Umxholo
- 1. Yenza ixesha 'lexesha elisemgangathweni'
- 2. Thintela uxinzelelo lwezezimali
- 3. Funda ukwabelana ngayo yonke into
- 4. Musa ukuvumela nabani na ukuba aphazamise umtshato wakho
- 5. Cwangcisa ulindelo olusengqiqweni
Zonke izibini ezingamaKristu zihlangabezana neengxaki kunye nemicimbi njengazo zonke izibini ezitshatileyo. Yonke imitshato ifuna uncedo oluncinci ngamanye amaxesha kodwa abaninzi bakhetha ukuzama ukusombulula iingxaki zabo bebodwa.
Kodwa ezinye izibini ziyaqonda ukuba azinakukwenza zodwa kwaye ke bafuna uncedo kumcebisi ngemitshato.
Imitshato emininzi igcinwe ngoncedo lwonyango lomtshato wamaKristu. Ngokukhokelwa ngumcebisi, abantu abatshatileyo bafumana inkxaso kunye nolwazi abaludingayo ukoyisa imiba kunye neengxaki abangakwaziyo ukuzisombulula ngokwabo.
Abacebisi ngemitshato abangamaKristu baneengcebiso ezininzi kunye neendlela ezinokunceda ukomeleza nawuphi na umtshato.
Nazi iindlela ezintlanu ezinokukunceda uphucule umtshato wakho.
1. Yenza ixesha 'lexesha elisemgangathweni'
Xa izibini ezingamaKristu zingachithi ixesha elaneleyo kunye, unxibelelwano lwazo luba sengxakini.
Kwaye oku kungakhokelela kwezinye iingxaki ezinje ngokuswela ukusondelelana, ukuthandabuza, umona nezinye ezininzi. Uninzi lweengxaki zomtshato zenzeka xa omnye okanye bobabini besibini bexakeke kakhulu ukuba bangachitha ixesha kunye.
Nokuba ungakanani na umsebenzi ekufuneka uwenzile, qiniseka ukuthatha ixesha lakho evekini lokuchitha ixesha kunye neqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka usoloko unelo thuba lokuba wedwa, nisondele omnye komnye, nigona, nincamisane kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, nithandane rhoqo.
Kananjalo, kuya kufuneka usoloko unexesha lokuthetha omnye nomnye malunga nokuba luhambe njani usuku lwakho, malunga nezinto ezincinci oziphumezileyo, ukukhathazeka kwakho kunye nantoni na onokufuna ukwabelana ngayo nabanye.
Ngokutsho kweengcali zamaKristu zokucebisa ngomtshato, ukuchitha ixesha kunye kunye kugcina ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho lomelele kwaye kukuqinisekisa nangomtshato omde nowonwabisayo.
2. Thintela uxinzelelo lwezezimali
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba izibini ziphikisane ngeengxaki zemali amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kodwa xa oku kusenzeka rhoqo kwaye iqala ukukutsala kude, kuya kubakho into ekufuneka itshintshile kwimeko yakho. Izifundo kunye nophando zibonisa ukuba imiba yemali yenye yeengxaki zomtshato eziqhelekileyo.
Kule meko, esi sibini sinokufuna unyango lomtshato wamaKristu ukuze sibafumane kwimicimbi yabo yemali. Iingcali zithi ukuphepha uxinzelelo lwezezimali, izibini ezingamaKristu kufuneka zichithe kuphela oko zinokukwazi ukufikelela kuko.
Kuya kufuneka bazame konke okusemandleni abo ukuba bangabikho kwinkcitho engeyomfuneko kwaye bangene ematyaleni amakhulu. Xa ucwangcisa uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali, iimfuno mazisoloko ziza kuqala ngaphambi kokufuna.
Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, qiniseka ukuba unokonga imali kusuku lwemvula. Xa imali icwangciswe kakuhle kwaye ilawulwa, kuya kubakho iimpikiswano ezimbalwa ngayo.
3. Funda ukwabelana ngayo yonke into
Iingxaki zikwavela xa izibini ezingamaKristu zilibale ukuba kufuneka zisebenzisane kwaye zingachasani.
