Umxholo
Nangona ubukhulu becala kungakhange kuthethwe, ulutsha luhlala lubuza imibuzo emibini ngalo lonke ixesha. “Ngaba ndiyathandwa?” Kwaye "ndingazifumanela eyam indlela?" Abazali bahlala betsaleleke ekujoliseni uninzi lwamandla abo ekuphenduleni umbuzo wesibini kunye nokungahoyi owokuqala. Kungokwemvelo ukuba ulutsha luvavanye okanye lutyhale imida ebekwe ngabazali. Xa kuvavanywa imida, kunokuba nzima ukuyikhumbula loo nto i-WHO ungumzali ubaluleke ngaphezu Intoni wenza njengomzali. Ngamanye amagama, kubalulekile ukuba singancomi ukuzixabisa kwethu kwindlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngokuba ngumzali. Ukuba siyakwenza oko, ngekhe sikwazi ukunika ngokungaguquguqukiyo impendulo efunekayo kumbuzo wokuqala.
Uninzi lolutsha luhlala lusokola kwimicimbi emithathu ephambili. Eyokuqala yile: “Ndilungile na ngenkangeleko yam?” Oku kuhambelana ngqo nokuzixabisa kwabo. Owesibini uthi, "Ngaba ndikrelekrele ngokwaneleyo okanye ndinako ukuphumelela ebomini?" Oku kuhambelana ngokuthe ngqo nengqondo yabo yobuchule. Owesithathu ngulo: "Ngaba ndiyongena kwaye ngaba oontanga bam bayandithanda?" Oku kuhambelana ngqo nemvakalelo yokuba ngowakho. Ezi ziimfuno ezintathu eziphambili zabakwishumi elivisayo.
Abazali banokuphazamiseka ekuncedeni abantwana babo baphendule le mibuzo ngokujolisa kakhulu kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo. Ndixelele abazali abaninzi kule minyaka ukuba iminyaka eli-10 ukusukela ngoku ayizukubaluleka ukuba zingaphi izitya ezimdaka ezazishiyeke esinkini okanye eminye imisebenzi yasala ingenakulungiswa. Into eya kuba yinto kukuba umntwana wakho omdala uyazi ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ukuba uyathandwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwaye unobudlelwane. Kufuneka sikhunjuzwe ukuba akukho thuba lempembelelo eqhubekayo ukuba asibugcini ubudlelwane.
Kufuneka iviwe
Kukho iimfuno ezininzi esinazo sonke kwaye ukuzifezekisa akukaze kubaluleke ngaphezu kweminyaka yethu yokufikisa. Okokuqala sisidingo sokumanyelwa. Ukuviwa akufani nokuvumelana nomntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo. Njengabazali, sihlala siziva isidingo sokulungisa ulutsha lwethu xa besabelana ngezinto esivakalelwa kukuba azibobulumko okanye ziphosakele. Ukuba oku kwenziwa rhoqo, kuyaluvala unxibelelwano. Ulutsha oluninzi (ngakumbi amakhwenkwe) alunxibelelanisi. Kunzima ukungazami ukukhupha ulwazi kubo. Kungcono ukuhlala ukhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba uyafumaneka.
Isidingo soqinisekiso
Imfuno yesibini kukungqinelwa. Oku kuyangqina into abayenzayo. Rhoqo njengabazali silinda ukungqina de babe bagqibe ngento ethile, lenza ibakala esicinga ukuba bekufanele ukuba lenze okanye lenze kanye kanye oko besikucelile. Ndikhuthaza abazali ukuba banike isiqinisekiso sokuqikelela. Ukuba ulutsha luphumelele kwelinye icandelo lomsebenzi, ke unikezele ngesiqinisekiso soko kunokuba ulinde impumelelo epheleleyo. Rhoqo, abantu ababonelela ngesiqinisekiso emntwaneni okanye kwishumi elivisayo baba ngabantu abanefuthe elikhulu. Siva amabali ngalo lonke ixesha ngendlela umqeqeshi othile, utitshala okanye umntu othile onegunya awenze umohluko omkhulu ebomini ngokuvuma.
Ufuna ukusikelelwa
Imfuno yesithathu kukusikelelwa. Ulutsha akufuneki lwenze nantoni na. Oku kukwamkelwa okungenamibandela okungafunyelwanga "ukuba ungubani." Lo ngumyalezo ongaguquguqukiyo othi "nokuba ungubani, wenza ntoni okanye ujongeka njani ndiyakuthanda kuba ungunyana okanye intombi yam." Lo myalezo awunakuthethwa kakhulu.
Isidingo sothando lomzimba
Isidingo sesine kukuba nomsa wenyama. Izifundo ezininzi zibonise ukuba emva kweminyaka emalunga nesine uninzi lwabazali luchukumisa kuphela abantwana babo xa kukho imfuneko yoko, okt ukunxiba nokukhulula, ukungena emotweni, uqeqesho. Kubaluleke kakhulu kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo. Kunokuba nzima ukubonisa uthando emzimbeni ngexesha lokufikisa ngakumbi kutata nentombi. Ingakhangeleka yahlukile kodwa isidingo sothando lomzimba asitshintshi.
Kufuneka ukhethwe
Isidingo sesihlanu kufuneka sikhethwe. Sonke sinqwenela ukukhethelwa ubudlelwane komnye umntu. Uninzi lwethu luyalukhumbula unxunguphalo lokulinda ukubona ngoluphi uhlobo esinokunyulelwa ngalo xa siqabula ikhefu. Ukukhethwa kubaluleke kakhulu kulutsha. Xa umntwana okwishumi elivisayo kunzima kakhulu ukuthanda okanye ukonwabela lelona xesha libalulekileyo lokuba bayazi ukuba ukhetha ukuba kunye nabo. Ndikhuthaza umzali ukuba achithe ixesha ngalinye kunye nabantwana bakhe rhoqo. Umzekelo obalulekileyo wokubaluleka kokukhethwa kwenzeka kumdlalo bhanyabhanya weForrest Gump. Ngosuku lokuqala lwesikolo uForrest wakhethwa nguJenny ukuba ahlale naye ebhasini emva kokuba ejikisiwe ngabo bonke abanye. Ukususela ngaloo mini, uForrest wayethandana noJenny.
Ukufezekisa ezi mfuno kunokusigcina sinxibelelana nolutsha lwethu kwaye sibancede ekuphuhliseni ukuzithemba, ubuchule kunye nokuba lilungu.