelelane kakuhle, kwaye ungazibeki kwiimeko ezibangela ukuba kuvele izilingo. Ukuhlala uxakekile, ukuba nenjongo kunye nokugxila, kwaye ukuhlala uqhagamshele kwiinkqubo zakho zenkxaso zonke iindlela zolawulo. Ewe, uthando lwam ngomyeni wam lwalukhula qho xa ehambisa! Sizame nzima kakhulu ukunxibelelana mihla le, nokuba sisicatshulwa, ii-imeyile, imidiya yoluntu, okanye incoko yevidiyo. Sigcinane somelele kwaye noThixo wasigcina somelele, nathi! ”