Unyango lomtshato lobuKristu luyakwenza ukuba uqonde ukuba xa utshatile, anisengabo abantu ababini abahlukeneyo, kodwa iyunithi enye ekufuneka isebenze ngokubambisana ukuze uphumelele umtshato.
Bobabini indoda nomfazi mababelane ngako konke abanako. Ukudibana kunye nokuzincama kufuneka kwenziwe ukugcina imvisiswano noxolo kubudlelwane babo.
Ukuba ujongene neengxaki ekuvuleni ngokwenyani neqabane lakho, unyango lwamaqabane angamaKristu lunokunceda ukwenza oko. Ukwabelana ngayo yonke into naye nabani na, nokuba liqabane lakho, kukwenza uzive usengozini. Iingcebiso malunga nobudlelwane bobuKristu zinokukunika amandla okunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo kwaye uvule intliziyo yakho.
4. Musa ukuvumela nabani na ukuba aphazamise umtshato wakho
Xa izibini ezitshatileyo ezingamaKristu zivumela abazaala babo kunye nosapho lwabo olongezelelekileyo ukuba bangenelele kwimicimbi yabo emva koko zininzi iingxaki ezinokuvela. Olu hlobo lokuphazamiseka lolunye loxinzelelo oluqhelekileyo kwizibini ezitshatileyo kwihlabathi liphela, izifundo zibonisa.
Sukuvumela nabani na ukuba aphazamisane nezigqibo ekufuneka nizenzele zona neqabane lakho.
Nokuba umcebisi wakho uyakukucebisa ukuba uzame ukusombulula iingxaki zakho uwedwa.
IGenesis 2:24 ithi: “Yiyo loo nto indoda ishiya uyise nonina, inamathele emfazini wayo, baze babe nyama-nye.”
Ke ukuba umba uphathelene nomtshato wakho, ungamamela iingcebiso zabanye abantu, kodwa elokugqibela ilizwi kufuneka lisoloko livela kuwe neqabane lakho nodwa.
Ukuba kubonakala ngathi aninakho ukusombulula iingxaki phakathi kwenu nobabini, endaweni yokuba niphendukele kubazali basebukhweni, funa ingcebiso yamaKristu kwizibini ezitshatileyo.
Umcebisi uya kukunika ingcebiso yokwenene yomtshato wamaKristu kuba abanamdla kuwe okanye kubudlelwane bakho.
5. Cwangcisa ulindelo olusengqiqweni
Omnye umntu obulala ubudlelwane xa umntu emtshatweni engonwabanga ngendlela izinto eziyiyo. Ngokukhokelwa ngumcebisi ngemitshato, izibini ezingamaKristu ziya kwenziwa ukuba ziqonde kwaye zibone ukuba izinto abazilindeleyo kumtshato wabo ofanelekileyo ziyenzeka na okanye hayi.
Uyakwenziwa ukuba ubone ngaphaya kwento ongenayo kwaye ufunde ukuxabisa into onayo. Yinto nje yokutshintsha indlela ozijonga ngayo izinto.
Unyango lomtshato lobuKristu luya kukwenza uqonde ukuba akukho nto ifana nokuba liqabane eligqibeleleyo okanye ubomi obufezekileyo bomtshato. Kuza kuhlala kukho ubunzima kwaye kuya kuhlala kukho iziphene kumacala omabini.
Kodwa ukuba ufunda ukuxabisa iintsikelelo ezimbalwa ozifumana yonke imihla kwaye ukuba ujolisa kwizinto ezintle ezenzeka kuwo wonke umzuzu okuwo, uyakubona ukuba zizinto ezincinci ebomini ezibaluleke kakhulu.
Le yenye yezona ngcebiso zitshatileyo zomtshato ezingasayi kuba luncedo kulwalamano lwakho kuphela kodwa nakubomi bakho.
Abantu abaninzi bayasilela ukuzibona banazo kuba baxakeke zizinto ezingenaxabiso. Kungenxa yoko le nto amaKrestu atshatileyo ecebisa ngemitshato ejolise ekukhumbuzeni izibini ngendlela ubomi babo obunokuba mnandi ngayo xa bevumela uthando lulawule emtshatweni wabo.
Sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso zomtshato wamaKristu kwaye ujonge lonke utshintsho olwenzekayo kubudlelwane bakho.