Umxholo
- Ukudalwa kokuziphatha gwenxa kubudlelwane bokuthandana
- Ukuchonga indlela yokuziphatha gadalala
- Xa ilixesha lokufikelela, ndingabiza bani?
Ukuphathwa gadalala yinto engathandekiyo ebantwini. Kubekho ukutyhala kwiminyaka yakutshanje yokukhuthaza incoko evulekileyo malunga nokuba yintoni kunye neziphumo ezinokubakho kubomi bomntu. Yinkimbinkimbi kangangokuba yenza kube nzima ukuyichonga ngamanye amaxesha; iveza ngokwahlukileyo kwimeko nganye. Thelekisa umda kwaye awucacanga kuba isimilo kunye nezenzo zinokwahluka kakhulu kubudlelane ukuya kolandelayo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona indlela abaziphethe ngayo isenokwahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye, kukho izinto ezithile ezikhoyo ezinokunceda ekuchongeni nasekuqondeni ukuxhatshazwa okunokwenzeka kubudlelwane.
Ukudalwa kokuziphatha gwenxa kubudlelwane bokuthandana
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abasetyhini abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-16 nengama-24 bafumana elona zinga liphezulu lobundlobongela kumaqabane. Oku akuthethi ukuba abanye abantu besini okanye ubudala abukho emngciphekweni, kodwa indlela yokuziphatha enogonyamelo kubudlelwane ihlala inengcambu phakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 kunye ne-18.
Ukuchonga indlela yokuziphatha gadalala
Abantu abaye banamava okuziphatha gwenxa kubudlelwane babo bangoku okanye obudlulileyo banexesha elinzima ngakumbi lokuqonda ukuba iipatheni zolwalamano ezingalunganga zibukeka njani. Bahlala befumana iimpembelelo ezimfutshane kunye / okanye zexesha elide zokuphathwa gadalala kwaye mhlawumbi bazithathe njengenxalenye “yobomi obuqhelekileyo.” Kodwa kuthekani malunga nathi sijonge ngaphandle ngaphakathi? Ngaba ikhona indlela elula yokujonga ubudlelwane obungenampilo xa sibubona? Ngenxa yobume obahlukeneyo bokuziphatha gwenxa, akukho ndlela ifanelekileyo yokuqhubekekisa ukuba ingaba le nto uyibonayo iya kuthathwa njengokuxhatshazwa. Iimpawu ezibonakalayo ezilumkisayo, nangona kunjalo, zihlala kulula ukuzibona; ukuba inani lezi likhoyo, inokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukujonga ngakumbi kwaye ujonge ukuba ngaba oku kubonisa into yexesha elide kwaye inobungozi ngakumbi.
Iimpawu zokulumkisa zinokubandakanya nganye yezi okanye ezinye zokwahluka kwazo: ukoyika iqabane elithandanayo, ukuxoka kusapho kunye nabahlobo ukugubungela izenzo zokuziphatha gwenxa okanye isimilo, unonophele into ekuthethwa ngayo emntwini ukuthintela ukumenza ingqumbo / umsindo ukugxekwa okanye ukubeka phantsi ngomnye umntu rhoqo esenza konke okusemandleni ukumkholisa, eneentloni ngenjongo yakhe phambi kosapho nabahlobo, agcinwe endlwini okanye athintelwe ukuya kwiindawo zokuhlala nosapho / nabahlobo, otyholwayo Ukukopela, kunye / okanye ukwenziwa ngobuqhetseba okanye ubuxoki ukwenza uloyiko.
Xa ilixesha lokufikelela, ndingabiza bani?
Ke masithi ungumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho eliqaphela le miqondiso yokulumkisa ngokuxhatshazwa kubudlelwane obathandayo. Ingaba wenza ntoni? Okokuqala, musa ukoyika ukungenelela uze wenze ngokwemvakalelo yakho. Ukuba ujongiwe, ixhoba alinakuvuma ukuba lixhoba. Khumbula, basenokungazi ncam. Yiba nembeko xa usondela kuloo mntu kwaye umkhuthaze. Kubalulekile ukuba ixhoba lizive lixhaswa kunokuba libekw 'ityala ngezenzo zeqabane lalo. Njengommeli kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba zeziphi izibonelelo ezinikezelwa kwindawo ohlala kuyo. Uninzi luya kuba nezixhobo ezininzi ezinokufikelelwa ngamadoda, abasetyhini, okanye abantwana abaziva ngathi bakwindawo engakhuselekanga kwaye bafuna uncedo xa beshiya. Rhoqo, kukho indawo encinci yokuhlala enikezela indawo ekhuselekileyo kumaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya. Ezi ndawo zokufihla intloko sesinye sezona zixhobo zibalulekileyo njengoko zibonelela ngonxibelelwano kumaqela enkxaso, abameli bezomthetho, kunye neenkqubo zokufikelela ebantwini.Khumbula, njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ixhoba kusenokwenzeka ukuba lalilelinye ixesha elide bengazazi iingozi kunye neengozi ezibandakanyekileyo. Ngelixa kulula ukucinga ngokudibana, kuhlala kunzima ngakumbi ukuba nencoko evulekileyo nomntu omthandayo. Qiniseka ukuba ugcina inkxalabo yakho ngokujonga, unike umntu ukhetho, kwaye uphinde uphinde uzimisele ukuxhasa. Ungaze woyike ukunxibelelana nabasebenzi bexesha likaxakeka ukuba isoyikiso sobundlobongela sikhulu kakhulu kwaye ukholelwa ukuba umntu usengozini kwangoko. Yenza okusemandleni akho ngezixhobo onazo.
Nokuba ungumntu ojonge ngaphandle okanye umntu ojongene nokuphathwa gadalala, esona sixhobo sixabisekileyo sihlala siyindoda emamelayo. Iimpawu ezilumkisayo zokuphathwa gadalala kubudlelwane zibonisa isimilo esihlukumezayo esithe saphula ngokuthe ngqo ukuthembela emva kokuba sibekwe kuloo mntu kwaye kunzima kakhulu kuninzi ukuthembela komnye umntu ngokupheleleyo kwakhona. Nangona kunjalo, ukulungela ukumamela kwaye ungagwebi yenye yeendlela ezilula zokunceda umntu ophethwe gadalala. Ukwakha obo budlelwane kunye nokuvula ucango lokufumana uncedo olungaphezulu kunokuba linyathelo lokuqala lokuvumela elo xhoba ukuba lishiye isithunzi somxhaphazi wabo.