Ngelixa isibhambathiso somsitho womtshato sibalulekile kwaye sifuna ingcinga kunye nokuzibophelela (ngapha koko ngamazwi kunye nenkonzo yomlomo!). Akunyanzelekanga ukuba baphithizele, okanye bangabinabuntu kuwe njengesibini. Izibhambathiso zomtshato wakho zinokuhlekisa, zibe mnandi, zithandane, zibongo, okanye zisebenze- yonke into iyahamba. Kodwa ngeli xesha singenakukuxelela ukuba wenzeni, kungamnandi kumtshato wakho wexesha elizayo ukuba into oyenzileyo ubhale kwizithembiso zakho zomtshato zikhethwe ngentsingiselo yazo-nokuba ayicacanga kwiindwendwe zakho.
Umzekelo, ukuba kwizibhambathiso zakho uthi "Ndithembisa ukungalali xa ukhetha imovie kwiNetflix" unokufumana ukuhleka kwaye ungathetha oku kwimeko yayo yokoqobo. Nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo engemva kwayo isenokuthetha enye into kuwe. Njengokuba, uthembisa ukuhlonipha ukhetho lweqabane lakho, okanye uqiniseke ukuba uyafumaneka ngengqondo kwiqabane lakho ngamaxesha apho angathanda ukuxabisa, kwaye uzive uxabisekile ukuba wenze njalo.
Ezinye zezibhambathiso zomtshato ezincinane, ezihlekisayo, zinokusebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuba nobubele nomonde omnye komnye - ngokungavumeli izinto ezincinci kubudlelwane bakho ukuba zakhele zibe yinto enkulu nengafunekiyo.
Kubomi bemihla ngemihla, eminye yemiceli mngeni yethu emikhulu kubudlelwane inokuba zizinto ezincinci, ezinjengokungahlambi izitya, ukukhetha iinzwane zakho, ukuhlala emva kwexesha rhoqo. Ukungakwazi ukwenza into enokubonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi olula kwiqabane lakho.
Nokuba loluphi uhlobo lolwalamano onalo nomntu oza kutshata naye, kuyakubakho izibhambathiso zomtshato, ukuba (nangona zibonakala ngathi ziyahlekisa, okanye izinto ezincinci) zinokwakha zide zifike kwinqanaba apho kuya kufuneka ukhumbule izithembiso zakho zomtshato, kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba uzibophelele ekwamkeleni nantoni na engaqhelekanga (kunye neempawu ezicaphukisayo) iqabane lakho elinokuba nalo.
Nazi izifungo zomtshato ezithandekayo ezi-6, ezibonisa ezi idiosyncrasies ezincinci kwaye ngamanye amaxesha eziphazamisayo-
"Ndiyathembisa ukumamela rhoqo, nokuba uyangxola"
“Ndiyathembisa ukuba ngekhe ndiyitye iilekese zakho, nokuba ndicinga ukuba uthathe ixesha elide ukuzigqobhozela”
"Ndiyafunga ukwenza ngathi ndinomdla kumdlalo wevidiyo yakho yamva nje (faka into oyithandayo)"
“Ndiyathembisa ukukuthanda, nokuba awuzukufumana nto wedwa”
"Ndiyafunga ukusebenzisa iresiphi njengesikhokelo xa ndilungisa ukutya"
"Ndiyafunga ukuthembela kuwe naxa siphambuka kuluhlu lwethu lokutya, indlela ye-GPS okanye iinjongo zobomi"
Kukwakho namaxesha ebomini apho sinokuthi sixakeke kakhulu ebomini, ngokusebenza, ukuba ngumzali, ukuzonwabisa-kwaye nokuhlala kwezi zethu iziqu zethu kunokuba sihlale kubudlelwane. La maxesha acelomngeni kubudlelwane, kwaye ahlala engunobangela wengxabano.
Nazi ezinye izibhambathiso ezibonisa lo mceli mngeni kwaye zisikhumbuza ukuba sikhumbule into esathembisa ngayo xa besenza izifungo zomtshato, nokuba iqabane lethu lisiphazamisa ngokungabikho-
“Ndiyathembisa ukukhumbula ukuba akukho namnye kuthi ofezekileyo kodwa ndizame ukuzikhumbuza ngeendlela esigqibelelene ngazo”
"Ndithembisa ukukukholelwa xa undincoma, kwaye ndisebenzisa kuphela impoxo xa kukho imfuneko"
“Ndiyakuthanda nangezi mini ndingakuthandi ngazo”
"Ndiyathembisa ukukhuthaza imfesane yakho kuba yile nto ikwenza ukuba ubonakale kwaye ubemhle"
"Ndiyathembisa ngokuwanyusa amaphupha akho kuba ngawo umphefumlo wakho uyakhanya"
"Ndenza isifungo sokuxabisa iyantlukwano zethu njengoko sinokuvumelana"
“Ndiza kuvuya kukhuphiswano lwethu oluninzi kunye nemiceli mngeni”
Okokugqibela, olunye udidi lwezibhambathiso zomtshato ezithi zifane nezithembiso ezicacileyo, zenziwe ngendlela yokuba wonke umntu ayiqonde intsingiselo yokoqobo (uthando, intlonipho, ububele kunye nombulelo).
Ngoku, ezi zithembiso azinakuba zihlekisa njengezinye, kodwa baya kuba nesiqinisekiso sokuchukumisa ezona ntliziyo zilukhuni. Kwaye iyakunceda ukukukhumbuza, ngamaxesha oswele, okanye wombulelo ukukhumbula indlela othembise ukuliphatha ngayo iqabane lakho.
Nantsi imizekelo ebalaseleyo yezi ntlobo zezibhambathiso, ezikhutshwe kwiPinterest-
“Ezi zithembiso andiziboni njengezithembiso, kodwa njengelungelo, kanye njengokuba ndibubona ubomi bam ndikunye nawe njengelungelo- hayi nje isithembiso”
"Ndizakusebenza nawe njengeqabane, ndingabinakho kodwa ndisebenza nawe njengenxalenye yento yonke"
“Ndandingakholelwa kumaqabane omphefumlo, kodwa ndilapha namhlanje ngenxa yokuba undenze ndakholelwa”
“Ndiza kuhleka nawe, kungekhona wena”
“Ndiyakuthembisa ukuba awusoze ube lusizi, kwaye awusoze ube nesithukuthezi kwaye uya kusoloko undidanisa”
“Ndiyathembisa ukukuthanda njengokuba unjalo, hayi la mntu bendicinga ukuba uza kuba nguye”
Kwaye okokugqibela, kodwa a intandokazi isibhambathiso - mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba sisondele kwinyani kwesi sifungo somtshato:
“Ndiyakuthembisa ukuba ndiyakuthanda, ndiyakuhlonipha, ndiyakuxhasa kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, qiniseka ukuba andikungxoli ngenxa yokuba ndilambile ”